Anyone want to share live birth success stories for over 40's? I need hope.

[Violet180]

I am currently waiting to miscarry and the only thing that is helping is reading success stories for over 40's women who have multiple ivf rounds.

I'm turning 42 in September and am devastated I am nearing the end of my fertility options.

4 fresh rounds of ivf, 2 fresh transfers and 2 frozen transfers 6 embryos transferred in total and 3 miscarriages.

I need a reason to keep trying...I need a reason to hope.

Please share with me the journey it took to get to your hard earned success story.

[Emmaxxx]

I am sorry to hear of you miscarriage, but I have a success story. I am 41 amd after 4 fresh rounds of ivf with 9 embryos in total transferred I gave birth to beautiful baby boy on 24th April. It can be done hun. Please don’t give up. Here if you ever want to talk xx

[Violet180 in reply to Emmaxxx]

Thank you for sharing. I love your story as it gives me hope.

[Debrakay1704]

I am 45 and we were very lucky to get pregnant 1st round and our baby who was born in November. xx

[Violet180 in reply to Debrakay1704]

Thanks for replying. Congratulations

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry you are miscarrying 😔 what protocols have you tried? Have you got your bloods done to check deeper? What is the cause? X

[Violet180 in reply to Hidden]

thanks. Multiple scans show the embryo just isn't developing. Only developed the yolk sac. My hcg was only 1863 at 6.5 weeks.

[Hidden]

Sorry about what your going through. I had IVF and it was successful first time at 39. I did have 3 IUIs which were all unsuccessful. Have they said what may causing the miscarriages. I think you need to investigate what maybe is causes them. Infertility is so hard and dealing with miscarriage. I had a threatened miscarriage which was stressful enough. The thing is I think fertility is down to pure luck. My mum got pregnant naturally at 45 and struggled with her weight. She is someone who never found getting pregnant easy. The strange thing is her second husband chain smoked and never wanted children and she still managed it. I don't know your previous history. Its difficult when you've finally waited meet some one to have child with and it's abit later in life. However life is full of surprises I got successfully pregnant with just one embryo. I was told I didn't have chance.

[Violet180]

my doctors don't believe there is a cause for reoccurring miscarriage other than finding a euploid embryo.

I have a good pregnancy rate per transfer.

They really want me to do pgs again but I don't really trust it. I belive there could be some misdiagnosis or some ability to self correct. All my embryos were destroyed when I did PGS for the first 2 rounds and had no Euploid.

Its really about whether I believe at 41 I have a chance of a euploid embryo.

[Hidden in reply to Violet180]

I ve heard that PGS can be wrong.

[Hidden]

I got pregnant with twins at 42. Gave birth to a boy and a girl last November.

I haven’t done it but some clinics do embryo tests... the clinic I used didn’t believe in it, but I know a couple of people who did it and they had a successful pregnancy even after a long ivf journey. Are you doing ivf privately? Worth going to a few ivf clinics open sessions where you can ask questions about your situation

[Violet180 in reply to Hidden]

I dont trust the testing. I have done it for 2 rounds of ivf and will not do it again.

Your story is encouraging though. How many rounds of ivf did you do?

[Muppetgirl]

You've got this. I started my IVF journey at 43! After the tests etc and some dodgy cells removed from my cervix I started first round Nov 2018. First round - own eggs and partners sperm ended with a chemical. I then had tests for natural killer cells. They were raised. I couldn't have the drugs to lower them so after round 2 had a drug that transplant patients have to stop rejection. After transfer I ended up in hospital with burst follicle and on morphine drip. I had a negative stick test but positive bloods 2 weeks later. Longest wait- 2 days to see if HCG levels had doubled. They had! So now I have a beautiful 4 month old boy. If you have the energy keep trying.

[Violet180]

thank you for sharing your story. I have the energy but I get scared that my fight is futile. Especially when you read of so many using donor eggs at this age.

