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Girls, I’ve had a complete meltdown this morning. I started crying and had to get out of the house - leaving my poor husband wondering what was up. The truth was that if I spoke to him and told him my fears of another bfn he would only get angry at me for not being more positive. 😞 I feel awful now - probably worse than before. I have a baby shower tomorrow but I cancelled last night.

Do you think I’ve ruined my last chance of any hope?

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Solly-44

Oh love, you haven’t ruined anything.

It’s insanely stressful, add in a gazillion hormones, and meltdowns will happen. I don’t think you’re being negative, it’s probably a form of self preservation to not get too optimistic. Try not to be so hard on yourself (easier said than done!) sending you hugs x

in reply to Solly-44

Thank you very much for your kind words. I’m just so scared of the result and couldn’t control my emotions 🙈 I hope you are doing OK on your journey? 😘😘

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Drives

I can totally relate to this. On my 2ww I had a conplete meltdown one evening. Hysterical crying for no reason and poor hubby didn't know what to do 🙈😂

I was just overwhelmed, felt awful, tired & ugly. Not a good combination. After all that I got my BFP though.

You've got this lovely 💪😎

in reply to Drives

Aww thank you so much for this comment 🥰❤️ Made me chuckle at myself - finally! Hubby and I are back best friends 🤣🙈 although I think he thinks I’m completely nuts 😂. Huge congratulations on your BFP 🌈 👶 I hope you are having a lovely pregnancy xx

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Drives in reply to

It sounds like you've got yourself a very understanding hubby 😉

Thank you very much.

Look after yourself x x x

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HM_3

I'm so sorry about how you feel but I think it's perfectly normal. I felt exactly the same last week in my 2ww. Don't feel bad. Take the time and space that you need. Keep positive. Thinking of you and sending you hugs xx

in reply to HM_3

Thank you for your positive words. I hope you are doing OK? When is your OTD? Xxx

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hannahding

I can understand how you might be feeling. However, you haven't ruined anything. In such procedures due to the hormonal changes, everyone gets emotional. Therefore, dont worry. I hope you will get a BFP this time. Stay strong and positive. Good luck to you.

in reply to hannahding

Thank you 😘 good luck to you in your journey too x

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Rainbowhope

I relate to having to hide how You feel. I fear my husband will just get sock of having to reassure me. But you are allowed to feel weak sometimes and scared and doubtful. This is so tough and nobody really understands more than the person going through it.

in reply to Rainbowhope

Thank you xxxx

Hi hun, the 2ww is soo tough I know when I was going through it I too had a complete meltdown, the 1st wk I was so optimistic then the 2nd it was like somebody had flipped a switch!!You have ruined anything as its out of your control, great that you have the support of your hubbie,good luck x

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Thank you! I thought I would be a lot more calmer this time.... 🙈 xxxx

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Redpixie

I can totally relate in my first two tww. For my 3rd I did hypnotherapy and mindfulness and anytime fear kicked in I took a few deep breaths and thought to myself “everything is as it should be at this moment in time”. Try not to worry about the future, you can’t control it. All of my attempts resulted in BFN and the pain of that was exactly the same for each one. By staying in the now you will be able to have a less stressful tww regardless of what the result is going to be. This way of thinking started with my therapist I see weekly and We discussed how, for the first two attempts, I’d been trying to protect myself from pain by thinking the worst. She asked me “do you think the pain will be any different if you think positively?”. I can confirm it is exactly the same. So try, for now, to stay in the moment. “Everything is as it should be in this moment in time” fingers crossed for you.

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