Looking for hope after donor disappointment

[HemBella]

Hello ladies

Hope you’re having a good Saturday.

Well I had my EC yesterday and they collected 10 eggs! The last 24 hours have been nail biting and I got the call that I was waiting, to find out how many fertilised.

And I’m devastated 😢. Only one fertilised egg out of 10. They’ve checked my eggs, and the remaining 9 were all healthy and mature and ready for fertilization. They’ve checked the sperm and basically that’s where the problem is- the motility dropped off drastically and most of the sperm died overnight.

The heartbreaking thing is that this is donor sperm which I waited 1.5 years for. I had 3 unsuccessful IUIs last year with the same sperm, and now my first round of IVF. And it seems all along that the problem is with the sperm! Which was sourced by my clinic.

Trying to focus on the positives... it seems my eggs are healthy.... and of course I have one fertilised egg which will hopefully develop into an embryo. We are planning a transfer on Monday,D3. The plan had been a freeze all cycle but obviously there is nothing to freeze. 😢

So rather than risk it, we will hopefully transfer the one embryo on Monday. Hope my womb is ok

Has anyone had success stories with one fresh transfer when there’s only been one? I’m hanging on to the thought that it only takes one good egg....

There will be an investigation into the donor sperm, but it doesn’t take away from the pain right now. And I’m just trying to focus on the positive.

Love to you all xx

[Hidden]

Seems like we are living parallel worlds - I got 12 eggs but only 2 fertilised normally and they didn’t really tell us why. If they last we will have both put back on Monday. Sending you a huge hug and with you every step of the way - this journey is so hard isn’t it xx

[HemBella in reply to Hidden]

It really is Daisy1245. Let’s hope Monday is a good transfer day for both of us xxx

[CC2018]

Hopefully this one will be successful but if not, I would seriously be asking the clinic to be funding you another round and maybe this time make it icsi so the sperm is put directly into the egg so you have more chance of success. Really hope it works out for you xx

[HemBella in reply to CC2018]

Thank you CC2018. I’m definitely going to follow up with the clinic, you just don’t expect that donor sperm will fail. I’m hoping this one that I have will work. But either way I need answers. Who knows, maybe my 3 IUIs last year would have had a different outcome too. I’m on a rollercoaster between heartache and anger!

[Kyell2]

Oh no. I’m so sorry, I remember having a similar level of devastation when this happened to me.

We also used donor sperm, all looked good, they collected 10 eggs and only 2 fertilised. No apparent reason why, the sperm was still alive next morning, they just didn’t fertilise.

I was kicking myself for not insisting on ICSI.

One didn’t make it past day 3...but the other made it to be a 5A and I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant with my one survivor.

I remember the stress and the worry about only having one, but it does only take one.

🤞 🤞 for Monday transfer and that it goes well for you. Keep the faith xx