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6dp5t... 2nd round and feeling a little lonely

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I haven’t posted much this time round.. as i think I’m on the path of keeping distracted and trying not to focus too much. This is my second transfer, and heading into week 2 of the tww I’m losing patience and faith. Last time I went back to work in the 2nd week but this time I’m doing everything different we did down reg before FET, Accupuncture I’m off work for 2-3 weeks (allowing time to digest results too!) my job is so stressful as is my husbands and it really impacted our mental state last time so we promised to make big changes.

I’ve been positive and good frame of mind but it’s dwindling quickly. I really don’t want to test early last day I tested 7dp5dt and it was positive then faded so I had a chemical. I don’t want the same to happen again. OTD is Sunday... so we will do a hpt as the clinic is closed so would have a blood test Monday if needed.

Sorry I’m not sure what the purpose of this is other to offload, and to be honest admit I’m feeling a little lonely right now.

Xx

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Wishing you lots of luck. It is the longest wait and I tried to keep busy every time as it’s so hard to think of anything else. What you’re feeling is normal and you have done well to take time off work. Try a new series on Netflix or a jigsaw puzzle. I read magazines and books to make the time pass. Try to hold off testing till Sunday. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you xx

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amandac84 in reply to Georgie17

Thank you lovely. Xx

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ttcemmie

Offload away! This can be a lonely and isolating journey, but we're here for you! Awesome that you've taken time off. I'm planning on doing this in my next round - some of the 2ww and some time to process the results. I just try and remind myself that emotions are transient and that positivity will come back. Try and hold off on the testing! Lots of love. xxx

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amandac84 in reply to ttcemmie

Thank you that makes me feel better xx

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recidwen

Hey Amanda. Thinking of you over here. For me, the 2ww is the hardest part. I find it impossible to stay calm and not test early. You have done amazingly to get this far already. I think when I got to where you are last time, I was in despair too and I thought to myself: 'ok, how do I want the next few days to go, do I want to barely scrape through or thrive'? That really changed my mindset. I got started on a creative project I had been meaning to do, cleared our my whole wardrobe, cooked some lush food, listened to podcasts, and netflix binged when I felt tired. It actually ended up being pretty lush. Feel free to send me a DM if you want any support, or want to rant, or symptom spot. It can be so isolating! xxxx

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amandac84 in reply to recidwen

Thank you so much that’s so helpful and such a good mindset I wilL try that.. I can feel myself dwindling into despair so will pick my head up and focus on thriving. Appreciate your help xxx

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recidwen in reply to amandac84

Yeeeesss. Easier said than done for sure but a little reset, daily or even bloody hourly towards the end is totally necessary. xxxxx

Stay strong and dont test before sunday ❤ Taking time off work sounds like a really good idea. However you then get time to think and overthink. Try to keep your mind busy. I've just had ET and I'm off for the next 2 weeks as I have a stressful job too. Netflix is going to be my best friend. I've been told comedies are the way forward. Give me a message if you want to chat. And good luck xx

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amandac84 in reply to Florencenightingale

Thank you lovely. And good lucky to you too. Wishing you all the best xx

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Leesara

Stay strong and hold off testing if you can. Always always always easier said than done but keep occupied: walks, lunches out, meet with friends, do odd jobs, sending you lots of hope and positivity xx

Stay strong and don’t test early as you will cause yourself more stress xx you have got this lovely 😊

Hi

You sound just like me. I. On my 2 we and last time I went in to work my second week. I haven't posted on here since my last cycle due to my mental health. I had a chemical and was testing last time and it really affected both my husbands and my own mental health as we thought we were pregnant.

I have been really positive until yesterday I woke up feeling really negative and somewhat emotional. I feel ok today. Just putting it down to my hormones.

I am only day 3 post 5 day transfer but this time it was a really healthy blastocyst and actually started to hatch. We also managed to freeze 2 so this time was 100 better than the last cycle. We had ICSI this time.

I really hope you have the best news and don't feel lonely drop me a message if you want to talk. I know how you feel as we have told nobody this time apart from my work and parents I slipped and told.my best friend but we decided not to tell anyone due to the heartache last time.

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amandac84 in reply to

Thank you so much for your reply Emma and I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough ride too. Feel free to reach out too if you want to chat, I really appreciate the offer. It’s such a rollercoaster isn’t it each day emotions up and down and it’s hard to know what to put it down too. Keep strong and I am really wishing you all the best xx

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Cinderella5

Its so hard to keep sane and positive in the 2ww! Just wanted to wish you loads for luck for test day!!

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amandac84 in reply to Cinderella5

Thank you my lovely xx

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