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Its all over :(

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Hi ladies,

Sadly my viability scan today confirmed my fears that my pregnancy didn't develop.

We are heartbroken but plan to keep trying, the worst part is the not knowing but I know you all totally understand how that feels xx

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Noah1981

Awwh I’m gutted for you darling 😢😢 stay strong xx

in reply to Noah1981

Thankyou Noah,hope your ok xx

Lowamh profile image
Lowamh

Oh Claire I’m so sorry x

in reply to Lowamh

Thank you,this journey is so tough xx

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Gueritarubia

Damn! Sorry to hear 😢

in reply to Gueritarubia

Thankyou xx

Aww no I can’t believe this has happened to you again I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. My fertility dr agreed to refer us to recurrent miscarriage clinic if we were to suffer a second loss we were lucky not to but I did take prednisone & progesterone pessaries from a positive test I didn’t wait until i was bleeding like last time. Apologies if you’ve tried this I’m sure it made a difference.

Be kind to yourselves & give yourselves time to re coup & come back fighting. ❤️❤️❤️ xoxo

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Thanks Jess, I've been on 20mg of Predisinone for the last couple of mths along with Intralipids due to an autoimmune issue and 20mg of progesterone. Looks like it was a chemical pregnancy so not sure if they would do any tests?? Ive had a MMC (and possible unconfirmed chemical through trying naturally but wasn't confirmed) and then this one,will see what my clinic say in Czech Republic when they open Monday.

Im trying to stay strong but with 2 new babies on my side and my oh's sis due Nov its really tough xx

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everhopeful83

I’m so sorry to read this, sending you strength at this really terrible time ❤️xx

in reply to everhopeful83

Thankyou, we go on to fight another day xx

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everhopeful83 in reply to

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2-shades-of-hope

I’m so sorry to hear this Claire xx

in reply to 2-shades-of-hope

Thank you,its such a tough journey xx

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akpenev3

Hi Clairenix, It is a sad feeling indeed, one we can relate to 7 times over but don't give up. Be strong and hopefully, we will all be celebrating. Best of luck hun xxxx

in reply to akpenev3

I'm so sorry you have had to go.through 7 rounds,it never gets easier does it but we keep fighting xx

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HopeTTC18

Oh, I’m devastated to hear this news. What happened? Do you think it was a chemical? Did your symptoms not progress? Hugs for you xx

in reply to HopeTTC18

It was a chemical,had no symptoms,was feeling so.tired,sore,heavy boobs but after experiencing a MMC was feeling very anxious about this one xx

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Core

So sorry to read this 😢 xx

in reply to Core

Thank you,its good to have your support xx

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Angelguide1982

Bless your heart

in reply to Angelguide1982

Thank you so much for your message,means a lot xx

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Lou7744

I’m so so sorry to read this. This journey is so bloomin unfair at times. Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

in reply to Lou7744

Thank you Lou,its so hard for all of us but it's good to know we are here for each other xx

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crisps88

I am so so sorry for you. You must be absolutely heart broken, the most painful feeling in the world and I am so sorry you’re going through this. So devastating and I’m sending all my thoughts and hugs to you after getting this far. X x x x

in reply to crisps88

Thank you so much, it's so.tough but we go to fight another day xx

Oh Claire, I'm so sorry to hear this XXX

in reply to

Thank you,I know this journey is so.tough for all of us but we fight on xx

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Novice_knitter

Really sorry to read this, hope your clinic are able to give you some answers xxx

in reply to Novice_knitter

Thankyou my Consultant did say if this cycle didn't work to try a new donor so will see if that works xx

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Novice_knitter in reply to

I’m glad you’re continuing - good luck with finding another xxx

Oh no I’m so so sorry to hear this, take some time, look after yourselves xx

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Thank you, im having a weekend of doing all the things ive given up and then Monday will start again with a fresh attitude xx

I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. It's so soul destroying isn't it?

in reply to

It is such a hard journey but we have to.keep the faith xx

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Dreamingofbaby

So sorry for this hun. So heart breaking. Not deserved. Def keep trying. Xx

in reply to Dreamingofbaby

Thankyou, we are going to keep trying so just got to pray we will have more luck next time round xx

Thank you,we are definitely going to keep fighting xx

Oh god I’m so sorry to read this, I really don’t understand how life can be so unfair. Sending you hugs xx

in reply to

It's just such a rollercoaster isn't it,I'm going to be 42 next month so I can't hang around too long before starting our next cycle xx

in reply to

If it’s any consolation I am 42 so I totally understand the pressure, I am already planning our next cycle and it’s OTD tomorrow (heavy bleeding since 10dp3dt). One of the nurses told me I didn’t have time for self pity and I had to just keep going and keep spending the money and I would get there. It felt a little harsh but it is my new mantra xx

