Thought I’d post a little update as I’ve been really worried about over sharing on here but today I can’t believe I’ve reached 28 weeks, the 3rd and final trimester.
This week I’ve also been able to reflect a lot on my anxiety and have realised that its not just down to suffering 2 mmc but the whole IVF journey, I think we forget how much it takes from us and trusting my body has been something I’ve really struggled with all the way along.
I’ve been checking in on here and hoping I’m still able to offer some helpful advice where I can. I hope whoever you are on your journey things are going well, I’m not going to tell you to never give up because that would be unfair.
Do what you need to survive this IVF rollercoaster as truthfully it’s the only way to get through 🧡
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I’m so happy for you. As you know I’ve had two mmcs and a miscarriage ten years ago so I can totally relate with everything you say. Great to see happy posts. Keep up the good work xx
That’s totally understandable, I was exactly the same and tbh I’m still terrified of going to scans 🙈 you will definitely get there in your own time, that’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s okay to do things when you feel ready xx
Thank you!!😘 Clinic said I could go end of next week but I want to make sure we have the best chance of seeing something if there is something to see! Think I'll just stick to my own timescales!!😂xx
Great to see this post, I often remember back to nearly 2 years ago when I started this process, took a little time out last year which was needed. Hope you enjoy the final trimester.... gives me inspiration to keep going 💕😊 xx
Really pleased to hear your doing well hunny and we all need to hear the positives as well, it’s what keeps so many of us going through this journey. I hope you have a stress free last trimester 😘
I'm so very happy for you. I've not forgotten the support you offered me when I was struggling and wish you all the very best in your 3rd trimester. Sending lots of love ❤ xxx
We are doing ok thanks. We had quite a traumatic birth which resulted in me having a large postpartum haemorrhage and this literally knocked me off my feet. It has taken me a good while to get going again as I was quite poorly afterwards but I am getting there now. I really hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and wishing you all tghe best. It's so lovely hearing happy news xxx
especially with the journey we go on to get to this stage. I found that, I had multiple bleeds off and on all the way through and with my history of low progesterone I was terrified of something going wrong. There was one moment when I was at work and only myself and one other colleague there who didn't know I was pregnant and I started to bleed quite heavily. Ended up just leaving v suddenly and being seen at EPU for emergency scan at only 5 weeks. Once I got to about 35 weeks I started to relax more knowing I was almost at full term. I'm still a bit anxious about my hormone levels and whether my progesterone has dropped too low again so awaiting blood tests to have this and my iron levels checked. I took each week as they came and once I got to 30 weeks the last trimester actually went by quite quickly. Enjoy every minute as best as you can and take time to rest. BIG hugs xxx
Oh gosh you went through so much, it’s a relief to know when you got to 35 weeks you felt a bit better I’ve been wondering if il feel like I can get more organised the closer I get xx
I found that just taking it week by week really helped, not thinking about what may or may not happen. Easier said then done, but after each week I literally said to myself 'we made it another week' and this did help ease my anxiety. I tried to rest as much as I could and it wasn't until the end that I started buying baby things as I couldn't cope with having baby items around the house if something did go wrong. By 35 weeks I actually felt really excited knowing we were nearly there. Hang on in there, and look after yourself. Don't be afraid to ask your midwife for any additional support or to simply just cast her eye on you and baby if you're worried about anything. I did this too. There were a couple of times where I thought I felt less movement and there was no hesitation in getting me in for a check and this did help reassure me. Do message me if you need a chat. Wishing you all the best and keep in touch xxx
That’s so true, I think I’ve been clumping the weeks together recently which is making it worse. How many weeks were you when you start buying things? So far we’ve only brought a couple of babygrows and I’m trying to block out everyone going on about me needing to get organised.
My midwife has been really good, I’ve been in twice with reduced movements and they’ve been so supportive and re assured me to never be worried about ringing xx
That's really good to hear that you have good support. We started shopping literally within the last month of me being pregnant. We made sure we had a car seat to bring baby home in, moses basket, enough sleep suits to ensure change of clothes and for washing, a pram and bottles / formula. I was so pleased we got the latter as due to my anaemia I really struggled to breastfeed as I couldn't produce enough milk so we had no choice but to top up with formula. I was really low after the birth, very tearful for a couple of weeks actually because I couldn't breastfeed but the midwife explained that it was simply that I couldn't produce any milk and this was caused by the haemorrhage. We had lots of gifts given to us after we got home from hospital mainly all clothes so really we didn't need to worry about getting many outfits. Oh, and we stocked up on fozen meals to save us shopping. All in the last month. I started my maternity leave 3 weeks before due date and used this time to potter and get things done. Don't worry about people advising on getting organised, easiest thing I found was just to nod along and know that I had all this to look forward to at the end which I really enjoyed as I felt more relaxed.
