The title says it all really, after our third fresh cycle finished in a BFN last Nov Iโve been doing LOTS of thinking and over the last month I decided that thatโs it for us, I just canโt face a fourth round, I canโt face another โnot pregnantโ after coming up 6 years of TTC and never once seeing those 2 lines, I need to move on with my life!
I know itโs the right decision but I also know the baby announcements will always feel like a kick in the guts, I know that it will never feel like its ok because itโs not ok and itโs not fair but it is something I accept and I think thatโs half the battle!
But as well as saying goodbye, this post really was a thank you, thank you for all the help and unbelievable support Iโve received on here, over the years of being on here Iโve seen people come and go, some really happy endings and some sad, but through it all whatโs always shone out of this site is the wonderful support and for that I will always be truly grateful, so thank you and good luck to you all ๐๐๐ x x x
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I am so sorry to read this, I can't imagine how difficult this decision must have been for you. I can only say, what a warrior you are and I wish you every happiness in your future ๐๐๐
Snap made me feel the same. Such a brave person. I know this is what I dread the most...every credit to making such a hard decision xxxx โค๏ธ good luck to your future and I hope you get some enjoyment in whatever your future holds for you
Itโs so brave to make this decision and Iโm a genuine believer that everything happens for a reason. Maybe kids will enter your world in a different way or maybe you will get to have other amazing experiences that wouldnโt be possible if you have kids. I know it must be so so hard but if you have had enough you are doing the right thing by looking after yourself. Wishing you all the best in the future xx
Iโm really sad and I wish things were different for you, you are truly brave for making this decision and taking control of your life, I do hope the rest of the your journey is full of happiness xxx
Iโm so sorry that your treatment didnโt bring you a baby. I can understand the need to cease treatment & it mustโve been a very painful decision to make, It takes over your life. You sound like at peace with your decision & I wish you every happiness with your life. My mum knew a couple who tried for 10 years numerous failed IVF cycles & they gave up changed careers (which involved children ) she fell twice & had 2 boys she had both blocked Fallopian tubes & baffled the medical profession! Never say never. xxx
Thanks Jess and thanks for your support, some of us feel like we have been on here forever!! Iโm so glad it all worked out for you, but Jesus you went through the ringer getting there, best wishes for your future x x x
I have followed you for a while now, I am so sad for you that you didn't get the magic result we all want, but I am also in awe of your courage to make that decision and stick to it, its really inspiring to hear a positive post about that as its something I am avoiding at the moment myself.
Wishing you heaps of happiness in the future, and thank you for all the comments and help you have given over the past years xx
Aw thanks hunny, itโs so hard to come to a final decision and weโre all different, but for me it was for my own sanity, it feels like itโs taken over my 30โs! Iโm 40 next birthday and want a fresh start and to start living again, this journey puts your life on hold in someways, always waiting and almost wishing your life away, so now I need to start living it again! Thereโs part of me that deeply sad and I think there always will be, but right now Iโm just so relieved to be moving on with my life. I wish you all the luck in the world hunny with whatever you decide it will be the right decision for you ๐๐๐
I wish you all happiness in the world. You are a strong brave woman and you have made a really hard decision and I believe itโs the best one. We are going to do the same. I have one more try which will be our 3rd and if not we will do the same as you guys. You donโt need a baby to be happy. You will have a great life. All my love โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ Xxxxxxxxx
Thanks hunny and youโre right, you donโt need a baby to be happy, there is so much world out there to be lived! However I do wish you luck and baby dust for your third round, who knows where life will take you from here! ๐ค๐๐ค๐
With tears streaming down my face I am currently trying to make this decision and I know how heartbreaking it is and how you go back and forth trying to ensure its the right decision. There are no more words that seem right but thinking of you x
Aw thanks hunny and Iโm sorry I made you cry ๐ it is so difficult to come to that very final decision, but weโve been at this for years now and 3 rounds is as much as I want to go through so I know itโs the right choice for me. My odds are so low now that I just need to start living again! Wishing you the very best for the future ๐๐๐ x x x
Very brave decision and I'm sure very difficult. You never know once you stop actively trying it may just happen. I do hope do this for you. Enjoy your onward journey and good news you can have more holidays to yourselves and live life for yourselves. This thing takes over...finally freedom in a good way. Best of luck...still all here if you ever need a chat xxx
Hi Jonesjp, we are in the exact same situation - we had our last cycle (3rd) in February & that also failed. I have never seen a BFP either & that โnot pregnantโ I think is the hardest thing to cope with in the whole of every cycle. I accept that we wonโt be doing any more cycles & in a way we feel relieved about that, what I havenโt begun to process yet is what that actually means for us & my desperation to be a mummy, but I guess the day will come when I have to start getting my head around that. Lots of love & huge hugs to you from someone who knows just where you are โค๏ธ XX
Thanks hunny, itโs tough isnโt it, I wonder if In all the years if Iโd ever got any type of BFP it would have encouraged me to continue, but Iโll never know, after never doing so it just seems like the impossible dream! But I am looking forward to taking some control back and moving on with our lifeโs. Good luck for the future hunny, thereโs a big old world out there for us to explore ๐๐๐ x x
Thank you ladies for all your lovely messages. It was a strange thing that once Iโd finally decided it was like a massive weight lifted off my shoulders, I thought Iโd be distraught, but I wasnโt and think I was ready to accept thatโs how life is going to be. Iโll never forget something a counsellor once said to me ( it wasnโt a fertility councillor but one from RNIB as they gave me some sessions when I went from being sight impaired to registered blind) she said itโs like your waiting for this one big thing to happen, yet it wonโt your already living it, and she was right and it is the same for so many situations in life, there is this massive fear Iโve had of being childless, yet I already am and I am already living that life and itโs pretty good! I have an amazing husband, two beautiful fur babies a job I like, a lovely home and life is good, being in fertile will never be ok and itโs certainly not fair, but I have accepted that will be our life and thatโs ok. I wish all you ladies all the luck in the world, however your journeys end up ๐๐๐๐
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