Isn't it funny

[Bluelady-sing]

We spend our whole life been told not to have children. Being given endless family plan by advice.

Never encouraged to start a family

[Nodds]

Very true. Isn’t it ironic that those who aren’t in a position (financially and stability) to have children, have them? They ignored what they were told (about contraception) and did what they wanted. I wish I’d not listened and lived a more carefree existence!

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Nodds]

Tell me about it!

[Carmel1001 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

To be fair for many teenage girls with no education and job prospects, having a kid is their only option to get housing and extra benefits. My sister was one of them, I went to uni , had a good job and didn’t start trying till I was well into my 30s , hit a brick wall.

We’ve set up a society where women have to choose, have kids when your body is ripe, which wether we like it or not is 18 - 25, or go uni and have a career, never both.

[JayneKueres in reply to Carmel1001]

What's that society? Jayne x

[Carmel1001 in reply to JayneKueres]

A society that decided it costs a fortune for childcare and a fortune to study

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Carmel1001]

You can go to uni with a baby. Y won't pay fees

[Carmel1001 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Back in the 90s Pumpkin, now you can be homeless poor and will still have to pay your 9 grand a year fees and living costs yourself, and somehow find childcare costs. I.e it’s near impossible,

[Wishingfortheday]

I agree - lots of information on preventing pregnancy, and none on preserving fertility or how quickly women's fertility wanes...

It should be a focus in health education in schools.

[precioce]

I agree. In a society where we are leaving it later and later to have children and trying to do things 'the right way', if make me cross that there is no education on declining fertility with age.

[Hidden in reply to precioce]

Some people don't meet the right person until later on in life so even if we were educated on declining fertility in both women and men, some people have no choice but to wait. I wasted my fertile years on the wrong men, but I would never have reproduced with them as the relationships were toxic. Luckily I did meet someone but you have to cram so much into a short space of time. We started trying 3 years into our relationship (I was 32) but it was another 3 years and a round of ivf before we got our family. It's unfair that some have kids willy nilly and bring them into unstable homes.

[Vegemite in reply to Hidden]

Same. I didn’t meet mr right until 5 years ago. Mr toxic always used to say if I got pregnant he would send me to the clinic to get rid of it... so I never had he choice with mr toxic. Mr right is amazing!

[Hidden in reply to Vegemite]

What a charming man!! Glad you found somebody wonderful x

[Wishingfortheday in reply to Hidden]

Although perhaps if it were more widely discussed, more women might choose to freeze some eggs in the peak of their fertility - at least providing some kind of back-up plan if it does take them a while to find a partner?

[Hidden in reply to Wishingfortheday]

Sure, egg freezing would be a great back-up plan, but not everyone can afford to do that "just in case". I do agree that everyone should be more educated on fertility regardless so they can make choices to suit them later on down the line.

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Wishingfortheday]

Egg freezing technology was not around when I was 25

[Wishingfortheday in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Nor me... sadly I can't do anything about my past opportunities, was only trying to think of ideas of ways things could be improved today for the next generation xx

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Hidden]

I am 42 already. I could not wait 3yrs

[LPR17]

Couldn’t agree more! The thing to consider too is that for those who do accidentally fall pregnant, how long have they ignored contraception & taken that chance. It’s probably a lot longer than you think.xxx

[LunaLovegood11]

Yes it’s a strange one... Also those who say they ‘accidentally’ got pregnant... I had this from a girl at work recently! I said you know how babies are made tho, right? So if you’re not preventing that, then it’s not really an accident...?

Shame we don’t get prepared for the situation we are all in now.

[Bluelady-sing]

What s prp

[Bluelady-sing]

Ovulating low progesterone day 21 level 21

[Bluelady-sing]

How is the treatment delivered into your womb? Is it your own plasma.

Does it happen in a fertility clinic?

How much does it cost?

[Bluelady-sing]

Mind you if like us you have waited a genius guy might appreciate

[Bluelady-sing]

Not all men want already made family

[Hope25]

I feel very naive Thought I needed to do things the right way - ensure I was able to give my baby everything they needed. Thought I had planned it so well.......

[Bluelady-sing]

Me too

[Bluelady-sing]

Hope25

Tell me more of your story

[Bluelady-sing]

I feel I will never be a mum!