I hope you are all ok and feeling strong.
I am writing this in case anyone has gone through anything similar. After 3 rounds of IVF at 40 I finally became pregnant after a very good last round of IVF, ending in two transferred grade A and even some frosties (which we never had before). At 7 wks viability we were told there were two strong heartbeats, and we were really so happy.
So fast forward to 13 wks and I have just had my dating scan, and one twin is seriously poorly. There is fluid under the babies skin, NT is high and fluid down back and all under tummy. The consultant says he thinks it's a chromosomal, heart or lung abnormality, and that its heart will stop. He says we should seriously consider selectively terminating, to minimise the risk to the healthy twin (which still risks 5-10% chance of losing the other healthy twin) as continuing and losing the twin later on could cause a lot of problems.
I asked for a couple of weeks to see if the twin improves, or passes naturally to minimise any need for anything invasive. In the meantime I had a NIPT to check for Downs, Edwards and Patau and awaiting results. At the NIPT they did some more scans and my poor poorly baby was drinking and moving about a lot, waving its arms, and not looking on the verge of giving in.
My rationale head is telling me to do all I can to save the healthy one, but my heart is shattered into a million pieces and I don't want to give up hope on my second twin.
On top of all this I have raging morning (noon and night) sickness.
I'm not sure to post this here, or NCT or another forum, and may post in all to try and see if anyone has been through similar with twins. I can only find examples of singletons (some of which miraculously improved and others who didn't). Any insight into losing a twin or selective terminations, stories good or bad, would really help right now.