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After 2 rounds of ivf, 2 weeks in hospital with severe OHSS, 6 cycles of clomid, and 5 long hard years of infertility, today should have been my 7 week scan for my first pregnancy. However we lost our precious little one at 6 weeks last week.

Any advice on how to stay positive for future cycles would be much appreciated, I’m doubting my strength to continue 😢

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Autumnmoon

I'm sorry you have had such a struggle In all honesty I am amazed that people do carry on sometimes the dream is just so special that somehow they find extra strength from somewhere I would only say take it easy grieve and regroup and do whatever feels right for you sending love and the hope for a better time x

I am so sorry. Big hugs to you xx

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NsKaz

Oh my lovely you have had such a tough time. So sorry to hear that. Life can be so cruel sometimes. Take all the time you need to grieve, look after yourself as much as you can. I honestly don’t think being positive or negative about a cycle affects the outcome. I was so positive for my first cycle and it was negative (ending in OHSS) and started out in the depths of despair and feeling really negative for my FET and it ended up positive. I’m only saying that because o think we put so much pressure on ourselves to be positive / keep it together but it’s ok to not be ok. This is the hardest journey but you will find the strength from somewhere xxx sending you love and hugs xxx

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Sausage11

Bless you. It’s such a cruel journey, what a blow. I don’t think any part of this is easy but I think there are times when you’re feeling stronger than other times. Perhaps now is the time to concentrate on you, on mentally and physically giving yourself what you need before you can think about moving forward. It may not feel like it butThere are always always always options. You don’t need to think about those right now if you dont want to, you just need to get through the next hour or day and then week. You’ve shown your strength to get to where you are today and you can find that strength again xx

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Dunla

I’m very sorry for your loss and for all that you’ve been through.

I don’t know that it gets easier but with time you may feel a little bit stronger and ready to try again if you wish to.

Give yourself some time to grieve and be kind to your body and mind at this difficult time xx

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Tugsgirl

I’m so sorry for your loss. So sorry. Yes, it does get easier. Have a little look at my story and you’ll see I’ve been through the mill too and that’s why I can tell you it does get easier. Sending love xx

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Shirazlover2013

It’s a shitty journey to be on, particularly right now for you. Im so sorry to hear about your loss. Take time to look after yourself. And then at some point you’ll regroup and think about next steps. You’re a strong person to have gotten this far, you may be knocked down but not necessarily out. Sending big hugs xxoo

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Masha111

That is awful. Im so sorry for your loss. I cant imagine what you must be going through. Only that i am feeling sad with you and i pray you will be ok, you will get there. It usually happens when you least expect it too. Listen to all the ladies advice above, they have been in same situations and we all share your pain. Sending lots of hugs and love xx

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