Fourth failed transfer

[hoping-for-the-best]

Started spotting Thursday evening; now it’s full flow. Didn’t even make it a week. That’s four failed transfers in a year - with such poor fertilisation this round I’m losing hope that it’ll ever happen for us. Feel so low.

[Missy_22]

I’m so sorry reading this!! No words. We are all here for you xxxx

[hoping-for-the-best in reply to Missy_22]

Thank you Missy, that means a lot xxxx

[Cinderella5]

Im sorry, its so hard getting failed transfer after failed transfer....Ive had 4 fails too so far! Sending big hugs.xx

[hoping-for-the-best in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks 🙏 I don’t know where we find the strength to keep going, hopefully I will feel more positive next time round. It’s still so raw and feel completely hopeless. I wish you all the best for your next cycle 🤞 xxx

[Cinderella5 in reply to hoping-for-the-best]

It just takes time to build that strength again....Ive no idea where it comes from but we seems to get there although that feeling of helplessness never seems to go away for me. I hate being so out of control of everything. Hope you have some nice things planned that you can look forward to. Thanks for your well wishes, much appreciated.xx

[Stacia]

i am so sorry, i can only imagine how you feel, i have failed twice myself too, currently succumbing to the 2ww

[hoping-for-the-best in reply to Stacia]

Thank you. Good luck with the rest of the 2WW, hope you have your BFP at the end of it 🤞

[Aleelilook]

I’m so sorry 😞 sending strength your way xxxx

[KJLee]

So sorry to hear this 😔 xx

[Saya85]

I'm sooo sorry to hear that- it's so devestating when you bleed so early too. It happened to me on first cycle after 6 day.

Second cycle night before otd 😪

Although I read in your post that there is male factor infertility can I ask if you have bled so heavily this early in 2ww before?

I only mention this as it happened to me twice and we worked out its low progesterone - increasing the pessaries and using progesterone injections so far seems to be working much better.

As you are now 3-4 years older than your last pregnancy it might be that you need more support going forward?

I hope you find some time and solace to heal yourself over the next few weeks but I thought to mention it for future cycles if you try again as it's often overlooked but easiest to treat and maybe it will help

Thinking of you xxx

[hoping-for-the-best in reply to Saya85]

Thank you Saya, I appreciate the info and glad it has worked out for you, hopefully you will have a much better chance now. They really should test progesterone for everyone from the outset, not just when this happens - makes me mad when we are spending so much money. I did bleed in the summer when I was on pessaries - that one was actually a chemical pregnancy as it started out showing positive on the test then faded. I moved to injections after that (clinic were reluctant and just said they’re very expensive), but always wondered if that was the reason it failed. Given this one has failed with good progesterone levels and I still started bleeding early, I’m reassured that the chemical pregnancy was down to factors beyond my control.

My main worry now is what to expect for our final round given we only had one egg fertilise this time, even with ICSI. It only happens in 1-3% of cases so either we were extremely unlucky or this is our new normal and that’s that. Can’t get a follow up appointment or even the results of the internal review until the new year, so don’t know what to expect and if they will be saying our chances are slim now. Will just have to try and forget about it somehow until then, in the meantime I’m starting to properly mourn what may never be xxx

[Saya85 in reply to hoping-for-the-best]

It's so difficult isn't it. At least you have tried as much as you can and hopefully they will have new answers for you in the new year

I think you're right to give yourself some breathing space - I took a lot of time off in between cycles especially as it threw my thyroid levels off also. Just not having to think about tresmtnera and injections and appointments can be a relief to Know yourself time to focus on healing and finding happiness in other things for now.

Hope you find some solace and time to process it x

[aamiller405]

im so sorry youre going through this 😥 xo

[MissSaoPaulo]

I'm sorry to see this hon, that's so tough xxx

[Anya80]

I’m sorry to hear that, I hope you will get the strength soon!

My first ivf failure was to bleed early 7dp5dt! That was very disappointing, I was given only progesterone with pessaries (crinone gel ) and I knew it this is the cause of it! I switched to injections later this made a trick, never bled before OTD!

Now I’m even on mega progesterone dosage with injections and cyclogest pessaries. I strongly believe that in ivf treatment progesterone supportive should be proper such is injections, as they are best to built the level of hormones which you require to maintain pregnancy, I’ve found crinone gel to be just to weak for me while on ivf journey. Maybe you can ask your clinic to give it them to you next time!

Wish you all the best hun xxx

[hoping-for-the-best in reply to Anya80]

Thanks Anya - I am on the injections already and had a blood test a few days in to see what my levels were, they came back at 140 so way above what they need to be which was reassuring. I previously had a bleed and wondered if that was why, which is the reason I requested the injections. I wish it were an easy fix like this but fear there is something wrong with our egg/sperm quality given only one fertilised, which makes me think it’s the end of the road for us 😓xxx

[Anya80 in reply to hoping-for-the-best]

Oh dear me! Sounds as-maybe further testing required. I feel your concerns! With this journey is rather going through exclusion cause then finding right issue as they are not straight forward.

I wish you your doctors will the answers for you soon!

[hoping-for-the-best in reply to Anya80]

Yes it seems to be a very expensive case of trial and error, with no clear answers! I’m even wondering if it could have been bad injection technique by the embryologist but guess we’ll never know.

Congratulations on your bfp by the way, wishing you all the best for your pregnancy.

[Anya80 in reply to hoping-for-the-best]

It’s just sucks isn’t and it’s not nice to place to be in, I just hope you’ll find solution soon! My prayers goes to you😘

Thank you, I’ll got there by third attempt but still worry, this feeling never goes away even if one step closer in the journey!

[ChristineB05]

I am so sorry to hear this lovely. Thinking of you and sending you loads of positive thoughts and big hugs. Just focus on taking on day at a time and be kind to yourself, we all have had feelings of hopelessness and helplessness but we somehow find the strength to keep going on to realise our dreams 💜💜