I was 12 weeks today and I went to for my scan only to have find out that no heartbeat. Baby was weighing double when I had my 6 weeks scan prior to bleeding. I also had 7 weeks scan which was strong only for me to go today and no heartbeat. That’s means I have a dead baby inside of me for about 5 weeks. They have given me options to take it out. Was wondering if I can get a second scan done to check. Has anyone experience this before and can someone advice me when to go for the Eprc. Am so sad been crying all day after 10 years of trying and this is what I get. I did everything right stayed at home stoped working ate well. When can I do another transfer again pls help
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I've not experienced what you're going through but just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm sure if you asked the clinic or hospital that they would scan you again and answer any questions that you may have and help you to make a difficult decision. I hope you get the support you need to get through this difficult time xx
So sorry my lovely. This is devastating for you.
I had a missed miscarriage same as you but was 8 weeks. I requested to be scanned again before starting medical
Management as I really wanted them to be certain.
I would suggest having the surgery as it will be less traumatic for you and also will help you move on a little quicker but really your choice.
Look after yourself and know this wasn’t anything you did or didn’t do. Please also speak to people for support. Sending love xxx
I completely understand. I had never heard of a missed miscarriage before I had mine and couldn’t get my head round it at all. I didn’t have any bleeding so thought all was ok.
I’m doing fine now, struggled for a while but mainly because I didn’t really speak about it and tried to carry on as normal so please don’t do this alone. Speak to people and speak to us here. We understand more than most xxx
Personally I preferred D&C my first missed miscarriage I was around 11 weeks and I waited it out to experience a horrible 2 days of stomach cramps, backache and bleeding only to see everything when it passed. Bled for 3 weeks after but only lightly only to get my period a week later which lasted 10 days . Second miscarriage found out at 8 weeks baby stopped at 6 weeks and I didn’t want to go through pain and miscarriage so I had d&c after I bled for only 5 days as they removed everything. Felt back to normal quicker and had a normal period 3 weeks later x I would definitely go for that option x
I’m so sorry. We saw a heartbeat at both our 6 and 7 weeks scans but then sadly no heartbeat at 9 weeks (so some similarities but not as long as your 12 weeks). That news today must have been absolutely heartbreaking for you. I opted for medical management but had to wait for a week for the appointment, which I found particularly difficult. Sorry I’m not sure what erpc stands for. Have they explained the different options to you? I remember finding it difficult to take in all the info at the time and choosing which option. So make sure you have all the info you need (either from the hospital or ask the ladies on here if you have more Q’s). I would imagine that they would scan you again if you ask them. Does your clinic offer any counselling sessions? I hope you have people around you for support at this difficult time. Also know you can chat on here anytime if you need to lovely. Sending you love and hugs xxx
Awwwh so sorry about yours. Thank you so much I bled at 6 weeks and I had a scan at 6 weeks and 7 weeks and all was ok only for me to go for my 12 weeks scan and baby had died since 6 weeks how comes. So many questions going through my head just grieving on my own but I will get past this. Thank you so much for your kind word xx
I’m so sorry for your loss, I too had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks having seen a heartbeat at 7 and 8 weeks around this time last year. It’s totally heartbreaking. I had an ERPC 2 days later and for me it was absolutely the right decision, it was pain free (physically not emotionally) and over very quickly. The day of the operation was wet and miserable but when we got home and turned into our street there was a massive rainbow right over our house - I burst into tears as it just felt it was a sign. One year one and I’m now pregnant again and this time things are looking good so I just wanted to give you hope that the rainbow does come after the storm xx
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage at my 12 week scan too a few weeks ago. It’s so cruel especially as you are so excited and then within minutes you suddenly have no baby and have to decide your next steps for miscarriage management 😥. I didn’t get a rescan as another sonographer was called in to confirm there was no heartbeat.
I was really sad but also wanted to know my nexts steps in regards to IVF. I got my husband to call the clinic as I was struggling to talk about it without crying, the clinic advised could do FET after 1st normal period which they think will be January time.
