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Wrapping myself in cotton wool-need reassurance!

Hi everyone,

So following my embryo transfer 2 days ago I have become a bit anxious that I strain myself/over exert in any way. I’m finding that I’m second guessing even the smallest of tasks (like emptying the washing machine or carrying a bag of shopping) incase I do anything to harm implantation.

This might sound silly but when I was leaving the supermarket today it was pouring rain and I forgot myself for a moment and jogged the few metres to the car. Was instinct and didn’t even realise I was doing it. Now I’m panicking that this may have been harmful. Am I being silly? The clinic did say to carry on with life as normal and the only advice exercise wise was to avoid heavy lifting or anything that would strain the abdominal area. Surely this light jog literally a few metres was ok? Xx

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Hi, it’s so easy to worry but honestly that wouldn’t have done any damage. The advice your clinic gave really are the things that you need to avoid. Although my acupuncturist advised I took it easy during the possible implementation phase. So I cut my daily walks down for that time. But continued on with everyday tasks as normal. I rested as I didn’t feel well for a few days. But you are safe to continue as normal. I’ve read studies that women that exercised after implantation (non high impact) had more benefit than bed rest. So your little jog was most likely more of a benefit 😄 hope that’s put your mind at rest a little. You’ll drive yourself crazy otherwise! 🤯 xx

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Thank you for replying. I was so annoyed afterwards but I guess it was just instinct to get out of the rain. It was literally metres and I know deep down I’m being ridiculous but I’m terrified I do something wrong 😩

Trying to tell myself that so many women fall pregnant spontaneously and carry on their daily business without a clue they are implanting/early preggers.

The joys of the 2ww! Xx

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That’s true, I didn’t mention that part as I get told that a lot. Normally you wouldn’t know at this stage! And I know it’s true! But we do know and we want to do everything we can possible to make that work! Don’t be hard on yourself. Do what your comfortable with. You’d never want any regrets. Try and keep busy.

This 2ww is hard! I’m 5dpt and my mind is exploding now wanting to know the outcome!

Xx

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I’m only 2 days post transfer of a 5 day embryo - not even sure if implantation would have begun yet? 🤔 if its going to stick it’ll stick 🙏🏻.

I’m going to be a nightmare this 2 weeks - it’s the lack of chocolate & caffeine 😂. Thanks for reassurance xx

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Hi Adzee, our of curiosity why no chocolate ? X

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Hi, probably me taking things to extremes....I read that there is caffeine in chocolate so I’ve been avoiding it. It’s not easy 😂 x

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Really? I don’t think I’m ready to put away the Nutella and the spoon. It’s my only luxury left atm! 😩 x

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I feel your pain! Haha. I’m probably being over cautious, ridiculous infact. I’m terrified I do something wrong 😩x

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Oh it would take more than a mini jog to dislodge an embryo! The human body is way too smart for that ;-) If that embryo is gonna implant there actually isn't that much you can do to stop it! Relax and don't be so hard on yourself. Good luck for the next 10 days or so xx

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Thank you - I like your perspective on it! Xx

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No advise for you but I was exactly the same. My husband was the same. I was worried about everything. All I can say is relax and have some me time. Good luck xxx

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Thanks Lynn. It’s good to hear I’m not alone in the worrying xx

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The light little jog would definitively not have an impact on implanantation. I agree with Renee1987- if it’s going to stick, it will.

I walked for several kms a few times a week (I trained a lot before treatment) during my 2ww and I’m 29 weeks pregnant now!

Enjoy the beautiful autumn. Xxx

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Thanks for your kindness and congratulations on your pregnancy!!! I’ll try to stop beating myself up about it xx

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I was the same too although this time I am trying to be a little more relaxed about it (much easier said than done).

Honestly you will be fine with your light jog.

Good luck with your wait and results xx

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Thank you! It’s just such a worrying time!! I need to chill out 🤪xx

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It definitely is. More so than anything else in the world

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I’m a bit extreme though - you wouldn’t believe I was worried about going for a ‘number 2’ this morning incase I strained my body in any way. I’m officially insane and only 2 days in 😂xx

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I did look that up. Apparently it is ok. But just in case I have started making sure I get enough water each day so I don't have to strain... x

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But I guess I have to add that it isn't the worst thing in the world, there are lots of people going through much much worse.

But the worst thing in the world in regards to fertility journeys... of course xx

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I carried on as normal except for heavy lifting during my 2WW ( okay it wasn’t IVF-I had clomid after my 3rd surgery for treatment of endometriosis) & I got my BFP & I’m 9 weeks on Sunday.

I agree with others if it’s right it will stick & don’t think there is much you can do decrease your chances.

Wishing you the best on the 2WW & hope it is a BFP xoxo 😘

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Thank you Jess, I like the thought that there’s not much I can do to decrease my chances.

Huge congrats on your pregnancy - lovely lovely news xx

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The only thing i would like to add is if you are feeling tired or fatigued (i was so fatigued it was unbelievable - given thay im an active person who likes to keep busy) listen to your body and rest.

I am 7 weeks pregnant and have no regrets being off work. Everyone is different as are their bodies. I allowed the embryo to do all the hard work whilst i tried to take it easy.... but as always anxiety kicks in... thats when you start watching box sets and try to go for short walks and meals etc lol.

All the best with the wait and the results. Xx

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Thanks Masha. Congratulations on your pregnancy, lovely news. I’ve not felt tired yet but still only 2 days past transfer so it may be to come xx

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It's so easy to say and hard to do bit really do try and relax. Take your mind off it completely. The day of my transfer, I came home and watched a comedy. It was the best idea. I laughed so much and truly forgot. Try not to obsess and try and act as you would normally - you dont need extra stress.

Over the 2ww I actually went back to work (I work with children and actually found it therapeutic being around them). Any time ivf came into my head, I write down all my worries, doubts and fears in a diary. Therefore I felt like I'd dealt with the problem and didn't dwell on it. I also wrote down my hopes and dreams, and I let myself believe.

I have my baby now :)

Eat nice food, meet up with good friends and spend quality time with your partner. Best of luck!

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Thank you so much, I’ll try my hardest to take your advice on board. I actually have an IVF diary that I wrote some stuff in yesterday. I like to think it’ll be a keepsake in years to come xx

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One day I'll show my baby and he'll know how much he is loved!

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