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The 2WW has broken me 😢

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I had my 5BB fresh embryo transfer on 20 April (my hubby's bday!). Yesterday I had a major meltdown and couldn't stop sobbing - I don't even know why. I think the nerves and apprehension are just building up. My official test day is Weds 1 May but think I might crack and test early tomorrow, that way if it is negative at least I am easing myself into it. What does everyone think? Xx

UPDATE: So I broke this morning and tested 9/10 days post transfer. Unfortunately it was a BFN 😢 so devestated! Do you think that there is any hope at all that it could turn to a BFP by my official test day on Weds 11/12 days post transfer? Feel broken!

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Dreamer94 profile image
Dreamer94

It is such an anxious time the 2ww so can totally emphasise with you being emotional it’s a rollercoaster of emotions to say the least. Just be careful testing early with a fresh embryo transfer as the injection you get prior can give you a false positive. I’m not sure how long it takes to leave your system. I struggled to wait the full time with my fresh transfer but I did as I didn’t want to get a false positive then negative. Good luck xxx

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Bali88 in reply to Dreamer94

Thanks for the reply! My trigger shot was on 13 April so I am hoping that should be out of my system by tomorrow as it would have been over 2 weeks ago. Best of luck to you on your journey too xxx

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Minnie92

It’s completely understandable that you are feeling anxious, the 2ww is not nice. I would say try and wait until Wednesday that way you have a definite answer...however I tested on day 7 after day 5 transfer and got a positive straight away, I then spent the whole week weeing on tests, wasting my money and worrying that it was false! You can’t win either way so just do what you feel is best for you and good luck 🤞🏼 5bb is a great embryo! Xx

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Bali88 in reply to Minnie92

Ahhh there is just no easy option 😫 if I do test tomorrow then it will only be 2 more days to wait. Will see how I feel in the morning. Congrats on your positive xx

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Pocket08

Hello Bali88,

I am in a very similar place to you. Had two fresh 5day embryos transferred on 23rd April (first cycle). Neither reached blastocyst stage but at compacting and cavitating. I'm going crazy too, my test date is the 4th May. I think I'm going to hold on though. Try and be strong and fingers crossed the wait will be worth it.

Have you had any cramps or bleeding?

I have had quite a lot of cramping and a little bleeding today. Worry about every little thing. 😬

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Bali88 in reply to Pocket08

I had cramping on days 3 and 4 nothing much since although I have had really strong headaches for the past 3 days - don't know if that means anything. It's so hard not to over analyse every little symptom. They say a little bleeding can be a good sign of implantation! Best of luck to you xx

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Pocket08

I know the 2WW feels like a lifetime.

I hope it is a good sign.

Thank you, best of luck to you too Keeping my fingers crossed for you. X X X

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Oakey80

Feeling emotional is a good sign...it's the first sign I had that things were different! I had a complete meltdown at work at 7dp5dt...now have a healthy 13mth old. Previously had bfn and wasn't emotional in the slightest during the 2ww...fingers crossed! X

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Lifelongdream

Hey! I would say wait... I know this must be so hard. For the two days wait... if your working plan something on both evenings. I wouldn’t want you to regret testing early! X x x x x

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jenna-mcf

I would say wait. I tested early and got a positive and it made me worse as I was testing like twice a day just to make sure wasting money on frer tests and panicking that it was too early etc etc xox

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emu2016

Hang in there warrior. You’ve got this x

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Pozzag83

I was crying my eyes out for no reason, turns out I was pregnant. Fingers crossed for you.

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Pozzag83

I also did my test three days early and just kept doing tests every day. So surreal x

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Apples2665

It’s such a stressful time. I managed to hold it together until the morning I tested (I actually tested after 15 days after 5dt as had big work meetings). It’s such an emotional time and even if you’re not thinking about it 24/7 I’m sure it’s in the back of your mind somewhere so always anxiety inducing. I’m glad I waited to test because it meant I could take a few days off work if I felt I needed it and also was more reassuring as I knew the hormones would have to be pretty high to get a positive test that far after transfer. Best of luck to you x

Wishing you all the luck in the world xx you have a great embryo on board. Only 2 days to go xxx

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Purple2018

I had my fresh transfer on the 23rd April, it was also a 5bb. The exact same thing happened me yesterday, I had a complete meltdown over nothing and couldn't stop crying most of the evening. And I had been feeling so positive up until then. My test day is 6th may. I feel like complete crap today still, hoping this will pass 😪

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Tanwa in reply to Purple2018

My test day too is May 6th. Cried a little yesterday and today 😰. I guess we will all be fine... Truck loads of baby dust on all of us🧚‍♀️🧚‍♂️

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Purple2018 in reply to Tanwa

Fingers crossed for us all 🤞🤞🤞

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zoeann1988

Ho, it really is anxious and stressful. I had transfer 17th April and official test day was supposed to be Tuesday 30th. I started bleeding heavy on Friday so tested and it was slight positive but I new it was over, tested next morning and was negative :( I would strongly recommend waiting until the date unless you have severe bleeding or pains like I did. Try and relax and good luck xx

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Bali88 in reply to zoeann1988

Thank you for the reply and so sorry about your loss! Xx

I would recommend retesting on OTD. Every day makes a difference so don’t give up hope. Best of luck to you xx

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Bali88 in reply to

Thank you. I will try again on the Weds 😢 xx

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jarvi

The 2ww is hell. I’m feeling it today. I’m 11dp2dt today and luckily don’t have any tests in the house. Mentally feeling very tired although I was ok until this morning.