Take care of yourself it’s such a difficult time, thinking of you ♥️ X
Sending all my love to you. I had a missed miscarriage just before 13 weeks. I couldn't believe it. Everything was perfect up until that point. Get a second scan if you need, but do whatever is best for you. I had a medically managed miscarriage, which was best for me, but do whatever is best for you. Lots of love. xxx
Yes with my 1st pregnancy ttc#3 I had a little bleed and went to epu at 12w it was blighted so hadn’t grown from around 6w. Next pregnancy everything was ok got to our normal 12w scan baby had stopped at 9w and my last pregnancy we had an early scan at 9w again blighted had a Mva at 12w after a week of bloods and a couple more scans. There suppose to scan you 2w after if they suspect mc to make sure there’s no growth or mistake.
I felt exactly the same and you have a right to feel the way you do....It's not fair...everyone around me said well you managed to get pregnant so it can happen again but sometimes that doesn't easy the pain you feel. It will be raw for a long time....I would have been due in 2 weeks.
Just try to be kind to yourself and try to occupy your mind by keeping busy and be around loved ones.
Please feel free to message me to let off steam xxx
So sorry to hear this I had a missed miscarriage also at 12 weeks after my 1st icsi attempt and it’s absolutely devastating. But time is a healer and you will get stronger.
I am now in my 2ww of a frozen cycle (5th attempt) and praying it’s our rainbow baby.
My clinic wanted me to have 3 periods before starting again. Take care of yourself and OH at this time. Xx
You poor thing! I had a similar with the heartbeat all good at week 6 scan and week 7 scan but at week 9 scan it was all over. It’s so frustrating after so long trying and finally getting pregnant it can all be taken away. I opted to have the procedure done as I needed it to be over as I wanted to try again as soon as possible. Unfortunately it took my body a while to go back to normal with a few hiccups along the way. It’s now about 10 weeks from the missed miscarriage (I’d never heard of this!) I’m just starting another ivf cycle with the stimms now and I’m in a good head space now, I know it doesn’t feel like it at the moment but you’ll get through this! Good luck!
This is just devastating. The exact same thing happened to me. I started to miscarry naturally at 12 weeks exactly but got an early scan as I started spotting at 11+4 and saw the baby was 6+3. Never had another scan to check heartbeat earlier as it was my first pregnancy and I just did what the NHS said and waited for my first scan at 12 weeks. This time I'll be paying privately for weekly scans if I ever get pregnant again!
They usually make you wait a week then re scan you just to make sure...best of luck missy. I think you can try again pretty soon physically but mentally and emotionally you might need time to grieve. It's so cruel. 😥
I’m so so sorry to read this.
I have had 3 miscarriages, the heartbreak is excruciating. I had surgery for my first, medical management for my second but sadly it didn’t pass everything so I ended up having to have surgery and then my third was early so passed naturally. I found medical management extremely traumatic so personally surgery works better for me mentally.
I’ve just been in my 2WW for my embryo transfer and I’ve spent the last 3 days bleeding s and crying as it has failed. I have 1 more embryo I can try next year.
Life is cruel, time does help. Grieve and allow yourself to go through all of the emotions.
Thinking of you ❤️
So sorry for your loss. I’ve been there and it’s terrible. They should have given you the options on what you can do now, but whatever option you choose they will give you another scan before they do anything, just to be certain. I went back to eprc the next day and had a second scan. It might be a rough few weeks so try to give yourself some recovery time before jumping into another transfer xx
I am so sorry you are going though this, it really is heartbreaking. I've had 3 miscarriages one at 11 weeks one at 7 weeks and one at 6 weeks. In terms of scans I had one with my first at 6 weeks saw a heartbeat so I was so shocked when I miscarried, it happen naturally and it was hard, I bleed a lot so needed a procedure to stop the bleeding. The second I had a scan at 8 weeks as I had a slight bit of spotting, there was no heartbeat and it was only measuring 7 weeks. They did not re-scan (although I asked) as it was measuring 7 weeks and they really do check to find a heartbeat in those circumstances. I opted for an ERPC (surgery) this was much better than the natural route physically. The third one I had a scan at 6 weeks again a tiny bit of spotting, there was a slight heartbeat, but a re-scan a week later there was no heartbeat and the baby had started to get smaller. I opted for medical management which was like a natural miscarriage but you know it's going to happen! I think surgery was the best option for me.
