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Time to say good bye to you all - cheers to 2018 😘

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Hi everyone,

I hope you are all doing ok on this rainy Friday morning. I hope people who are testing this morning get their BFP, that the ladies who are having EC today all go swimmingly and what ever Point anyone is at that you are remaining stong and positive.

I’ve been watching a lot of your stories and I have to hand it to you all and say your all amazing!!

Some may remember me some may not but unfortunately me and my fiancée have split up.

Back in Feb I had my failed ivf and then I found out in June the arsehole was having an affair with some one I work with!! I tried to move forward because he was blaming the ivf and how we were growing apart and we had lost the spark (which can happen with ivf) so I gave him a second chance. But I got my head in gear and when I came into some money a few months ago he changed and I just suddenly thought no enough is enough ..... As the only way we would conceive would be icsi which as a lot of you know is not bloody cheap.

All of it came to ahead and I thought I can’t do this anymore I can’t trust him and for me when trust is broken then as far as I’m concerned so is the relationship! 6 yrs down the drain.

I need someone who respects me and loves me and certainly doesn’t go elsewhere when the times get tough!! I’m all good now tho I’m ready for my new start in 2018!!

So I just wanted to wish all you beautiful ladies the very best of luck getting your BFP!! And don’t ever give up no matter how hard it gets, talk to your partners and make sure they don’t feel left out because I think that’s where I went wrong I made it a lot about me lol. I’m sorry for the long winded post today. Sending massive love and hugs to you all and thank you to all of you who kept me sane through out my ivf 💖 xxxx

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Busybee88

Wishing you so many best wishes for 2018 and beyond. You’re strong and amazing too, and don’t forget it! x

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emma-jane-30 in reply toBusybee88

Thank you lovely I wish you all the best too xx

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MD123

All the best xx

Sounds like your very strong and have had some tough decisions to make, but good for you doing what’s best for you. Wishing you every happiness and hoping you meet someone more deserving who makes you truly happy xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply to

Thank you lovely, it’s certainly been a difficult year and not easy! I hope you are well tho xxx

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vic77

you are such a strong fabulous lady and I wish you all the live and happiness in the world and we are all always here if you return but I hope in some ways you don't and you find love and a baby naturally. ..much love xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply tovic77

Aww your comment just brought a tear to my eye, coming off this sight is the end of it all really, I had to deal with the ivf clinic which is just the finalisation of it all. I hope you are doing ok hunni and I wish you all the live and happiness right back at you xxxx

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vic77 in reply toemma-jane-30

don't be upset..this is an exciting new chapter for you xxx

You may have done things wrong but a man cheating = an arse in my book so well done for moving on from him. I have every confidence that there is love, happiness and a family in your future xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toLizzielizzielizzie

Thank you so much lovely, I definitely think the same, just took me a little longer to actually actbin it haha. But I just hope my happy ever after is out there xxx

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply toemma-jane-30

He will be. I didn’t meet my husband until I was 33 but he was worth the wait- he’s brilliant xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toLizzielizzielizzie

Oh that gives me hope as I’m 31 now, and just the thought of having to start all over again xxx

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply toemma-jane-30

My brother also didn’t meet his partner till he was 33 and she’s also brilliant. I think it’s easier to make good choices in your thirties and once you meet the right person it all moves much quicker than it did in your 20s because you just know yourselves so much better. You will be fine, I just know it xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toLizzielizzielizzie

Thank you Hun, well I’ve just seen you are due to start you 3rd go I want to wish you all the best they say 3rd time lucky 😘 nows your time xxx

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vic77 in reply toemma-jane-30

I didn't meet my fab hubby till 35 so good things do come to those who wait..you will find my right out there I am sure xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply tovic77

Thank you Hun, I’m a great believe in everything happens for a reason so I’m just going to enjoy being me first and see what happenes xxx

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Emma04 in reply toemma-jane-30

Didn’t meet my lovely husband until I was 33 and I’m very glad I did ! Good luck and lots of best wishes for you future xx

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply toLizzielizzielizzie

To be clear - you probably haven’t done things wrong, even though you might feel like you have... he definitely did things wrong. Read my message back and thought it sounded like I was saying you’d done things wrong rather than just reflecting back your own phrase xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toLizzielizzielizzie