Bali - Sorry you’ve had a BFN. I would still test on Weds if it was me.

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ArienAnwamane

I would also still test on Wednesday. I've not gone through IVF so can't say I know what you're going through, but I tested on a friday and nothing, tested on the following Tuesday and got BFP. Those couple of days make an important difference, especially in hormone levels. Keep strong xx

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Bali88 in reply to ArienAnwamane

Thanks so much! X

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Cinderella5

It can change from then! I had a negative that turned positive...we lost the baby at 6wks but defo proof things can change, hope yours does!! Good luck.xx

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Bali88 in reply to Cinderella5

Thanks so much and so sorry to hear of your loss. When was your negative out of interest? Im just worried that at day 9/10 it should be showing 🙁 xx

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Cinderella5 in reply to Bali88

I only got a really faint positive on day 12, feel free to have a look at my previous posts....I put a picture on. Not that I want to get your hopes up but I know how gutting it is to test early and keep the faith. I'd had 4 BFN's prior to that one.xx

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Bali88 in reply to Cinderella5

Thank you ❤️

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Sarahlou01

I don’t want to give you false hope but on our third embryo transfer, I tested early on day 9 and got a bfn but went on to have a bfp on otd! The 2ww is horrific, sending you lots of love and luck xxx

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Bali88 in reply to Sarahlou01

Ah thanks! How many days after was your otd? Congrats on the BFP!! X

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Sarahlou01 in reply to Bali88

Thank you. That bfp is now my 15 week old little boy. I think our otd was either 12 or 14 days post transfer. I did get a faint positive on day 10 but when I got excited and rang the clinic early, they told me off for testing early!!! Keep us posted and good luck xx

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Bali88 in reply to Sarahlou01

Aww so nice to hear a happy ending! X

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Sarahlou01 in reply to Bali88

Was thinking about you yesterday. Hope you’re ok xx

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Muppetgirl

If it gives you a little hope a pregnancy test was negative for me on Sunday and I had my HCG measured yesterday - 147! Just waiting for 2nd bloods on Wed to see if it's doubling. Sending you positive vibes.

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Bali88 in reply to Muppetgirl

Thank you! How many days post transfer were you on Sunday? Xx

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Muppetgirl

10dp3dt

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Bali88 in reply to Muppetgirl

Ah thanks! X

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miracle5

Hi I had my day 3 frozen embryo transfer on the 18/4/19 due for check on the 2/5/19.....this is my 4th transfer....... I’m really going crazy reading every sign there is had a bit of bleeding 2 days ago and freaked out ever since but before that was worried sick of not having any symptoms, as I’m writing this post I having headache out of the blue. Sometimes I just wonder is the progesterone injections & gel causing all these symptoms ! I had to purchase new pants as I couldn’t wear my usual ones..... is anyone else experiencing this while in the 2ww ?

Bali88 , hang in there and do check again.... someone I know got a BFP after 2 BFN’s few days apart

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ArienAnwamane in reply to miracle5

Hope everything went well on Friday

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Mona12345

Hi ....My transfer was on same day April 20th....I tooo don't have any symptoms as of now and this is my fet cycle ...I lost my hopes too ...But last sat I suddenly started bleeding lightly ....I don't have any idea on it ....Went to hospital and doctor asked me to stay for a day and gave me 3 injections to stop bleeding....I thought my period would have started ....But it was light bleeding and after injection it stopped .....My doctor asked me wait until may 6 for official test..My heart says this cycle didn work out as I have back pain as I do get before periods...But then to trying to stay positive and holding to not test at home.... Pls keep yourself happy until the official result confirms....I understand how it feels to go through this 2ww without any of positive symptoms and searching online for positive hopes...A day will definitely come to make us happy ...Let's wait....N try to be happy at present ....Our depression will also make our partner depressed .....Why should we leave our present happiness thinking on future...If it's going to happen it will happen ...Nothing is in our hand to see right away I feel.....Be happy until result

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ArienAnwamane

How did it go? Hoping you had a BFP in the end xx

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Mona12345 in reply to ArienAnwamane

Hi dear.....I went yesterday for blood test and it came out positive with hcg 1345. 14dp5dt.... I didn do any hpt....Was so depressed and negative feel about the results because I have zero symptoms . Tuesday will be my scan ..After 10yrs felt so happy to see a positive result. ....Hoping everything goes fine with scan ....Thank you all for your prayers and making me feel better whenever I come into this site...

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ArienAnwamane in reply to Mona12345

Amazing, so pleased for you

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