Feeling empty

[Kezzy1]

After the second FET was unsuccessful, on test day I was gutted but held it all in and felt like I was coping with the disappointment really well.

5 days on and still not getting decent sleeps and now just feel like I dont wanna be around anyone with a real feeling of emptiness.

How does everyone pick themselves up after a negative result

[Sayusayme]

Hi dear

just got my beta hcg test report today and it's negative for pregnancy ,my second fet too.

But this time I don't feel so much pain like first fet but just upset that I invested so much money and emotions and time .

I din't cry at all this time don't know why guess have become numb etc

But I felt sort of relieved that am out all injection n tablets ...which was making my body weak n painful.....sense of freedom

Don't know just mixed feelings

And when I see anyone pregnant ,I just wonder how it feels to be a mother......

It's just so mix thoughts...but will try again next time after two bleeds...

Am sorry dear for you...I don't know what you feeling now...but only thing I can say is that we will have to move on with this emptiness and pain forward again in life...

and try again after two bleed...listen to this song ...cry for today my dear

youtu.be/jghF18G3GX4(Not working as expected?)

[Kezzy1 in reply to Sayusayme]

Thank you, sorry you had a negative result too.

I thought it was weird that I had no tears after I found out, I've definitely made up for that today though.

[Hidden]

Oh lovely I am so sorry to hear about this and how you are feeling.

I totally get where you are coming from, and from my experience in the next few days its likely to all come to a head and you will have a day where you are just beside yourself.

I have had quite a few disappointments along this journey and very much adopted the same method as you and just stiff upper lip and held myself together, was very practical about everything and didn't cry. I became really isolated and didn't want to talk or be around anyone.

It wasn't until I had a good cry and raged a bit and shouted and yelled and got bitter and twisted about it all I could actually think clearly and start accepting what had happened and try and think about moving on. I also had some counselling, which didn't fix me - but did reassure me that everything I was feeling was totally normal and completely acceptable AND more importantly completely justified and life was very unfair and very sh&t.

Take some time and you will gradually get your head together again. My only advice is don't rush into another round just because you feel like you should be... because I fooled myself after a few upsetting incidents that getting back to IVF was the only thing to do 'because I was doing something proactive and in control' and it really didnt go well and I really wasn't ready and actually needed a break.

Sending a huge hug xx

[Kezzy1 in reply to Hidden]

I had counselling last time around and this time when she called me I was empty but coping ok but today I just feel really low and had loads of tears.

[ttcemmie]

Sorry to hear this. A negative result is a grief and you have to give yourself time to deal with those emotions. It always helps to remember things you do like to do - like walks, listening to music etc. and slowly build yourself back up in to the world, but completely on your own timeline - don't feel like you need to be "better" by any specific time. If it continues and you're worried, then of course go to your GP, but for now allow yourself the space to be sad. Sending you hugs and love. xxx