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So sorry that your transfer wasn't successful, harsh but true and to be honest its always gearing up for the next one that keeps me going, I've provisionally booked accommodation for Oct to hopefully start a new round, just waiting for my Consultant to come back from annual leave. When will you be planning yours? Xx

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Good plan, I am just waiting for clinic to phone me back and confirm follow up appt. I will either start again September or October.. we are thinking about a holiday in October which would mess up a September cycle so may leave it a month - trying to weigh up pros and cons of ASAP versus holiday and head space! Keep in touch x

Reading this (and status like this) always makes me cry! I’m so sorry. You are stronger than you know. Take time for yourself and try again when you are ready. Thinking of you cxxc

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Thanks Pandora, I'm not ready to give up yet but at times it just feels exhausting! Xxx

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Scarlett13

It breaks my heart to read this. Ivf is the harshest snakes and ladders game ever invented, but I know you’re strong and will keep rolling that dice and moving up those ladders, despite the snakey set backs, and if you keep trying and keep strong you’ll finally make it to the finish line xxx

in reply to Scarlett13

Thanks Scarlett, I know you have had your fair share of heartache to get to this point, I just have to take the positive that I've had 2 BFP's so hopefully will have more luck in our nxt round xxx

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Scarlett13 in reply to

Yes got to stay positive and keep going xxx

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Kama41

I’m so sorry to hear this I really understand your pain. I’m 42 in January so having the same dilemma how soon to try again or even if we do. We have no frozen so need to start all over again. Stay strong. Thinking of you. X

in reply to Kama41

Hi Kama41,really sorry to hear you are going through the same thing, I feel like I want to leave it a little bit longer next time but feel that I don't have the luxury of time, we have used all of our frosties now to so will be starting again from scratch with a new donor,i'm hoping to go in Oct. Has your consultant discussed any changes to your treatment plan? X

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Cinderella5

Awww claire I'm so sorry, I've just seen this!! Massive virtual hugs to you both. It's so shit when our Hope's are built up with that positive test. Look after yourselves and hold onto each other tightly!!xxxx

in reply to Cinderella5

Thankyou Cinders, I've been feeling a whole range of emotions as I know you will be able to relate to, today I feel angry that my body is working against me and worried that what I thought was going to be our answers in the high dose steroids and intralipids hasn't worked so other than changing donor not sure what else there is to do. My oh has been really good and has said we just have to keep trying.

How are you doing? xxx

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Cinderella5 in reply to

I'm doing ok thanks....sorry for the late reply, we are away for a family funeral. It's really hard, completely agree. I'm so pissed off at my body too....it just feels so unfair!! I do however think that you got pregnant again so all is not lost, a new donor may well help. I'm not sure if we spoke about this but we discovered my progesterone levels are really low. I had mine checked at the same time as my hCG on our nurses request. Only 19mol/l....which is probably why I cant seem to sustain or allow my pregnancy a chance. We are gonna do injections next time and check my levels at transfer and adjust if necessary which is possibly why the extra day of progesterone before transfer helped with my crappy history of implantation failure. I can't seem to follow a normal protocol, however at least we have something to try/change again!! I do think it is a numbers game and as hard as it is your OH is probably right!! Give me a shout anytime for a chat!!xxxx

in reply to Cinderella5

I'm really sorry to hear you've had a bereavement, sending you hugs xx

I'm trying to see it optimistically that I did get a BFP again but worried my body going to keep destroying it, my Consultant on annual leave until next week so will see what he says,I'm going to ask if we can go back in Oct. It does seem to be trial and error each time doesn't it! I will ask him about progesterone, I did mention it to the lady that does my scans in the Uk and she said because of the dose I'm on she doesn't think it would be that but it's definitely worth me asking the question xxx

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tiger-cub

I’m so sorry dear .

Totally gutted

Thinking of u

It’s such a hard journey for us

PM you too

in reply to tiger-cub

Thank you tiger cub I have messaged you x

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Kari55

I’m so sorry 🙁 💔 sending you big hugs xxx

in reply to Kari55

Thank you Kari, hope you are keeping well xx

crisps88 profile image
crisps88

Omg I am so so so sorry for you. This is the worst ever you must be heart broken. The pain knowing you’ve had the chance, i really apologise for how you feel. X x x

in reply to crisps88

It is really tough even though I had tried not to get too carried away after going through a MMC last Aug but that's easier said than done! All we can do is try again.Hope your all ok xx

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sarahharas

I am so sorry to read this! THis must be heartbreaking. I really hope you are doing OK! big hugs xx

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