Thank you so much for your advice, it’s definitely reassured me that what I’m doing is okay. The tip about meals is such a good one to, hadn’t even thought about that one x
It’s so lovely to hear your update. You were the first person to welcome me to this forum about 18 months ago and I’ve followed your journey ever since.
I’m so so pleased for you, your story really gives me hope and I just hope you will be able to enjoy this moment at some point.
Whatever happens for all of us here we will carry the scars of infertility but it will make us stronger and appreciate what we have in a way others could never understand.
I think I underestimated how hard it would continue to be, that’s how I feel and in the moments I feel myself getting a little excited it’s like my brain tells me nope don’t jinx it xx
It definitely is and slightly unfair after all we go through we’re still full of anxiety that we won’t get our happy endings. I hope you and your little boy are doing well xx
Aww congrats hun, your in the final stretch! I can only imagine the anxiety, I have bad anxiety and I'm not even pregnant! Lol. I would be a headcase 🙃 And THANK YOU!!! Finally someone who doesnt say...never give up...you will get there. Well no we all wont get there, and not everyone can keep going. Whether it be financially (like myself) emotionally or physically or whatever, it's not going to happen for everybody. I know it's coming from a good place when people say it but it really upsets me.
I hope the rest of your pregnancy will go as smooth as can be, and look forward to your updates and baby pic of your little one 🤗😍💕 xxx
Thank you, I found that the most frustrating phrase to and I’ll be honest with you last year I felt like I had given up at times and accepted that was okay. It’s tough journey that no one truly understands unless they’ve walked it. I hope you are doing well and find comfort in whatever your next steps may be xx
Definately. It really upsets me when I hear it, as if I had a choice I would not give up and I would keep going till my eggs have run out! Luckily I have 2 frosties left, they are day 6s so apparently not as good as day 5s but I'm just happy I have another 2 chances. I'm starting my FET now actually just got AF 🤞🙏🤞 xxx
Exactly that, people don’t realise just how emotionally exhausting it is either. Lots of luck for your FET and try not to worry about quality, in the past I’ve had hatching blastocysts put and both them cycles were BFN xx
Tbh I didn’t actually ask as I didn’t want to know, in the past I’d focused so much on the quality and got my hopes up when they told me it’d been a hatching blastocyst that I decided this time it didn’t matter, if it was going to stick it would xx
What a beautiful, thoughtful & heart felt message. Thank you. 🙏🏻
That’s wonderful you have reached this stage after all the heartache you’ve endured. Wishing you all the best in this final stretch. ❤️
I’ve had two failed cycles and one mc (2 with own eggs then we went down donor route) and about to go for fibroid removal surgery before attempting again with our two remaining frozen embryos.
We’re drawing the line after that as it’s all just too hard. As much as we do long for a baby we feel our lives are on hold.
I’m 43 and the journey over the last 5 years has been the hardest thing emotionally I’ve/we’ve ever had to deal with (& I’ve had my fair share of things)!
Infertility is such a lonely heartbreaking place to be and unless you’re in thick of it yourself, it’s a hard thing for anyone to understand.
Forums like these really do help with the isolation of it all so thank you to you and all you other ivf warriors out there for sharing your stories and words of support.
Thanks again for the post and lots of love and luck with mummyhood! Xx
Extremely happy for you. You've done amazingly well to reflect and process this whole journey I know it's been a tough tough fight and your anxiety has really been a nightmare, your a true warrior who has done what you could do and look you are on cloud 9 not long to go to meet your precious bundle you so so deserve this. I'm immensely happy for you well done lovely hugs and xxxx
Hes doing really well unfortunately I've been struggling and now got the shingles it's been never ending health issues since I was induced I just can't wait to be my old self xxxx
Great news and I appreciate your feedback and I kno it's been a hard time for me after getting a BFN on my 1 ivf cycle. It's has been a hard year for me in 2018 because not only that my first round fail I found that my lil brother is having a baby and many others of my friends. It's been rough attending those baby showers. I wish everyone on here all the luck on there journey towards parenthood. Sending you lots of prayers and baby dust.
So sorry it’s so hard to cope with family members pregnancy announcements, do what you need to get through and if that means saying no to some baby showers remember that’s okay.
Thank you for sharing this is truly wonderful news. It is lovely to hear positive journeys as it keeps us going and motivated. Sending lots of love xxx
Thank for the advice and it's so hard to say no because sumtime they tink your hating on them for not supporting them. My lil nephew arrive today and it's a happy sad moment. Take care
I am glad things are going smoothly for you. I just started my IVF journey recently. I am really nervous this time. It is my second cycle but with a different clinic. Really hoping for the best. It truly is a roller coaster. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust your way.
Lots of luck for your 2nd cycle, I hope it all goes well with the new clinic 🤞🏻
Well done on holding on in there as I know that anxiety feeling and loss. So happy you’ve survived and wishing you all the best with your final trimester xxx
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