No Hun I completely understood what you meant, and you are completely correct. Xxx

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Laura3101

Aww Emma I hope you find all the happiness you deserve & more!! On to bigger and better things in the new year & no more arseholes. I want to wish you all the luck in the world for the future & I hope all your dreams come true. Xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toLaura3101

Oh goodness me you are all so kind and will really miss you all, thank you for you kind comment, I really hope I get my family that I’ve dreamed of. But I wish you also all the best too xxx

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Laura3101 in reply toemma-jane-30

Thank you, I remember speaking with you privately 7 months ago now & now I have less than 3 weeks till my due date! Believe in yourself & I am positive you will get all you wish for and more xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toLaura3101

Yes I remember chatting privately with you too and can’t thank you enough as I’ve said above for helping me through my ivf and keeping me sane lol.

I can’t believe you only have 3 wks to go!! I hope your laubour isn’t too stressful for you Hun. And I wish you and your family an amazing future building memories xxx

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Manesp

Hi Emma-Jane-30!

You are amazing and never forget that! Good luck with your journey all the best for 2018 xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toManesp

Thank you same goes to you too xx

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Krushby89

Welldone for being brave and walking away! He doesn't deserve you, and something better is waiting around the corner for you ! Merry Christmas and HAPPY NEW YEAR!! Bring on 2018 haha x x x

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emma-jane-30 in reply toKrushby89

Awww thank you lovely that’s really kind and happy Christmas and new year to you too xxx

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Cinderella5

You've been incredibly brave making the decision that enough is enough and ditching the cheating loser! It might feel hard starting out again on your own in the dating scene but hopefully you will find your special one and will have no need to ever be back on the site! Wishing you all the luck in the world to find your love and family that you so deserve!xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toCinderella5

Thank you so much lovely lady, I really hope I do get my forever wanted family, and I wish you all the best in your future too xxx

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Cinderella5 in reply toemma-jane-30

Im sure you will & thank you too!!xx

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tiger-cub

Dear u r fabulous strong woman . We are all gonna miss u . But I wish you find d love and respect u deserve in ur life and maybe never have to come back here like a friend of mine recently had . Happy 2018

Xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply totiger-cub

Awww thank you for your comment, and how lovely to hear about your friend, i hope I do get my happy ever after xxx

Love and hugs to you too. All the very best for the future. Xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply to

Thank you hunni, and you too, I’m so sorry to hear your recent news, and I have everything crossed that you will get your happy ever after and the beautiful baby you deserve 😘😘 xxx

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Thank you. I'm struggling at the moment. I know I need time to grieve.

I just hoped there might be a happy ending to all the crap I've had this year. It just wasn't meant to be.

Next year can't come soon enough so I can move forward.

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emma-jane-30 in reply to

Oh Hun it’s so awful, but I hope 2018 is your year 😘 stay strong tho lovely, and let your self grieve. If you want to exchange numbers I’m more than happy to xxx

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Aw thank you I'd like that x

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emma-jane-30 in reply to

I will pm you my number xxx

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Gingergirl17

Wishing you all the best in 2018! I hope its your year xx

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Becky179

Ah I wish you all the best for your future & I hope 2018 is a wonderful one for you. Xx

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Sherry07

Best of luck for 2018 :) xx

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Gurty123

It may be a goodbye from here my darling but we will never say goodbye and will be lifelong friends and that is only because of this forum! Love you millions and I’ll always be here for you through whatever you may need to go through ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ My superstar bestie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toGurty123

If only there was a love button for this!! That’s one think I need to thank this sight for and that’s finding a best mate in you, we’ve been in holiday together we’ve shared failed ivfs together and most of all you’ve helped me through my break up!! Love you millions and we will get our happy ever afters xxxxxxxxx

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Blondyboo

wishing you a fabulous 2018 xx

All the best miss x

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JB1988

I didn't want to read and run, I have only recently joined so didn't follow your story but I just wanted to say that you sound like such a strong and brave lady! You have had some tough choices to make but it sounds like for the best. GL for the future and finding someone who loves and respects you the way you deserve to be! xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toJB1988

That’s really kind of you to take the time to comment. It’s certainly not been easy but this forum is absolutely amazing and if you have just joined then all I can say is you arenin good hands with everyone in here. I wish you all the best for your journey my love xxx

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JB1988 in reply toemma-jane-30

No problem - just nice to see you seem in a happy place and lets hope 2018 is a better year for you.

