BFN 😪

[Littlepeax]

Blood test confirmed BFN this morning on my first attempt. Harder than I thought it would be, feel like I'm grieving - is this normal? 😔

[Keepingfaith85]

Oh so sorry to hear this Littlepeax. This is my first cycle too and I had my blood test this morning and don't get results till later this evening. I'm trying to prepare myself for bad news as I know it's unlikely to work first time but I've still built it all up in my head and not sure how I will cope. Sending you a huge hug xxx

[Littlepeax in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Thank you so much ♥️ Huge good luck to you, for every negative there is a positive. Let me know how you get on, fingers crossed for you 💫 xxx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Littlepeax]

You are a lovely person Littlepeax 😘 all good wishes to you going forwards xx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Keepingfaith85]

BFN for me too 😪Xx

[Littlepeax in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Ohh I'm so sorry ♥️♥️♥️ it really is a horrible pain, I totally understand xxx hope your ok? I've been crying so much but good to let it out xxx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Littlepeax]

I'm not normally much of a crier but can't seem to stop at the moment. I think you are right though that's it good to get it out. We go through so much and it's horrible not to have good news at the end of it all xxxx

[Littlepeax in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Yes exactly, especially when everyone says keep positive. So you try to and think as if you are pregnant and that there is a good chance it will work. Hope you've got someone to talk to, keep strong xxx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Littlepeax]

Yes, I really did think I was in with a chance because it was a 4AA blastocyst and I felt really different because of the medication... so tired all the time, emotional, hungry and last 2 days feeling queezy. I knew it was most likely to be all the hormones but all the signs were looking so good. I even POAS just now because it feels so weird just to stop the meds, I was worried they might be wrong... obviously BFN but at least I don't feel weird about stopping the meds. I'm gonna have a nice hot bath later and just look after myself. Hope you are okay xxx

[Littlepeax in reply to Keepingfaith85]

I've missed the hot baths. That is a really good grade, mine was a A/B. Do you have any in the freezer? I had cramps to start with and after they stopped suddenly I was like oh no ..

So hard to tell with symptoms especially with all the medication 😔

I'm ok thank you, my husband has been so great ♥️ it's so hard, but it will make us stronger xxx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Littlepeax]

Ahh that's nice about your husband, mine has been lovely too!

We are lucky & have 4 more blastocysts in the freezer of varying quality so 🤞🤞one of those sticks. How about you? Do you know what next steps are? Did they say when to expect your period? I'm dreading that 😔

[Littlepeax in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Aww that's good, we have 3 in freezer 🌈 I actually came on my period yesterday, although I thought it was spotting as was only small. But started more today which just makes me extra emotional. And it's very painful too as I have endo. I have an appt with a doc next Friday for next steps. But they did say usually wait two cycles before trying again so everything can calm down. Glad your hubby is supportive xxx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Littlepeax]

Aww that's even worse for you then lovely. At least you get it out of the way! I had mild OHSS so had a freeze all and had to wait 2 cycles so it's been a bit of a wait. It all happens very quickly with the FET though and much easier than all the injections and less scans etc. Use this time to really look after yourself and do all the things you can't do when pregnant.

Good to hear you still have 3 more 😊 It will happen for you and for me too hopefully xxx

[Littlepeax in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Aww so more waiting for you 🙄 but exactly bit of time to relax and do the things you cant before you get preg. Yeah lucky we have some in freezer, the injections weren't great.

Thanks so much, yes we both have to stay positive and keep looking forwards - onwards and upwards. Keep in contact. Hope you're ok too. Here if you need a chat ♥️

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Littlepeax]

You have been a real help to me today. Always here if you need to chat too and definitely keep in touch X

[Kat9lives]

Aww I'm sorry to hear this lovely. It's totally normal to feel like this. You've invested so much time into this, it's hard to deal with the disappointment. Trust me it will get better. The first cycle is always treated by docs as a "practice run" because they dont know how your body will react. The next cycle(s), they have built a picture of what doses /protocols work best. To get a BFP first time round is really really lucky. The main thing is not to blame yourself and to remind yourself that you've done all you can, it ultimately comes down to luck, whether the embryo will implant. Sending you big hugs xxx

[Littlepeax in reply to Kat9lives]

Thank you so much ♥️ really means alot. Just seen you have got your BFP, huge congratulations to you 💫 so amazing and really makes me feel more positive seeing good news like this xxx

[Dolly8]

Yes it’s normal darling. This news sucks. But the good news is you will soon find the inner strength to continue. Wishing all the best xxx

[Littlepeax in reply to Dolly8]

Thank you Dolly ♥️💫 means alot

[Sunshineraye]

