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So the nurse just confirmed what I expected on Monday, hormone levels have dropped, miscarried on Sunday/Monday. Obviously disappointed and generally just feeling shit. Such a hard process but thank you so much to everyone who’s commented and helped me it truly is appreciated.

Not sure where to go from here, still have 2 frozen embies but just don’t know whether to try again straight away or have a break. Lots to think about xx

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amandac84

I’m so so sorry to hear this. So devastating. Sending u love at a difficult time xx

So sorry to read this, life is so unfair sometimes. I know some people feel better 'doing something' and getting on with another cycle, but others take some time out to just gather their thoughts. I have tried both. You heal pretty quickly physically its the mental stuff that takes a while. Sending you hugs xx

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ttcemmie

Really sorry to hear this, lovely. I was not expecting this. This is awful awful news. Really sending all the love your way. Don't need to make any rash decisions, but do whatever is right for you. Thinking of you and sending you love and hugs. xxx

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KiboXX

I’m so sorry Jam-master, you have every right to feel shitty. I’m gutted it wasn’t a better outcome for you. As Daisy said, the physical side heals pretty quickly but it took me a while to mentally get to good place. Only you’ll know when you feel ready to try again but to have two Frosties is amazing so try and focus on that positive xxx

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Jam-master

Thanks so much everyone, you guys are great. I do feel lucky I’ve got 2 Frosties left and I’m starting to feel a bit more myself again. I’m still pretty young too at 34 so I think we’ll take the next few weeks to just live life and think about what to do next xx

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Picalilli99 in reply to Jam-master

So sorry to hear this. It really is devastating. Glad you are starting to feel a little better and are focusing on your 2 frosties and taking a little break. I think that’s a great idea. Like others have said the mental/emotional side of things can take a while. I found some days I thought I was doing fine then out of nowhere something could absolutely floor me. I think that can be pretty common, so try not to worry if you have bad days. Make sure you take care of each other lovely and give yourself time to heal. Big hugs xxx

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Jam-master in reply to Picalilli99

Thanks so much, such a nice message. It’s still all a bit surreal really, like, did that even happen? It’s so weird! I’m just taking it easy like I say, but we’ll get there, I’m sure of it xx

I’m so sorry to hear this my lovely I really am - thinking of you at this time and just do what is right for you xxxx always here if you need to chat 😘😘😘❤️❤️❤️

Sorry to hear that.

It's gutting isn't it when you have set your heart on something only to have it end up in nothing as well!

Hey Jam-master

I went through the exact same thing as you beginning of February.

It’s really hard and anything anyone says doesn’t help trust me.

I would say do whatever you feel is right. If you want to try again do it, if you want to take a break then do that.

Personally my self I just wanted to try again straight away so I’m going to be doing another transfer in April.

I hope you rest up and look after your self. It’s never going to get easy but you can get thru this ❤️ x

Oh god I’m so sorry to hear this, bless you. I hope with a bit of time you find the strength to go forward with your remaining embryos, your time will definitely come. Hard to keep faith at the moment I’m sure but your luck will turn around xxx thinking of you 💕

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RhinoCat

Sending hugs . Tough times 🥺😢

Only you will know if your heart and head need a break or not to make sure you have enough energy to deal with the process all again 😘🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💐💐💐💐💖💖💖💖💖💖

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Jam-master

Thanks everyone, I think we’re going to take a month or so off and try again the end of April/beginning of may. I will pop on every so often just to check in, I wish you all so much luck in your journeys xxx

Take care of yourself love

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