Thank you for your comments too xx

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Amanda86

Oh Emma I’m so sorry to hear that, what an arseh*le!!!!

You deserve so much better and I’m glad you’ve found the strength to move on. I hope 2018 brings you so much happiness.

Your a beautiful girl and it won’t take long for you to find someone who deserves your love and treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

Take care xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toAmanda86

Aww bless you thank you Hun, it’s definantly been hard but I’ve had great support. I hope you are getting through your pregnancy ok as I know you’ve had a hard time of it lately, but just think with everything you have been through, you will get to meet the little cutie soon 😘 take care lovely xxxx

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Amanda86 in reply toemma-jane-30

Thank you 😘 xxx

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Fredaflintstone

Sorry to hear you’re fiancé was a twit! You are better off without as you’ve recognised. Wishing you all the very next for 2018 with lots of love and happiness xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toFredaflintstone

Thank you, I wish you all the happiness too xxx

You are such an amazing woman, u deserve more than that. Hopefully 2018 will bring u what u wish for so long, as u well deserved it!!!! Xx💐

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emma-jane-30 in reply to

Oh bless you thank ou hun, how are you getting on? Xxx

in reply toemma-jane-30

I am keeping well, already 20 weeks, we are halfway through...thank u for being here for me when I needed xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply to

Blimey o Riley!! 20 weeks already, that’s flying by!! And you don’t have to thank me, I was happy I could help as it’s all so daunting. Have you found out what your having? Xxx

in reply toemma-jane-30

Yes it’s a boy hun xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply to

Awww lovely. Well I hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and little man has a safe arrival xxx

in reply toemma-jane-30

Thank u emma....i wish u all the best xxx

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bec_83

Sending you massive hugs - so sorry you've had to go through that, but you sound like an amazing, strong and caring person, and you need someone who will have your back, no matter what! Hope 2018 brings you much love xxxxxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply tobec_83

Thank you lovely, that’s a really nice of you to say, I don’t want to blow my own trumpet but I have a lot of love and fun to give and I need that bk!

I hope what ever stage ou are at you have your hapoy ever after 😘 xxx

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E_05

Wishing you so much luck for 2018, your clearly a very brave lady who has made tough decisions. Hope you have a lovely Christmas xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toE_05

Thank you so much for your kind words I hope you have a lovely Christmas too xxx

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misswinky34

Good for you!! 💪 ❤️❤️❤️

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Kyell2

I am a true believer that everything happens to get you to the place that you are meant to be. Clearly your fiancée was not the one for you and you are incredibly brave to have made that decision and put yourself first.

Good luck in 2018 and in finding Mr Right when you are ready...until then keep enjoying the champagne 😊 xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toKyell2

Thank you lovely that’s such a lovely message, I’m definitely enjoying the champagne lol!! I hope your journey is going well xxx

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Jude6

Lovely words from a lovely lady! These things happen and make us stronger, all the best for 2018 it’s time to put you first now xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toJude6

Aww thank you very much lovely. Yes I’ve certainly put myself first which I never normally do and it definitely feels good lol. I hope your journey is going ok xxx

Oh dear what a horrible thing to go through especially while TTC.what a jerk.you sound like you are coping ok.you are so brave and thats so inspiring. All the best for the next year and also with starting a familiar. I hope you meet someone amazing and supportive through everything. Thank you for sharing your ttc story with us. Take care of yourself

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emma-jane-30 in reply to

Thank you lovely, it was my pleasure sharing my story I thank everyone on here getting me through it. I hope you are well xxx

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cls37

Hope that 2018 is going to be your year to meet someone who deserves you! He clearly didn’t.... been cheated on is the worst!!!! You will come out of this stronger. Wishing you lots of happiness xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply tocls37

Thank you lovely, I can’t wait for 2018 to begin!! I wish you all the luck and happiness xxx

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Beebeestar

Hi Emma, so glad to see you!! I’m sorry to hear about your story but boy are you so strong to make such a hard decision and move forward.