Sorry to hear this. It’s completely normal to grieve, I took 3 week off work after because I just felt so depressed and deflated. Take time for yourself and when your ready try and again. After I started to feel better I went for it straight away. X

[Littlepeax in reply to Sunshineraye]

Thank you so much ♥️ it is so hard, cant stop crying. But will just make me stronger I'm sure. Hope you're doing well now xxx

[Coral86]

I knn no ow how you feel really is so hard mine failed recently too just started to feel better and go for the next round so many emotions you go through it’s so gutting but hang on in there xx

[Littlepeax in reply to Coral86]

Thank you so much Coral ♥️ hope you're doing well now xxx

[Coral86 in reply to Littlepeax]

Thank you yes def getting there keeping busy is the key xxx

[Manu16]

I’m so sorry, it is all very difficult and I’ve found the whole process extremely tough. You need to make sure you look after yourself and don’t lose hope. X

[Littlepeax in reply to Manu16]

Thank you so much Manu ♥️ it is so tough xxx cant give up 🙂💫

[ChiGi]

My heart goes out to you, as I got my first bfN on Friday and felt gutted. I grieved all weekend. Please be kind to yourself and hang in there Xx

[Littlepeax in reply to ChiGi]

Thank you so much ♥️ So sorry for your BFN, it is so horrible. Alot harder than I could have ever imagined. I felt like I've been so positive and strong up until this point xxx we just have to keep going 🙂

[Picalilli99]

So sorry it was a BFN. I understand how devastating it is (unfortunately we’ve had many). It is such an intense process I think it is totally normal (and in fact important) to grieve. Take time to be kind to yourself and keep believing lovely xxxx

[Littlepeax in reply to Picalilli99]

Thank you so much ♥️ I've just read your tough journey so far. I hope everything changes for you and this one works 💫💫💫

[Picalilli99 in reply to Littlepeax]

Thanks that’s very lovely of you. Take care xxx

[Shirazlover2013]

I’m sorry you got a BFN, it’s absolutely normal to feel grief, it’s real so don’t be hard on yourself for feeling this way. We enter these cycles with such hope and if it doesn’t work out we’re grieving the loss of that dream. First time success is the exception rather than the rule in the ivf world. There’s a lot of BFNs going around it seems at the moment so you’re not alone, and there’s unfortunately plenty of us here who are multiple BFNs in (I’m at 3 so far). It’s rough as guts but one day at a time we plod forwards until it hurts just a little less. Look after yourself xx

[Littlepeax in reply to Shirazlover2013]

Thank you so much, people have been a great support on here ♥️ I'm so private about this so this website really helps xxx

[Kyell2]

I’m so sorry. Sending lots of hugs your way xx

[Littlepeax in reply to Kyell2]

Thank you ♥️

[kitscat]

Yes it’s very normal. I felt the same after my first failed IVF. I am 33 with endometriosis. Take care of yourself now. I arranged a follow up appointment quickly after so that we could have a plan in place. Take care xxx

[Littlepeax in reply to kitscat]

Thank you so much, will do 🤗 xxx

[Love4spitz]

I’m sorry you going through this but the grief, it’s normal. I’ve just had my 2nd BFN.

I feel better after a couple of days, once I am back in my normal routine ... I hope you feel the same. Now and again I have a few tears at random.. I find watching some comedies just helps take my mind of it.. Good Luck for the future x

[Littlepeax in reply to Love4spitz]

Thank you for your kind message ♥️ I feel very similar to you ... try to act normal and move on but suddenly burst into tears which is hard when you're at work 🤦‍♀️

So so sorry for your 2nd BFN 😔 really hope you're ok. I really never thought I would feel this sad, I have been so positive throughout but it really does hit you hard xxx

P.s yes I like to watch only fools and horses to make me smile lol x

[Love4spitz in reply to Littlepeax]

I’m ok thanks, I usually cry when no one is looking 😂 . I’ve been at the gym this morning and helping my husband with his work.

As long as you are busy!

I’ve gone through most of Netflix the ranch is quite nice to watch if you have it.

I hope your second attempt will be a success. In my case I hope it’s third time lucky! X

[Littlepeax in reply to Love4spitz]

Haha oh defo me too! Ahh ok will have a look, yes i have Netflix. Working out defo helps, lifts your mood. I'm going to go for a run tonight 🙂

Thank you, good luck with your 3rd try. Keep in contact let me know how you get on xxx

[Rebecca2384]

I’m right here with you 🙁 I never realised it would be this mentally hard. If you want to talk DM me. I may not have much answer wise but I’m here for you if you want to get things off your chest x

[Littlepeax in reply to Rebecca2384]

Thank you so much ♥️ such a lovely message .. so sorry about your BFN hope you're ok too. It's very hard to take xxx