My partner and I met when he was 38 and I was 39. I’m now 41 and time is running out.
We TTC naturally for a year but my irregular cycles made it impossible. We have tried a couple of rounds of letrozole which worked to prompt ovulation and then didn’t. Now on first cycle of clomid. My fertility specialist had given us a less that 10% chance of conception via ovulation induction but thinks I am a good candidate for IVF due to high egg count (pcos) and we would have better odds that route.
Both of us said we wouldn’t go down the IVF path when we started TTC 18 months ago. He is still not keen for a range of reasons non of which are inflexible. Faced with the possible end of the road I am still super scared (I was anti due to the invasive treatment) but worried I will regret it if I don’t give it a shot.
He has said ‘if you want to do it I’ll do it’ which feels as bad to me as him saying he doesn’t want to do it at all as I feel like we are not in it together. We are fighting over it a bit which is not like us and I feel we are now on different pages with what to do next. He had also been travelling for work over the last month so has been arms length from the whole process while I have been buried under thinking about it + going through all the treatment on my own.
Any advice would be appreciated!