13w3d.. what should be excitement about our official dating scan and being in the second trimester has turned to panic.

[bms12]

So my official dating scan is today at 14:45pm, I purposely worked a 13 hour shift yesterday (which is normal for me, however I picked it up to pass the day as I knew it would drag), as I was getting excited to leave I felt like I had peed a little.. I went to the toilet and there was a little bit of red blood. I tried to remain calm as I know that it's no good stressing about these things because the worry wont change a bad outcome. I got home, and after 10-15 I was gushing with blood. No clots, possibly mild cramps however that could have been from working a 13 hour shift in healthcare 🤷‍♀️. I decided to ring 111 as I was concerned with the pattern of bleeding (it was coming in waves, stopping then gushing) and because of the amount I was losing, (anyone remember there first bleed after taking provera?). So they advised I attended A&E, which i did. 4 hours of waiting to see the DR, and because my blood pressure, pulse, temp etc. They said they wouldn't do anything now the bleeding had slowed Nd sent me home. So after being awake for 24 hours I finally got home. I have a fetal doppler, that I bought because I wanted a recording of their heartbeat and decided to get it out, I found baby's heartbeat still sounding good and strong (yes I know it's not advised to have your own dr, and would never use it instead of seeking medical advise, which I didn't). The heart beat is still nice and strong this morning and the bleeding is lighter, however it's now constant. I was so excited when I reached 13 weeks on Friday. The dreaded first trimester was over, now I'm sar here, the day dragging panicking about what we may see on our ultrasound today. Are we having a repeat of last year where baby's heart continued to beat for nearly 2 weeks after they stopped growing? Is it a haematoma which has ruptured and hopefully is righting itself? I have never been so anxious yet calm in my life. Baby does not need my added stress, my stress is not what is important right now. All I can think of of is my favourite picture from a scan we had at 9w6d, where the baby was waking and kicking and moving around like crazy, and my favourite sound, the sound of love to my ears of their beautiful, strong little heartbeat. I'd finally bought some baby stuff, because Saturday I had my realisation moment, that this is happening and this baby is coming after Christmas.. what a kick in the heart 24 hours later when this all began..

I just wanted a rant, and I've shared my journey with so many of you ladies who know how it feels to also experience loss, it's hard to explain to people who been fortunate not to experience either difficulty getting pregnant and/or difficulty staying pregnant.

Hope you are all well, lots of love xxx

[Hidden]

Oh gosh what a worrying time for you. I wish you tons and tons of luck for journey scan and really hope everything is ok. Huge hugs xx

[Hidden]

Poor you sounds like you’re having a tough time.

It is difficult being pregnant after a long battle to conceive & especially hard after a previous loss if you add bleeding on top no wonder you’re stressed out.

As you know I had a loss before becoming pregnant with my daughter I had bleeding too with her- mostly brown but I did have fresh blood with clots at 10 weeks. So I know how scary it is. I’ll be honest I never relaxed until my daughter had arrived safely- even in labour I kept asking if she would be ok. I think it’s hard to relax after such a journey.

I would try to get another scan either nhs or privately - you can get a quick reassurance scan from £40 which might be worth it to put your mind at ease. From 16 your midwife will be able to detect your baby’s heartbeat.

Rest as much as you can if you need to get signed off work as you & your baby are much more important. xoxo

[bms12 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah I have a scan today anyway, my official dating scan, so I'll explain what happened to the midwife here and hopefully try and see what is happening

[EmGLA in reply to bms12]

I hope the scan goes well!! everything crossed for you!!

xxxxxx

[bms12 in reply to EmGLA]

Thank you I've been in for my scan and everything is good, baby is measuring 3 days ahead, theres a haemorrage undernether the embryonic sac and baby but the placenta is above baby and out of harms way, she said theres still quite a large area with blood but it looks like its clotting an will either make it's way out or reabsorb

[Cinderella5 in reply to bms12]

Oh dear dear you poor thing! You must have been frantic, glad to hear all is ok. Love and hugs.xx

[bms12 in reply to Cinderella5]

Yeah just a little Haha. I cried a few tears when we saw baby was fine. I slept well last night that's for sure x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi bms. Only just read this, so by now you should be in and having tht all important scan to tell you what's going on. I'm in there with you and keeping my fingers crossed for you. Sending gentle hugs. Diane xx

[bms12 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you I've been in for my scan and everything is good, baby is measuring 3 days ahead, theres a haemorrage undernether the embryonic sac and baby but the placenta is above baby and out of harms way, she said theres still quite a large area with blood but it looks like its clotting an will either make it's way out or reabsorb

[EmGLA in reply to bms12]

This is brilliant news!!! I bet you are so relieved!! Thank goodness!! Xxxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to bms12]

Hi bms. I know you won't be, but I would be reassured by the scan, speaking professionally. Just be careful with what you do, and maybe no 13 hour shifts just for now. Have a rest when you can, and hopefully the blood patch will reabsorb and not leak. Sending reassuring hugs. Diane xx

[bms12 in reply to DianeArnold]

Only problem is I'm agency with the hospital, so there is no sick pay if I'm off, fortunately I work in the same places regularly so if I need to do 13 hours I'll make sure i have regular breaks and sit down regularly

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to bms12]

Hi. Yes, I understand. Even doing agency work, they are obliged to look after you, so just leave any heavy stuff to the others where you can, and make sure you take regular breaks. Diane

[bms12 in reply to DianeArnold]

Oh I will. I'd rather be broke and keep them safe Haha. I just dont want to gp back to work too soon after having them but if needs must! Baby is worth it x

[Leanne1402 in reply to bms12]

Fab news, glad everything is okay and baby is healthy. Think you're due around the same time as me. Hope the rest of you're pregnancy goes smoothly and take it easy. I know what it's like working in healthcare. It's hard and demanding. Xxx

[bms12 in reply to Leanne1402]

I'm due 17th Jan, definitely good news for sure. Feel a lot more relaxed thank goodness xx

[Leanne1402 in reply to bms12]

Glad you're feeling more relaxed. My due date is the 18th Jan 😊😍xxx

[bms12 in reply to Leanne1402]

Well I'm 17th from the ivf but 14th from the scans 🤷‍♀️ but I'm sticking with the 17th as they come when they want too anyway Haha

[Leanne1402 in reply to bms12]

Well I got told the 20th by the clinic, then my midwife said the 24th and my dating scan is the 18th lol. Like you said he or she will come when they are ready. Xxx

[Leanne1402]

Hope all is okay. Some bleeding without clots can be rather normal for some of us. Hope you're scan goes well and baby is happy and healthy x

[bms12 in reply to Leanne1402]

YeH it was heavy bleeding. About a mug full in the space of an hour x

[MissSaoPaulo]

Oh hon you're doing so well to try and stay calm. Really hope it's good news at your scan xxx

Just seen your update- such a relief for you. Hope the rest of your pregnancy is drama free xxx

[bms12 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Thanks lovely, I hope so Haha. Could sleep for a week now with the relief 😂 xx

[Hidden]

That's wonderful news,such a relief for you. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is drama free xx

[bms12 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, me too. Just got to take it easier xx