Allow some time for your body to heal and to grieve for what you have lost. Again I am so sorry, if you have any questions feel free to message me xxx
I’m so sorry, it’s devastating to hear those words. I’ve been there too a year ago and I will never forget the look on the nurses face when she scanned me at EPU. Mine had stopped at 7 and 8 weeks and was discovered at 9 weeks. I opted for medical management which was very traumatic. I had a surgical procedure more recently and in terms of emotional healing I found it easier. You must do what is right for you at the time. Give yourself some time. I rushed straight back in and it wasn’t the right thing for me..my consultant knew but I couldn’t see it. Sending you lots of love and strength to get through the next few days. Here if you want to talk xx
I am so sorry to hear this sad news. Life is so hard sometimes.
I had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks and they scanned me again when I asked. I then thought I would let it go naturally but after a week I was so mentally unwell With the thought of carrying a dead body that I had to book for the surgery. I would recommend you to do the same as it can be traumatic. Maybe you could be in touch with your bear EPU to talk about this?
A couple of months after I was back on treatment.
Please speak to people maybe consider seeing a counsellor as this is such a hard experience. Give you the time to heal.
Sending you a big hug 💕
I think you are doing the right thing. I know it’s one of the worse experience in life. It’s so wrong an unfair. Time will heal the pain. Personally What kept me going is that this miscarriage shown me That my body could carry a pregnancy. I hope that you will have soon a baby and this will be over. Take care 💕
That's a right blow isn't it when you look forward to your scan only to be told that the baby has died and you had no idea that had happened.
Missed miscarriages are extra cruel as you have no idea there's a problem until they say they are sorry but the baby has died and it hurts having your dreams shattered in such an extra cruel way.
Really sorry to hear this.
I had a missed miscarriage, but I had to go for 3 seperate scans before they gave me the drugs to put me into a miscarriage state. I was not as far along as you were so they were checking to see whether it had grown rather than check for a heart beat.
Sending love and look after yourself xx
So sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage too, my baby stopped working at 6 weeks but I had my miscarriage just a week before my 12w scan. I knew it was going to happen because when I had early scans at 6 8 9 weeks they told me it wasn’t growing well and no heartbeat. I can imagine that finding out at the 12w scan it’s even more traumatising, as you just expect it’s all good and you want to share the happy news with others. I can tell you this, it doesn’t matter if you ate well, stayed in bed all day, etc. it makes so difference. I was going to work but never lifting anything, i stayed on a chair all day and when i was at home i was in bed the whole time. I thought this was the best thing to do, but reality it was going to happen anyway. Most of the time it’s a problem with the chromosomes, if you opt to have your miscarriage naturally at home like I did, you can bring the tissue to the lab and they can tell you if the baby had problems.
For me having the miscarriage at home was the best decision. I felt I needed that closure, I also buried it in my garden and I’m happy to think it’s there. It happened at the beginning of September and it still hurts. You will have mixed feelings now, at some point you might feel lonely and feel nobody understands you. But here on health unlocked most of us went through a similar experience and we can totally understand, write to me even in private if you want and I can try to help. I really hope you will manage to feel better and get pregnant very soon!