I wish you all the best, you have a great spirit and I just know things are only going to get better!

So sad to see you go, you’ve been a great contribution to this forum.

Here’s to a wonderful new 2018!!

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emma-jane-30 in reply toBeebeestar

Aww that’s such lovely words, I am gutted to be leaving you all, but will always remember you guys as we did our journeys together.

I wish you all the best with your journey and that you get your beautiful baby that you so truly deserve xxx

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Suzannah1985

Hi Emma,

What a tough year you have had, but I really admire you for making such a brave decision.

All the very best for the future and thanks for being there for me earlier in the year. Here is to a much better 2018. Xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toSuzannah1985

Thank you very much lovely, and you don’t ever have to say thank you because we helped each other you were also amazing to me too.

Just keep on fighting your way through as hard as it is and I really hope that you too also get your happy ever after 😘 xxx

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7AVA

Well, if this is a picture of you then you won’t be long single, I’m sure someone will snap you up! But be careful to hold out for a good’un - I’m sure you will after this experience. I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you but I wish you every happiness in the future. Ps you are still very young! I remember thinking it was getting too late at 31 and I was old but now I look back and think how young I was! Do all the things you want to do now while you’re single and have fun! Xxxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply to7AVA

God I wish there was a “love” button lol thank you for your kind words, yes this is a pic of me, and I’ve had some attention but I’m not rushing into anything as I just want me time to gain my confidence bk. but I’m getting there, I’d like to wish you all the best in your journey xxx

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Chimpy2505

Wishing you lots of love & happiness in the future, I hope that 2018 is a happy positive year for you, lots of love xxx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toChimpy2505

Thank you so much love and hugs right bk at you xxx

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TTCs

What a strong woman you are! Wishing you an abundance of happiness for 2018 & here's to finding a partner that will show you the respect you deserve! Lots of love xx

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emma-jane-30 in reply toTTCs

Thank you Hun I wish you a brilliant 2018 and all the luck for your journey xxxx

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Gigi2018

Dear Emma

Your message is very inspiring and positive in many way!

You are brave and strong woman. Wish you all the best for the future.

Xx

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lily96

It happened some time when you are not too sure about your life, what actually you want, Try to be normal My brother also didn't meet his partner till he was 39 and she’s also brilliant and she loves him alot. I think it’s easier to make good choices in your thirties and once you meet the right person. So just focus what you want.

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Alyssa123

Hello ladies.hope you doing great work.and soon have good news just like me.I got a BFP (big fat positive (pregnancy test)) at 10 days before my missed period I would be very concerned about it being a tubal (ectopic) pregnancy.I use First Response Early Result with first-morning urine starting at 7 DPO (days past ovulation).

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Sarahbbb

Hello emma-jane-30!!! You are looking upset. I am feeling bad for you. It’s not an easy job that you have done. Most important at what age or what level of your mentality you have seen too many hardships and troubles. Life had taught you an amazing lesson and you got experience. You are too much strong and brave and hope for the best for you in the future. May your 2018 brings happiness and lot of joys for you. My prayers and best wishes are with you. At any turn of your life never get disappointed and hopeless. Just remember then Hopelessness is a sin and now you are brave enough to cope with it. Thank you for sharing your story with us. It’s really a good deed to guide others through your experience by narrating your story.

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PriscillaDouglas

I know it's late but yeah! Wish you all the best for this year! Stay blessed! I hope 2k18 brings what you want. Sending you a lot of love! Your post was pretty strong! :)

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Louhanlon

Good luck wish you all. The best . Stay strong happiness is out there I didn’t meet my husband until I was 26weve been together 5 years u seem a wonderful girl we’ve been trying for 2 and a half years our injections for ivf start next week

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Louhanlon

Happiness and a new life is out there . It will happen I will find a fabulous man and have a beautiful baby xxx

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Fatooli28

Big huge hug, I had an almost same experience 8 years ago Witt my X... never give up. I do wish nd hope to see you back one day 🙏😘😘😘😘😘

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XxjustmexX

Wishing you all the best xxx

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