Today has been rubbish. I tried so hard to be positive and take my mind off things. I cleaned the house from top to bottom, did stuff in the garden went into town charity shop shopping (one of my favourites past times!). I tried to turn myself around with positivity but what actual happened is I totally failed and pee'd on a god damn pregnancy test which of course was negative. I've never tested early before (this is my 3rd transfer) why oh why did I do it??!!
So now I feel crap because it's negative and rubbish because I have zero will power!
I know it's early and I know I'm being hard on myself, but this whole journey is just really getting to me today. Plus OH is on a stag weekend so I'm home alone, which is why I got away with testing!
Here's to tomorrow being a better day and no more peeing on sticks!
I could kill for a very large glass of red wine right now.
and finally the age old question which I know we've all googled at some point, has anyone got a negative at this stage and then it's changed to a positive?
Thank you all for all your ongoing advice, understanding and support xxx
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It’s so tempting I know how you feel. All we have waited for is those two lines or a ‘pregnant’ digital test.
Don’t be hard on yourself, i know it’s difficult not to be deflated but it’s very early days I am in the same boat - although it’s been two days since my transfer.
I keep thinking I’ve failed before I started, next minute I’m sure it’ll work - literally all over the place xx
Me! I got a negative at 11 dpo & then a faint positive at 12 dpo & I’m now 29 weeks! You’re just a little early, don’t be hard on yourself. Try to wait another 3 days to test again if you can, it will save the torturous uncertainty. Keeping everything crossed for you xx
That's a super positive message. Thanks for sharing that to support the original poster! Congratulations for the pregnancy, it's 29 weeks a few more to go to the great day. Sending you love!
Well, I can totally relate to you... it's hard to refrain from POAS when you've had a struggling TTC all the way to IVF. No matter how you try to keep distracted it doesn't work. My clinic informed me that it'll probably be easier to give pregnancy the best chance if I could avoid the emotionally upsetting testing we usually fall for. There's always more chance of false negatives than false positive. I tried that by not buying any test when I was on my last 2 transfers... didn't turn out any successful though but I was able to fight the urge to test too soon. About you, 5DP6DT is a little early for a positive... some would get early but then it's not yet time in general. Stay positive as optimism helps through tough hurdles. Give yourself a relaxing time both mentally and physically and wait it out... maybe a binge on your favourite snacks watching Netflix.. not too emotional or violent stuff though for the time being. Hopefully, everything else will just be on track and in the process of making it a success. Wish you all the luck in the world!! <3<3 keep us posted
Thank you for replying! I’ve spent the evening relaxing with the fire on, snacks and Netflix’s so feeling much better. On my previous cycles I had much more will power! Staying well away from pregnancy tests from now on! Xxx
Been in that shoe. 2ww even in case of a medicated TTC or when you use OPK to help you conceive is overwhelming to stay away from POAS. During IVF, with all the long wait and the process and the emotional weight of failures that had marred the TTCs before, you just tend to grow more inclined to test and keep on testing hoping to find out early if you're pregnant. It'll only get more intense with time or the tries... though I really hope it doesn't have to move onto a next round. I think any woman can relate to the pressing urge of POAS as you try to get pregnant be it with or without assistance. I think you're feeling more in control now after the relaxing time. Just don't buy the test... if you can stick to that it might work to keep you emotionally stable till the OTD or at least long enough to avoid false negatives. Stay positive, stay happy it all adds to the success somehow even if it's not a sure shot.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, the 2ww is one of the most difficult things to go through - it totally consumes you!! And no amount of distraction can take your mind off it (as you have proven today).
As you have already said, it is very early - not many people get a positive at this stage!! Can I ask what test you used? Our first test was an internet cheapie, & was negative at first, but hours later DP looked at it again & there was a squinter of a second line. The cheap ones only gave a definite positive at 10dp5dt.
Above all though, please remember that everyone’s experience is unique, so try to remain positive! xx
It really does consume you! It was a first response I used. You are so right it is just to early I’m going to go out tomorrow and aim not to go completely crazy! 🤣
Too early to test I guess, from literature the earliest HCG is dissolved can be on 6dp5dt and with my FET I’ve got BFN on day 4th and 5th past transfer but faint positive on 6dp5dt . You had 6dt but this might be way to early, pls be hopeful things can be different soon😉
It actually varies for everyone... best to test around 10DP5DT. Though women hardly wait that long and indulge in testing way before that timeline. It's same like some women get a BFP right around 6-8 day after ovulation but for some, it takes a day or two, post you've had missed your AF to get the first glimpse of a promising test line. Congratulations on your BFP... take care and prepare for the newborn. Sending Love!
Hi VonnVonn so glad it wasn't just me that caved! It's so hard isn't it are you going to test again or just wait? I think I'm definitely going to wait and get my partner to hide the tests!
See the story below your post it gave me lots of hope. Go easy on yourself and sending all the luck in the world xxx
I also tested around day 5 (without my husband knowing) and had a negative I was convinced it’d not worked. So on official date I did my test and saw nothing but I didn’t leave it long enough and when my husband looked it was actually a positive. Hope things go the same way for you good luck. X
Thank you so much for sharing your story, definitely making me feel hopeful. I’m not going to do anymore tests I’m going to sit on my hands and wait! Thank you xxx
Also don’t worry if you don’t have any “ symptoms”or feel AF is coming. I didn’t & thought I had af cramps last Saturday, it was implantation cramps! ( I’m 5 weeks today very early days) xoxo
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Congratulations for the pregnancy, it's 29 weeks a few more to go to the great day. Sending you love!
I'm so annoyed!!
Feeling deflated *test day*
Tested too early and now feeling so down 😞
4dp5dt positive test???
So excited then so terrified for tomorrow!
