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Does the waiting ever get easier…..

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Hi All

Hope everyone is doing ok. I know I shouldn’t moan as I am lucky enough to currently be 5 weeks pregnant and I know some of lovely ladies (and gentleman) have had some devastating news this year and my heart and prayers go out to you all. I though the 2 WW was bad but it is nothing compared to the wait till your official scan.

As it was DE transfer my clinic is requesting an 8 week scan which would be 22nd November. The last 7 days since I found that I had a positive result have seemed to be the longest in my life. I’m not sure if it’s because we find out earlier than a natural pregnancy but every day seems to be the equivalent to 10!!! I’m even working 6 days a week for the next couple thinking being busy at work time would fly how wrong am I..

So far I have had minimal/no symptoms (tender to touch breasts last week but have gone now) so I think I am now stressing myself out thinking this is going to end and soon, is it wrong to wish I had some sort of symptoms just because I think it will make it real!. I also think I may have gone a little mad as I keep doing a HPT every 2-3 day to ensure the result hasn’t changed!! It’s costing me a fortune… I know I should stop but it’s like a bad addiction .

Sorry for the moan I just had to get what was bothering me out hoping I will feel better. I thought I would be over the moon with excitement about a positive result but it doesn’t seem to be the case at the moment.

Much love xx

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Congratulations on your BFP. I agree the waiting for the scan is much worse than the 2WW.

For this BFP I had lots of bleeding and had to be scanned every week and even that felt a lifetime.

Try not to worry about symptoms I had nothing both times at that stage. I would try not to do tests a lot though because unfortunately it does still show positive if something bad has happened as I found out last year so my second time I just did a test on test day and that was it (saved a lot of money!)

I hope all goes well when you finally get there! Xx

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Thank you for the reply - I did think that about the tests so will my best it to do it any more.

All the best for your pregnancy hope it all works out for you xx

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Thank you. Try keep thinking positive thoughts I’ve got everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🍀 xx

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Cinderella5

Oh dear having never gotten to your stage I have no ideahow you must feel! Im finding the 2ww hard enough at the moment, driving myself flipping crazy! Speaking to most of the ladies you're not alone in thinking this part is even worse. Best of luck xx

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Dreamer0204 in reply toCinderella5

Thank you, wishing a speedy 2WW hoping it’s almost coming to an end for you and you get the result youve been waiting for xx

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Tugsgirl

What you’re describing is all too normal after a bfp. Sadly. People think the tww is hard but it’s got nothing on waiting for scans. As for the symptoms, I had a few, including nausea, but it was no indication that everything was ok with my babies as sadly they’d passed away. And my tests were really strong. I’m just saying, try not to get too hung up on them. I know it’s hard.

Good luck for your scan. I hope the time starts going quicker for you xx

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Dreamer0204 in reply toTugsgirl

Thank you, I’m so sorry about your loss. Think I need to forget about all the test and just think positively for the next 2 weeks what will be will be 🙂

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Hey hun

None of what your feeling is wrong and tbh I feel the exact same as you and I conceived naturally each day is way too long no symptoms and it's, driving me mad iv done the poas really bad habit, was doing it every day now iv stopped and will probably do one the morning of my next scan I'm convinced something is wrong. I'm just letting you know your not alone and everything you've said, I feel. It's hard and it's torture the tww is nothing compared to this and I guess it's the same for ivf ladies. Iv even looked up to see if there's ultra, sound equipment you can buy for home (crazy I know) iv never been this, crazy in all of my life.

I'm wishing you all the best for your scan and hope it all works out just perfect for you hun

Lots of love and hugs.💗🤗😘

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Dreamer0204 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

Thank you 🙂 glad in some strange way it’s not just me that’s feeling like this and that I’m not totally loosing it lol

We read so much about what we should be feeling/experiencing and when we don’t panic mode sets it - I blame the additional hormones we have.

All the best for your next scan hope it’s everything you want it to be and more

xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply toDreamer0204

I am glad too. I know what you mean and I hope everything works out for us both. I officially hate Google I try my best to stay away it's not good for our mental state

Wish you all the best hun and I'm here you ever need to chat 💗🤗😘

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Dreamer0204 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

Thank you same goes for you too xx

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