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Sorry for the rant but I’m losing the will.

Ivf1. 3dt bfn 1 embryo

Ivf2 embryos stopped growing on day 1

Ivf 3 embryos made it to day 5 none good to transfer

Ivf 4 2 embryos frozen

Ivf 5 FET one of the above embryos BFN

One lonely embryo left. I’ve honestly given up.

May aswell Chuck the last one in the sea coz it’s got more chance implanting in a dead fish!!!

2 years, thousands of pounds, hundreds of injections, constipation, tears moodiness and for what .... absolutely naf all. Pass me the wine!!!

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Yazlinda

My heart goes out to you. Don't give up hope. That last one remaining could be the one. Sending you lots of hugs. Fingers crossed for you. Xxxx

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amandac84

I don’t know what to say but just big hugs and strength your way xxx

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MiskyB

My cousin had 3 rounds of ivf, went abroad twice for egg harvesting all failed. Then started taking clomid and got pregnant within 3 month. She really read around the subject and pushed for the clomid. There are other options than ivf it's worth looking into. Best of luck xx

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HollyT7

Don't give up on your little Frostie!!! Mine is currently nice and comfy in my tummy! It can happen!! Xxx

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Picalilli99

I’m sorry that you are feeling so fed up. But I totally get it! I think it gets harder and harder the more rounds you have without success. Rant away and enjoy the wine I say! But then remind yourself that are a total trooper. You must be to have picked yourself up and kept going after each of those setbacks. Please don’t give up on your last little frostie. You’ve gone through so much to make it. Sending you massive hugs and strength (for when you are ready) to go again - then we’ll all have everything crossed for you that it’s a little sticky one xxxx

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Afrohair

I’m so sorry love I’ll pray this one makes it my heart goes out to you

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CBOO1

This is exactly how I feel!! Heartbroken, pissed off, in sh*t loads of debt, with a bruised tummy & seriously irritated bits which I can only assume is from those damn pessaries!! X

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Chasing123

I so know you what you mean. It’s beyond frustrating and you just want to cry. If it helps you are not alone. I’m sending all my positive thoughts your way hun. We can keep doing this and the next one might be it!

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Blondyboo

Ivf1 nhs my eggs got 1 egg didn’t even fertilise.

Ivf2 abroad DE 4 embryos transferred chemical pregnancy

Ivf3 abroad DE 3 embryos transferred BFN

Ivf4 abroad DE 3 embryos transferred BFP - my son 😍

Out of 10 embryos put in me I got 1 baby - don’t give up hope keep trying xx

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staaa88

I had to delete a certain celebrity insta account last night. She was complaining about being pregnant. Then I read this, I’m so sorry you’re struggling, I really hope you get the outcome you’re hoping for. You still have that little embryo left 🤞🏻🤞🏻Xxx

I am so sorry to hear your experiences. I totally understand how fed up you are. You are a fighter and don't give up! This embryo is still waiting for you!!! Lots of luck and good vibes to you!!! You can do this!

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Liz22

Massive hug to you - allow yourself to feel frustrated and fed up - but like others have said don’t give up on your frostie. The whole process is so hard but it isn’t the end of your journey yet - fingers crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞🤞

The odds were stacked against me but got my rainbow baby in the end. If you aren’t already then take vitamin D supplement xx

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sadievalentie

Hi! How are you? I hope you are feeling better. I can understand what you are going through. It's not easy to deal with so many failed attempts. But if you don't cope with it, you will never be able to move forward. You need to do that in order to try again. What if IVF is not working out for you? You can go for IVF with donor eggs or Surrogacy. There are lot of other options through which you can conceive. So don't think like this is the end for you. I tried for 10 years straight and then I was able to become a mother. Good things take time. So be patient. Take care. Good luck. Bye!

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Alyssa123

Hi! I hope you are doing well. I am so sorry for what you are going through. So many failed cycles. Maybe you should try something else, Donor eggs or Surrogacy. I don't think the eggs you are trying with are of good quality. Also changing clinics can also change the results for you. There are lot of things you can do to make it work. But it depends on the reason behind your failures. I hope this helps. Stay blessed. Take care of yourself. Good luck. Bye!

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LorrieWalden

Hi there! How are you hon? I am sorry for what you have been through. I feel so bad for you. So many IVFs and even one of them didn't get you a BFP. There are 3 reasons why this treatment is not working out for you. The first reason is that the treatment is not suitable for your body. The second reason is your eggs are not good enough and you need donor eggs to make it work. And the last reason can be that the clinic you are visiting is just not good enough. So try to make those three changes and see if it works. I am sure it will bring a change in your results. Best of luck. I will pray for you. Goodbye!

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Crista240411

I'm so sorry ! Of course you feel devastated... just try to regroup and think of what exactly you want...

In case it helps I'll share with you my story. After 5 icsi fresh cycles (as after every cycle there was nothing worth freezing) and 1 BFP that resulted in miscarriage at 13 wks..... and spending thousands of pounds .... i've decided that all I wanted was a healthy baby

So as our last ever try, we are now going to the Czech republic for an embryo transfer. The cost is 1/3 of what it would be in the UK, from what I've read from others the care is very good, but more importantly the frozen embryos are of an excellent quality and from young donors. I'm done with insisting that my eggs and hubby's sperm( bith at 43 years old) can give us our precious gift.

Good luck !

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