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So I had my bfn and I’m waiting for the nurses to call me back. I feel like they’re not supportive at all I misplaced some pessaries & I feel like they didn’t believe me and were funny about giving me more? I just think I’m so emotional and everything’s getting to me I just want to know what happens next and what can I change for the best chance of having Frozen embryos ????

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Emmaxxx

I’m sorry to your BFN. With regards to the pessaries you can stop them now. They are only prolonging the inevitable. In a few days you will have your period and then you can decide what you want to do next. With my clinic the nurse was the same quite dismissive but I just put it down to there is no more they do now, I’m not pregnant so they can’t do anything for me. It’s hard but you need the support of your husband and us ladies now. With regards to frozen embryos I can’t help as I never have any to freeze. Good luck Hun and done forget we are always here for you xxx

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Oxfordgirl in reply to Emmaxxx

So sorry to hear your news. Hang in there. They have very high standards for freezing blasts so not sure if you can do much to ensure you get them on the next round. I was told 40% of couples have something to freeze, I’d imagine if your amh is on the lower side the less likely you are to get frozen blasts.

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Sashaxo in reply to Oxfordgirl

Thanks girls. I was meant to have my appointment today but now I’m waiting for the phone call. I stopped my pessaries from day 10 when I had my negative so I’ve come on my period yesterday. That’s the thing my AMH is high it’s 36. I was on 150 of meriofert last time as they didn’t want to risk OHSS but now they know I responded I’m hoping they can up the dose so I can get more follicles. I can’t believe I have to start this whole process again, lying to my work just for appointments. I just want a plan so I can move forward I feel like I’m stuck in limbo right now.

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Sashaxo

I’ve spoken with the nurse she offered two options. 1 was to have a face to face appointment with the doctor on the 29th May or the other option is for them to discuss it ina huddle without me there and it’ll take about two weeks. I chose that one because they don’t give any answers anyway they don’t investigate why it failed which seems bizarre to me? I said what would be the outcome will I definitely get another go because we have two free go’s in our clinic & she said I can’t promise you it’ll all be discussed so now I have the worst anxiety. What would be a reason for them to decline somebody a second chance?

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Oxfordgirl in reply to Sashaxo

I have no idea about the decline. Are you being funded by the nhs?

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Debrakay1704

Am so sad to hear your news. Please take care ❤️ x

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