Was just wondering if you are still advised to wait until you are 12 weeks before you have a scan and tell people. I'm in my 2ww so not even sure how you count the weeks.
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I got a bit carried away and found a ivf pregnancy due date calendar online .. it said that with 5dt I was almost 3weeks.. and my own personal plan is to wait until 16 weeks if I can xx
It really is up to you. But the miscarriage rate decreases significantly after 12 weeks so if you want to reduce the risk of telling people then having to talk about a potential miscarriage then waiting is a good idea. Most people tell their wider circle of friends after their dating scan.
Count the weeks from the date of your last period, as with a normal pregnancy (I was asking my Dr exactly the same thing this morning) or from transfer date, then add about 2 weeks - but I think the first is easier.
It's totally up to you when you tell people (fingers crossed you'll have some good news soon!!) but he said to us this morning, in his opinion, before 12 weeks only tell people you would be comfortable also telling about a loss. God forbid it happens but if it does it's usually in the 1st trimester. I don't want to tell anyone before 12 weeks, but I think after not drinking at all over Christmas and NY those close to me are going to work it out anyway!!
Best of luck with yours, hope the 2ww isn't driving you too crazy!!!
Hey miss São Paulo-
Just a quick thought As I was scrolling through - if people do ask why you’re not drinking (if they know you’re ttc /ivf then you could just say you’re trying to stay clean pre/diring treatment rather than it being due to pregnancy if you don’t want to share the full news x
You calculate the weeks by adding 2 weeks to the date of your egg collection, so my collection was 3 weeks 2 days ago and I am now 5 weeks 2 days pregnant. This is how it works with a 5dt anyway. And my clinic offers you an 'early reassurance' scan at around 6/7 weeks but I'll only be sharing the news with family and close friends x
The first nhs one is at 12 weeks. You can pay for private reassurance scans at any point. If you Google ivf due date calculator and put in whether it's a 3dt or 5dt etc it will tell you how far along you are
I believe after ivf they give you a scan in week 7- gestational age
So it’s usually a couple weeks after you get a BFp to check the sac and embryo
But 12 weeks will be end of first trimester and when the baby is mostly developed so yes I would advice as others have done and only tell close people if you wish.
I’m currently wondering whether to tell my close family when we have a BFp or the 7 week scan.
I got a 7 week scan from the fertility clinic, I was also discharged from them at that appointment. My next scan was my 12 week scan with my local maternity unit x
I have had a 6 week and an 8 week scan at the instruction of my clinic. Next will be onto nhs. Every week the risk of miscarriage decreases. There is a website somewhere that allows you to work out the risk based on age etc. I think even at 8 weeks I was up at the 97% safe zone.
As above I would advise that if you do want to tell people, make it only really close ones who you wouldn't mind telling about a loss to too. We are going out for dinner with a bunch of friends at the 11 week mark and planning to tell some then xx
I think most clinics give you a viability scan around the 6 weeks mark to make sure all is ok and as IVF carries a higher chance of multiple births to check on the amount. Good luck to you x
I had an early scan at 10 weeks due to spotting & my dating scan I was 12+3.
As we had a chemical pregnancy last year we didn’t tell many people- all we told was our mums, siblings & my our line manager.
I told a few work colleagues after my 10 week scan as I’d had time off work & didn’t want to lie.
I didn’t announce it properly to friends & family until I was over 12 weeks.
Good luck with 2WW hope it’s good news for you soon xoxo
Glad you got to the announcing part
Hi, firstly fingers are crossed!! When we phoned the clinic with our result, the nurse was able to tell us how far on we were & it uses the egg collection date rather than period start date. It works out roughly as someone's already said by adding 2 weeks to your egg collection date.
Secondly, our IVF clinic provides "viability scans" - at 6weeks if there were certain issues or factors or normally at 7 weeks if thins have been fairly straight forward. This is basically to check that baby has implanted and everything is as it should be .Then we were discharged and onto the "normal" pregnancy clinics!!!! We've had our 12 week scan, 20 week scan is at the start of Jan. which is the norm. Our obstetrician consultant has requested a further 3 scans at i think off the top of my head at 28, 32 and 36 purely just to check everything's OK and baby growing OK - they are concerned about anything just now & everything is going well.
Am keeping my fingers crossed for you and wishing you all the best!!! xx