I am so sorry for your loss. What a terrible shock for you. I had a heartbeat at 7 weeks but no heartbeat at 9 weeks. I opted for surgery and found it physically very easy but obviously mentally a lot harder. The surgery is very quick and relatively painless. Ive actually had it three times and the first and third times were very easy and I only bled for a couple of days afterwards and it was done. it really helped me because I was able to control when things happened and got closure a lot quicker than if I had to wait to MC. Sending you the most enormous hug, its just so unfair xx
Ow such sad news, I had similar experience finally got pregnant did everything by the book we were both so excited to see our baby on the 12 wk scan to have our world crumble and be told there was no heart beat at 10 weeks I then had to wait a further week to have d&c which did take away having the upset of miscarrying myself, I seen it as my body loved this little baby so much it didn’t want to let go and this little baby didn’t want to cause me anymore upset in a painful or traumatic passing, sorry these things happen it really can be a cruel world sometimes. My thoughts are with you xx
I’m so sorry for your loss! I found out about my miscarriage at the 13 week scan after seeing a heartbeat at 7 weeks and it really is devastating. I would definitely recommend having the surgical management. I opted to have medical management and after 6 weeks of bleeding it was unsuccessful and I ended up having emergency surgery anyway. I wish I had picked the surgery! I’ve now started my treatment for a FET. I had to wait until I’d had 2 periods before I could request treatment again.
Take some time to grieve and look after yourself and do not blame yourself in anyway. This was in no way your fault. Please also get any support you need and surround yourself with loving people. Sending you lots of love xx
I’m not sure about the vaccum as this was never offered to me. Personally I don’t like the thought of being awake during the procedure and so would opt for the surgery as they gave me a general anaesthetic which put me to sleep. I’d maybe speak to the doctors and let them know you are uncertain which to choose and ask them to explain each procedure to you xx
So sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing in 2017 June @ 9weeks it was confirmed I had a chemical miscarriage. When at 6weeks we didn't see heartbeat, i was scanned again 2weeks and half later only to completely find embryo not there. It was hard but God carried me through, i completely surrendered everything to God. I never went for surgery, as the process and cons kind of scared me. I let the body do what it does naturally. You will be fine in the end stay strong. After miscarriage bleeding in July and first period Aug 2017 since the whole nightmare I got pregnant again n blessed with an 18month old girl. Focus on healing, continue a healthy lifestyle and you will be blessed again. Don't think too much about baby making, u will be stressed and nothing will happen. I told a friend of mine the same thing after her miscarriage last summer and now she's carrying again n due spring. She cried n stressed alot too. What a hard time, u will be fine, just talk about, enjoy ur sex life and be healthy, it will happen when its happens.
I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I have experienced this and can remember how shocked I felt and clueless to what might happen next. I was encouraged to go down the surgical route as this removes everything at once. They scanned me to double check when they gave me the options and again before I had the surgery.
Not sure when you can start treatment again but they might want you to wait until after your first period following your miscarriage.
So sorry again and sending you lots of love. Xx
I am not sure thay I know the difference, I wasn't given that level of option. Have you seen the information the Tommys provide.
If I understand it correctly the vacuum aspiration is under sedation/awake and the surgical option is general anaesthetic. Only a few places offer vacuum and I was told it wasn't an option for me as I hadn't had any previous children so my cervix would be too tight despite the medicine to relax it. Literally no idea how right that is but thats what the doctor told me. For me I just wanted to be asleep and wake up and it all be over, so went with SMM x
It's nothing you did or didn't do, it's just bloody unlucky and awful I was advised when they did my EPRC that it could cause scar tissue that could affect implantation of any future embryos so I waited 3 months after the EPRC and had an aqua scan privately (not available on NHS) to make sure we weren't adversely affecting future success of IVF. So sorry you are going through this, clearly there are many others who have been through it and know exactly how you must be feeling x
So sorry to hear this , I have had 3 mmc it is the worst feeling in the world but please dont blame yourself I did this and it ate me up.
I had a scan a week later just to double check it was the same result , I would opt for medical management once I didnt and it took some time and when it did happen it was not what I was expecting , take care of yourself and big hugs ❤
I waited a few months then tried again but everyone is different its how you feel in yourself ❤ xx