[Hidden]

Hello

I am 43 and gave birth to Angus last july after 7 years of trying. 3 rounds with my own eggs - one abandoned due to lack of follicle response. Then I moved to donor eggs. Round one bfn - 5 months off work to de stress, get counselling and be uber fit, then 2nd round first ever bfp. Sadly ended in anembryonic pregnancy which had to be medically managed. 3rd round = Angus.

I never thought it would happen at times but I just couldn't imagine not being pregnant and not having our little baby. Don't give up. Have they given any reason for the miscarriages? It sounds horrendous what you have been through and it has taken me a while to digest what you have said and think about how to respond. Feel free to dm me if you would like to chat. I always found coming out of one failed round that having a plan for my next was the only thing that kept me going. Xx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

My issue was lack of follicles so I really didnt ever have many eggs to choose from. 1st round = 3 eggs with 1 fertilised, 2and round 2 eggs which both fertilised but both bfn, 3rd round no follicle response. That was why I had to go donor egg route. X

[Jjjjtk]

Hi Violet - Not quite at the live birth stage, but 35+ weeks at 42 (43 in October) with a very squirmy baby.

I had 5 fresh rounds of IVF and 1 frozen transfer. I had a BFP on the first round (2 embryos transferred) and had the same situation as you...had to wait to miscarry and finally needed medication for it to happen; awful experiences. Each round I had 2 embryos transferred (usually one at 3 days and one at 5 days), except for one round where I had 3 embryos transferred (unsuccessful). Twice I had chemicals. Then round 5 it worked. My doctor believed it was a matter of stats, and that eventually we'd get the right egg. I never did PGD screening, as my doc also believed that the body has a way of not continuing with non-viable pregnancies (though I did do a ton of genetic testing and amnio during the pregnancy).

You have all of our support to continue your journey, whatever you decide. But it can work for us +40s, and mine worked just before I turned 42. : ) xx

[Violet180 in reply to Jjjjtk]

Wow. Thank you for sharing, it is invaluable to me. The fact that you had 3 transferred is interesting, I have been trying to decide if this was a good idea. Yes my doctor believes that eventually we will get the right embryo too. But she also seems to believe I have an endless supply of funds.

I appreciate your words of support so much.

[Jjjjtk in reply to Violet180]

I only had 3 transferred once or twice, but that's only because 1) I would have been ok with twins and 2) the likelihood of more than one implanting (or even one!) was extremely low so my doctor wasn't worried. I would not have done it had my chances at success been higher.

As a side note, my doc was a big proponent of 2- or 3-day transfers since he felt embryos do better in a natural environment, and blastocysts at our age are harder to come by. : ) In the U.S., they often won't even transfer less than 5-day embryos...but I think mine did better indoors. : )

[Violet180 in reply to Jjjjtk]

So did you go in for a transfer on day 3 and then another transfer on day 5?

[Jjjjtk in reply to Violet180]

Yup

[SimsB]

Thank you for your question. The answers helped me too!

[SimsB]

And good luck x

[Violet180 in reply to SimsB]

thats great these stories are helping you and good luck to you too.

If I am ever lucky enough to get my baby, I will come back on this forum to provide my story and words of support to others. These women are amazing.

[Pigi in reply to Violet180]

Thank you Violet. I share same thoughts and I’m grateful for those stories. I’m 42. Had one miscarriage and gave one premature birth two years ago, baby could’t make it. Still hoping and wishing for the same miracle, as you. I think it’s still not too late. Wish you all the best🍀

[Hidden in reply to Pigi]

Just wanted to say hi and say how touched I was by your post. What some women go through is so tragic yet they keep on going and are still so thoughtful and caring.

You must be an incredible woman

Best wishes for the future x

[Hidden]

Hi Violet

Sorry for your pain and loss.

I'm 47 - no success yet but still trying.

Sending lots of positive thoughts and hugs

[Violet180 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your support. And good news that this post is 6 months old and I have managed to be successful so far with a pregnancy. 23 weeks pregnant with a girl who is passing all the tests.

Sending you positive thoughts.