For the past 3 years iv had insensitive questions about having kids and getting pregnant and here I am finally pregnant and as I share my good news I get asked if I conceived naturally, what’s the difference ! What’s the relevance! Does it not make my pregnancy a real pregnancy.
I hope everyone’s keeping well in these times and all can resume soon enough for everyone’s journeys to carry on
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Wow !I have children and i would never say that my heart goes out to anyone who has struggled to conceive if I was you I would not even entertain someone saying that I would just dismiss it and say something along the lines of I’m having a lovely baby girl or she won’t stop kicking today then they will know it’s none of their business why does it matter ?me and a friend openly talked about egg freezing and ivf after I was having difficulty finding a partner didn’t go through with it in the end and met the man of my dreams congratulations and enjoy it x
Do they know your story? Maybe they are just inquisitive. I am assuming they must know, as can't imagine someone asking that without some background knowledge. As for it making any difference - yes it does! because this baby will be loved and cherished 1000% more then a 'run of the mill' pregnancy This little baby is your miracle! Dont let anyone spoil it for you x
Just that I’d bin trying for couple of years and about my bad experiences with past pregnancies, but at least I’m pregnant now I just had to vent yesterday didn’t want to tell the hubby so thought I’d tell all you's instead xx
Im sure they didn't mean anything by it but not to say that makes it any easier I don't think people really know what to say when it comes to this. I remember, before all this happened, that one of the questions I used to ask people is 'do you have children?' and when they answered 'no' it never crossed my mind that it might be because they couldn't. It's hidden. Since this all started, I think how I wish I had never asked that question and how it might have made people feel. Think we need to re-educate that pregnancy is not a given
Oh don’t start me off. We haven’t shared our news with anybody hardly but husband insisted on telling his horrible sister.... first sentence out of her horrible mouth.... so is that IVF then? ‘That’ as in your niece or nephew? Really makes you question if these people are even happy for you doesn’t it! Well what I would like to say to you is CONGRATULATIONS on your wonderful news xxx
Congrats! Your sister in law sounds like a bit of a cow, people are so insensitive you hope they just say these things without thinking but the odd one you know there intentions are not in the best place
I haven’t told everyone yet either and I’m now 21 weeks lockdown has bin a blessing iv skipped most of the questions and stories people love to scare you with at the beginning
That’s a new one on me!!! I can’t believe someone asked that!! How rude!! I hate to say this but even when the baby comes give it a couple of months and then you’ll get the “so are you having anymore?” Congratulations to you and ignore the idiots! Xx
I have had annoying questions too when I got pregnant 5 years ago about a range to topics. It is as if pregnancy gives others the right to make personal comments.
Since I had my son, I have had comments about having another little one. My parents know we have been having difficulties getting pregnant but they have had other family & friends asking them too. They have denied knowing the answer but I don't think anyone should ask. Mum said it was the same before she had my sister & me because they were married several years before they got pregnant. Why do people feel they have the right? Obviously nothing has changed all these years but now people add in IVF questions as if it is something to be ashamed about. It is not. We have not told many people about having IVF as I did not want the comments.
I don't like all these comments either but try not to worry about them. Enjoy being pregnant & look forward to your little one arriving. Congratulations. Xx
Urgh people can be so insensitive and annoying at times! I don’t always think some people mean it but still they should think before they speak! When we told people our news, it was the people who didn’t know our troubles that were the worst. The number of times we got asked if it was planned!! (Likely because they didn’t know our struggles and we aren’t married despite being together for 9 years). I’m not sure we will ever have another, but I can hear the comments now asking when we will have another! Have come to conclusion some people just can’t help themselves! I’m also quite sensitive to people’s opinions whereas my partner just ignores them. Chin up and try and ignore them - it’s none of their business. People will always have something to say unfortunately as are just nosy. An ivf baby is extra special! I wish you all the best and hope you and baby remain safe xxxx
Wow some people are just insensitive and rude .... congratulations .. pregnancy is pregnancy no matter what way .. enjoy this time in your life a congratulations again xxxx
Give me strength!🤯 I've told most people that were having IVF so a bit different for me but Jeezo its nobody's business! I'd be tempted to say something to make them squirm like "are you asking if we've been having sex" then laugh! Congrats on the pregnancy, sod everyone else....dont let it bother you, this is your time!!xx
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