Failed Fresh transfer /chemical pregnancy

Hi lovely ladies/support group!

As you might have seen one of my posts i have been struggling with getting my head around the faint positives i got the last few days. Today 16dp5dt im afraid the tests was nothing but the faintest shadow so im trowing the towel in the ring and calling it a day. Just waiting for the call back from the nurse to tell me to stop pessaries.

It was very painful to see a positive after 3 years ttc and then to see it faint out. I felt very very hurt.

Your stories helped and gave me hope though so all i can think of when can i try again

I have one average rated frostie 🐥 stored so thinking to do the FET straight away.

This is my first Fet so im going to do reasearch now. Any information and or experience is welcome as always.

Thank you all and i hope you having a better day than me❤️

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Mimisami. So sorry to hear this. I do hope you've got lots of support around you just now. I think you've got the right idea in going ahead and having a FET to put that little one back inside you where he/she belongs. Thinking of you. Diane

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❤️❤️ ❤️ thank you Diane. I appreciate this

[Florencenightingale]

So sorry for your news hun. I hope you have some good support around you at home. Good luck with your upcoming FET, I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for you xxx

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Thank you so much Florence for all your kind words ❤️❤️

[Picalilli99]

So sorry this has happened. It’s so heartbreaking finally getting your bfp then losing it so quickly again (we have been there too). Wishing you the best of luck with your remaining frostie xxx

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Thank you so much for the wishes. Praying for us all ❤️ xxxxx

[Rainbowhope]

I'm so sorry that this didn't work out. I remember feeling devastated when I had a Chemical pregnancy. But what I would recommend is getting your progestrone levels tested via a blood test the day before your transfer. You might not be absorbing progestrone properly and they might have to increase your dose. That was the game changer for me. I had 5 transfers -nothing. When I decided to increase my own progestrone I got pregnant. There is a lot of info on this forum about it. Have a read. X

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Thank you so much for this Rainbowhope. I hope they listen if i ask for it. I will have a look on this topic. ❤️

[Rainbowhope in reply to Hidden]

Please do. I had a lot of resistance from my clinic. They kept saying the amount of progestrone in your blood isn't reflective of what's in your uterus. But I took the advice of others on the forum and insisted. I decided to increase my progestrone because I had loads of medication left over from my previous rounds. I took matters into y own hands and it paid off.

[Hidden in reply to Rainbowhope]

Oh my ! Thats so brave of you. I thought they do bloods before fet (i read that online) but if they dont will ask for it x God give me your strength. Im soo happy it worked for you. Every time i hear a success story i get so hopefull ❤️

[Twiglet2]

Hi mimisami I’m so sorry to hear that, it’s so cruel isn’t it! I felt utterly deflated for a week or so when it happened to me but just over a month later I’m looking at it much more positively as the furthest we’ve ever gotten. I’m about to start a natural FET (no meds at all) as I felt the constructed one with down reg had a lot of side effects personally for me but generally FET is easier than a fresh cycle and sounds like good next step. Have you had a bleed yet from the chemical? Xx

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Hi Twiglet, you are right the positive of all this is that we saw that second line! How ever painful it was to lose it again. Kept thinking why? Ppl test once and they confirm pregnancy and thats it they go on having a wonderful journey. Why this cruelty?! I think its very hard !

I stopped progesterone in the morning. Got my bleed round 18.00. The nurse said she cant help me with this bleed but told me to ring clinic when i had my second bleed. Im frustrated bcz my cycles are irregular and had my longest cycle ever of 64 days before starting my icsi round. Did u wait one additional bleed ? Im have no idea on what protocol they going to put me. I was on short protocol during EC. Please share your thoughts with me x ❤️

[Twiglet2 in reply to Hidden]

I know I even did the digital one at 15dpt and saw the words too 😢 just so cruel isn’t it! But honestly it has now given me a new wave of hope after years of trying. Yeah I’m just finishing my next bleed just now (took around 5 weeks after the chemical pregnancy bleed to bleed again) but my post chemical bleed ended with really bad cramps and passing some pregnancy tissue so it felt right to wait until my body (and cervix) had healed a little. I’m now booked in for the 17th of March to start blood tests to check for ovulation. That’s all they do for the natural cycle!!. Watch to see when I ovulate then pop the embryo in 5 days later! Apparently success rates are the same but I think you need regular cycles. Mine were all over the place last year with all the meds and some surgery but seem to have settled now. If you can take the next month to heal physically and emotionally and plan your next steps it’s probably for the best (although I am impatient so I know easier said then done 😂) hopefully we can turn this rotten situation into a success story for us both 🤗 xxx

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Thanks for this info. You are right patience is out of the window now we got so close after 3 years of POAS ☺️. I agree on the cramping of the bleed. It feels slightly different and is so far very brown. Ohhh i hope so much that you get it right this time and that it sticks. I really think we deserve that break ❤️ praying for all of us. Goodluck xxx