HCG didn't double. In limbo until scan on Monday.

[Violet180]

My FRER tests seemed to be too light and not getting darker. I went in for blood tests at 5 wks 4 days it was 400 and then 2 days later it was only 626. The nurse basically told me to prepare myself and she was sorry for the bad news. She wants to see me on Monday for more bloods and a scan at what would be 6 weeks 3 days. I am going to go crazy in limbo and obviously I want to have hope but I know its not looking good at all. I have had 2 miscarriages, 1 in November 2019 and 1 in Jan 2020. Strangely enough this pregnancy has progressed further than my others have.

[Catlady12345]

I can’t really offer any advice except to say stay as positive as you can, as you can’t control the outcome next week, but it feels much nicer to be hopeful than already sad.

Good luck for next week, sending lots of love and positivity for you and the little bean xx

[Violet180 in reply to Catlady12345]

Thank you for your words of support.

Yeah I think its best to just go on as normal and try not to think about it too much. I dont want to wallow for 5 days.

[Hidden]

I am so sorry to read this, have been there several times too.

I hate to say it but there isn’t really an answer, you will be thinking about it every minute of the day, because it’s impossible not to. All I can say is nothing you do now will impact the outcome and nothing you have done has led to this

Really hoping it’s just a blip and you have a wonderful surprise on Monday xx

[Violet180 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Hidden I have been thinking about how you said that there's nothing I can do to change anything at this point. Its helps somewhat. Thank you for responding.

[Chowlady14]

I’m sorry to hear you are going through this again Violet. I’m 5wks 5days & been bleeding for 5 days. I’m in again today for more tests as my gut feeling is telling me my body is failing my little embryo. Nothing anybody can say will make you feel better but try to be kind to yourself. Your so strong to be going through this xxx

[Violet180 in reply to Chowlady14]

Thanks so much Chowlady14 I wish nothing but the best news for you today. I already feel pretty crazy from isolation and now this limbo. Just want to sleep and not do anything.

[Chowlady14 in reply to Violet180]

I know exactly how you feel. It’s so hard with the lockdown isn’t it. I want to just sit on my own in a dark room but my husband keeps wanting to talk about things and if I start I get upset and I hate crying in front of him so I just bottle it all up and now he thinks I’m pushing him away xxx

[Violet180 in reply to Chowlady14]

A Its so hard isn't it? Dealing with the bad news and also supporting your husband? My husband is worried about me just lying here not wanting to do anything. No energy to talk about it. But I am also worried about him because he sounds so positive....I don't want him to be crushed again.

[Chowlady14 in reply to Violet180]

That’s exactly how I feel but I think our husbands are probably as crushed as us on the inside. Don’t make the mistake I have been doing and push him away. When my husband gets home tonight I’ve made a conscious decision no matter what we are having a nice evening. I will not let this journey spoil the special thing we have xxx

[Steadman80]

Hi Violet.

I have read some ladies that have had slow rising HcG and things turn out ok. They like it to double but some clinics say they are happy with a rise of 33% and monitor. I have everything crossed for you. Try not to focus too much on the pregnancy tests if you can and try to stay as positive as you can. I’ve been there myself and I know how difficult it is. Please update us xxx

[Violet180 in reply to Steadman80]

thank you so much for the positive thoughts. I will update this thread when I get more news.

[Rainbowhope]

Hold on to hope hun. I'm thinking of you ❤❤❤

[LCharlton]

Something similar to this happened to me and sadly I did have a miscarriage - what helped me a little bit while I was waiting was knowing that either the embryo was chromosomally normal and would be fine, or it was chromosomally abnormal and would never result in a healthy baby so it was better for my body to lose it now rather than any further along. At this early stage it really is about whether the embryo is viable. There was nothing I could do either way - either there's a potential healthy baby in there and it will be ok, or there isn't and your body will naturally reject it because it wouldn't have made it. Sending hugs xxxx

[Cinderella5]

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through Violet, you've been through so much already!!💔 Sending hugs.xxx

[Violet180]

So today HCG was 1863 at 5 days later. And the scan showed a tiny sac and yolk sac but nowhere near the size it should be. I'm in limbo still. Another scan booked for 3 days time.