Sorry I feel like I’m on a rant mission this week

[Boo718]

So 2 years doing ivf and the following has happened.

Sister in law June 2018

2 best friends June 2018 feb 2020

Cousin July 2019

Sister jan 2019

All have babies or just about too. I’ve seen and followed 5 pregnancies there’s not been 1 day in the 2 years that someone’s not been pregnant. Then today a friend called to say she is due June 2020.

I am delighted for these people but honestly give me a bloody break. I am fed up of the sight of pregnant people. I don’t give a shit what buggy your thinking of buying or your tired from lack of sleep. I’m sorry I’m not interested in your scan pic or the baby shower. Let’s get the water proof mascara out for another baby present shopping trip coz I love to walk round baby shops picking the perfect present for your little one. I’m sorry that I’m not coooing over the baby or overly excited that they rolled over. I’m sorry that I don’t have baby wipes in my handbag coz u forgot yours ... wait if I dig deeper in my bag there might be a spare nappy in there too coz I use them to blow my bloody nose!!!

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

That’s better hope your all having a good day 🤣🤣

[PurplePiggie]

Oh my god, so with you on alllllll of this!!! It's just so relentless isn't it! Definitely better to rant away and get it out of your system 👍 x

[ttcemmie]

Ugh - everyone one else having babies.

Kidding - so happy for your friends and family. But still....... rather it was you/us!

[Italy300618]

Rant away!! Feel very similar to be honest! Hope you're ok lovely xxx

[Greyeverything]

Yep!! Let it all out!! We have all been there 😘

[Chasing123]

I’m so in your boat! Feel free to rant! It’s just so bloody unfair! Some of the people close to me weren’t even trying for babies! Just have to try and keep our positivity up sending love xx

[3005]

You rant away, we all need a good rant now and again... here’s mine

I’ve been trying for 4 years now and I’ve had 2 very close family members pregnant around me for the last year while I’ve had 3 rounds of IVF it’s been great fun. It’s not their fault I am struggling to have a baby but like you say it’s bloody hard constantly hearing them complain about something to do with their pregnancy and let’s face it I’m jealous that I can’t join in.

Bring on Christmas with them both cooing over their babies and bellies while I cry quietly into my mulled wine. 😒

Oooosh that’s my rant done lol 😂

[LKT1]

This is definitely one of the hardest part of having fertility issues...the world still goes on. Also ‘when are you planning on having kids?’ Ffs! It’s really hard sending hugs!xx

[Shirazlover2013]

I feel it too. There was a 6mth period where I had 10 friends announce pregnancies 😩 it’s just shite. And I work in a female dominated company so there’s always someone pregnant in the office, I’m a team leader and there was 18mths of someone on my team being pregnant incl the women who sat right next to me!! I had literally farewelled one on mat leave only for the subsequent day to be told about the next. No respite or getting away from it. I feel like it’s in my face all the time.

[amyw_15]

Rant away! I felt like this for a good while! My sister in law was first then 5 of my friends! I didn’t think I’d ever learn to cope with it but I did! Our time will come 🥰🥰 hope you’re ok xxx

[Duardo19]

I can totally relate to this! My sister in law and I found out we were both pregnant with our first babies this time last year ( mine through ICSI after 2 years ttc). We were due 2 days apart (Aug 2019) and it was all very exciting. Except that unfortunately my pregnancy ended when we discovered it was in my right tube at 6 weeks and 5 days. 5 weeks after I lost the baby my best friend told me she was due that week too. The week they were born was the hardest of my life. That is on top of the 7 other friends who sensitively let me know that they were also expecting. I guess we are just at that time in life where people are having babies but it does feel like a kick in the gut when not only are people pregnant all around you but it seems impossible to join them. I wish for everyone who is going through these struggles the outcomes they deserve and the strength to smile when it seems the world is against you xx

[Lavender96]

Most of us on here can definitely relate to this and there are not many places we can let these frustrations out so you rant away as much as you like!!

Unfortunately most of us are at an age where all our friends are also trying for babies and for me I constantly feel like people are taking over me!! A close friend of mine, who attended my wedding single, has now got married this year and just announced she’s having a ‘honeymoon baby’ (the actual phrase she used to tell me 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄). Unfortunately many women who are lucky enough to get pregnant quickly seem to have no understanding of how hard infertility is and can’t get their heads around how upsetting it is to hear about their ‘amazingly easy pregnancy’. Some friends have been amazingly supportive and sensitive and I find I can now happily spend time with them and there babies. But some really haven’t!! I’ve certainly learned who my better friends are whilst going through this xx

[FluffyPink]

How are you doing now?? Your post made me laugh out loud and was a welcome relief 😂 Thinking of you and hope you are okay.

My sister (only sibling) is pregnant for the second time during our 3.5 year fertility journey, now due in March 2020. They got pregnant with their first on honeymoon, apparently using an app I had recommended months earlier!

I feel sad for the damage my fertility journey has done to our relationship. The only way I can cope with the grief of it all is to keep my distance from her, but we are both feeling it. I do hope in time that we can repair things yet I’m conscious that we won’t get these years back. It’s the best I can do just now, however, so I’m hoping she can understand and that some day things will be different.

This wasn’t of our choosing and we’d like things to be different - I suppose we all have to be kind to ourselves. xxx