Hi all,
In my home country the society is voting for the "word of the year" and similarly the "no-go word of the year" when the year is coming to an end.
For me this (although more a sentence) clearly is: JUST RELAX AND IT WILL HAPPEN!
I cannot express how much I hate this sentence. I am an absolute supporter that a healthy body needs a healthy mind but this is just to much, especially when there is a medical reason behind it.
It is especially annoying from people that are male and have no idea about any of this usually in combination with "making a baby is so much fun". But also from people that went through this whole pain with a successful outcome (clearly not everybody just some. They suddenly seem to have forgotten the pain and despair.
Getting pregnant is a biochemical process and if it happens or not clearly does not depend on our mood. I am doing yoga/meditation to calm my nerves but how can I relax when I am going to the clinic twice a week with bloods taken and having a scan? I look like a drug adddict with all the injection bruises on my body and I feel like a breeding hen when doctors discuss if I am growing eggs.
My best cycle I ever had (in terms of egg quality) was when I was most stressed. I had been working 12hrs a day including weekends. Now that I am totally relaxed, taking some days off and having chilled working days, I dont even respond to the medication.
Sorry for this long moan but I just cannot hear that any more!
xx