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Feeling old...1st IVF at 34/35

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Hi all,

I've been TTC for a long time before being diagnosed with endometriosis. I have now started my IVF cycle at the age of 34 (almost 35) and have a lot of anxiety thinking I may still be able to have 1 baby but it's def too late for 2 aware of my endo growing back quickly probably. I guess I just need some reassurance and help not to blame myself why I started this so late and if I could have done anything to get my endo diagnose earlier.

Just feeling really sad today, my friend recommended this group and I'm already finding support in your posts.

xxxx

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Autumnmoon profile image
Autumnmoon

Wishing you all the best you are the same age as my daughter who was lucky enough that her IVF this year was successful and baby due Dec fingers I'd for you too x

34/35 isn’t old! Plenty of time 😘

I also have endometriosis & it took us nearly 6 years to get a diagnosis! 🤦🏽‍♀️it’s not your fault , I wish I got my diagnosis of endo earlier but I didn’t until I was 35. It’s not standard to check for endometriosis which is rubbish when everything else is 🤦🏽‍♀️

We had a chemical pregnancy after my first laparoscopy & because my endometriosis regrew I’ve had 2 surgeries to treat the endo this endo- the lady surgery was by an endo surgeon ( it grows rapidly & on my POD, uteroscaral ligaments & rectum) Following the surgery & a round of clomid I am 7 weeks pregnant!

It was difficult managing my endometriosis with TTC.

I followed the anti inflammatory diet which eased some symptoms, took a low dose aspirin daily, used bee propolis as it’s very healing, and took a simple fertility/pregnancy supplement daily.

Since the pregnancy has been established my endometriosis is suppressed 😊 ( surgery has never eased it)

Ladies with endometriosis can conceive & have successful pregnancies.

We have decided not to try again if we are lucky enough to have this baby( my endo just makes it difficult) & it’s such a hard journey.

All the best with your IVF wishing you success with it ✨❤️😘 xoxo

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Kari55

Letting myself believe that I was old was definitely a big mistake. Unfortunately, my NHS consultant made me feel very negative about my age too. But honestly, don’t feel old at all because you are not! X

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Sorry to read your NHS consultant made you feel that way. I had pretty much the same experience. He basically made me feel like what was the point? Idiots to put even more pressure on us! X

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Yes, they have no right to do this at all! She said that I will never have top quality embryos because I’m old. I just had a cycle in a private clinic and had top quality one and a few more good ones which are on ice now. When I see plenty of people getting pregnant easily in their 40s, I really don’t believe that fertility drops that drastically as it being said to us. Good luck to you, maybe you should change your clinic and have a different consultant? X

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I totally agree with you. I went private earlier this year & couldn't believe how different their attitude was. I had pretty much given up all hope before walking into that place. I am currently 32 weeks pregnant after my first cycle there & looking around at my hospital appointments I don't look to be the only over 40 mum to be by a long shot. Wishing you all the best for the future too. X

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Sunset81

Hi Hun I had my first ivf at 36 and now have a beautiful 15 month old girl so keep positive I also suffer with severe endometriosis and other illness so don’t give up hope xxx

I was diagnosed with Stage 4 Endometriosis at age 33. I had surgery for it at 33 & 35. We were due to start NHS funded IVF when I concieved naturally at 38. This ended in miscarriage. I then concieved naturally again when I just turned 40 but again had a miscarriage. The NHS made me feel ancient at times & I got really down over the age thing. I went to a private clinic the start of the year where their attitude was totally different, positive & encouraging which instantly gave me much needed hope. I know I'm one of the really lucky ones & count my blessings every day but I'm 32 weeks pregnant after my first IVF cycle with my own eggs. My little boy is due a month before I turn 42. Wishing you lots of luck & I hope you get a happy ending too. X

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Music1

You're not too old at all. Some clinics make you feel that way as they want you to start asap. I'd say it's the perfect time and you're def not too old. Sadly it took me may 7+ years to be diagnosed with Endo, and that was after paying for private surgery, as my reg GP told me it was simply IBS and dismissed everything I told them. I'd say you're the perfect age ... wishing you all the best and every success under the sun. My friend started your age and now has 2 beautiful boys. x

Your def. not old!

I’m 39 and have just had my first and finger crossed so far successful ivf cycle.

There were many girls in their 40s in the clinic, some even in their 50s I would say!

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Aleelilook

Oh my definitely not old! I’m 35, started IVF at 33, I’ve had my endocrinologist, GP, and my lovely staff at my clinic all reassure my that 35 is not old, and there’s plenty of time!! I totally panicked, but actually once the iris started reassuring me I felt much better!! Xxx

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KiraJean

You are not old! I was 33 when I started IVF. And my doctor reassured me I was young and had plenty of time. I wish you all the luck! Xxx

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Lynnr54

You’re definitely not too old for babies. I know having endo is an added challenge but there are plenty of ladies who do and are older and go on to have them. I’ve not got endo but I had my first round of IVF at 35, my son was born when I was 36. I started trying with IVF again when I was 37, conceived no 2 at 38 and will be almost 39 when he is born. And there are loads of other stories of “older” mums on here. It’s a difficult journey and definitely best you’re on it now but please don’t let your age start worrying you. Good luck!

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michelle1973

I’m 45 & 22 weeks pregnant, you’re a spring chicken compared to me! 🐣

Good luck on your journey X

I understand the sadness. But also think you are definitely still old enough to have more than one child even with the problems you have had. Most of my friends became first time mum at over 35 and I’m now pregnant myself at 40- started trying at 36 and only found out cause of infertility at 39. Sadly not everyone gets to choose how many children they have or when they have them but try to keep the hope, and focus on getting that first pregnancy in the bag! Good luck sweetie x

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Elynn

Prof Robert Winston would disagree you are old. 😀 dont think about your age keep strong and healthy ...lots of great support here and lots of wonderful success stories. Take heart 😀

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Binky1983

Don’t feel old! I’m 35 and pregnant at the moment, I’ll be 36 if this pregnancy makes it🤞🏻 I’d like to have more than one but If it happens it happens, my partner is 39 so he’s not sure. But I definitely don’t think 35 is too old for more than one! X

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Sweets1

If it helps, im 35, soon to be 36 and my husband is 30 and I felt old, but age is just a number, and I know the older you are the harder it is, but honestly don’t worry! It’s taken us two year to get here. We are just crossing everything that we get our little bundle of joy someday xxx

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