Couldn’t reach the ovary!

[deborahclaire]

Hello.

We have just had our 2nd round (out of a three round package) with very upsetting/ frustrating results.

During our egg collection, the doctor kept trying for 45 minutes but said my ovary kept disappearing up between my bowel and my bladder. So despite everything having been really positive up to that point- no eggs. They couldn’t get anything from my left one either.

I feel so .. well I don’t know. Sad. Angry. Confused. Useless.

The pain after egg collection was worse than the first time and all I could do was lay in bed, crying, feeling wretched and thinking how it was all for nothing. All the money. All that time off of work. The daring to let a glimmer of hope in after the sadness and disappointment of the first round.

The doctor had said , pre op, that getting no eggs was a very low risk (5%) but I had not idea that there was a risk of the egg being there but him just not being able to grab it. Like one of those arcade games with the claw!

So now we have one round left. All paid for with borrowed money, so it will be our last chance.

I guess I just wanted to have a moan/ wallow in self-pity but also to see if this is something that has happened to anyone else?

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What a horrible time for you. Just wanted to send a hug xxx

[deborahclaire in reply to Hidden]

Thank you x

[Niki_B]

Oh gosh I'm so sorry thats just horrible! Did they say how and why? This whole journey is just so cruel and unfair sometimes! You poor thing gosh can't imagine how your feeling 😓 I don't know what else to say hut sending you a massive hug right now 😟xxx

[deborahclaire in reply to Niki_B]

Thank you.

I think my ovaries are quite high up anyway but they somehow managed to reach in round one- the eggs just didn’t fertilise.

I don’t know what made it so difficult this time.

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[CC2018]

What an awful experience. Can the clinic actually class it as a round if the collection wasn't carried out? I'd query it as I don't think it should count. Sending hugs xx

[deborahclaire in reply to CC2018]

Hi. It is classed as a round from the moment you start injecting (even though you do that yourself and pay separately for the drugs).

We haven’t been back in touch with them yet- this all happened last week.

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So sorry. Sending love ❤️

[deborahclaire in reply to Hidden]

Thank you x

[AnnieAnnie]

Hi im so sorry to read this and can understand how you must be feeling. To know that there are follicles there but they haven't been able to reach them must be totally frustrating for you especially after all you had to go through emotionally and physically to get there. Have you asked about keyhole retrieval? I've not heard of it, its just a thought however they do other fertility procedures that way. I would definitely ask about this round not counting. You've had egg collection previously and probably lots of scans, so it's not like they don't know what they are dealing with. I wish you luck xx

[deborahclaire in reply to AnnieAnnie]

Thank you. Yes I have lots of questions for them when we have our next consultation x

[Lou7744]

I’m so sorry to read this. How disappointing to go through all the prep and for it to class as a round. Hoping your next round is the one ☝️ 💕 xx

[deborahclaire in reply to Lou7744]

Thank you x

[Mantaray75]

Sorry to hear your news. My friend always has keyhole retrieval cos her ovaries were moved prior to cancer treatment. It may be worth asking about it. X

[deborahclaire in reply to Mantaray75]

Thank you x

[Tugsgirl]

I’m so sorry. I can only imagine how disappointed you must be.. I hope it’s a case of third time lucky for you next time xx

[deborahclaire in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you x

[Mrsplant]

Ohhh no you poor thing... what will they do different on your next cycle to make sure they can get to your eggs??

[deborahclaire in reply to Mrsplant]

Thank you.

The doc said we won’t go ahead again until my left ovary is ready.

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[Kari55]

I’m so sorry to hear this, such a difficult time for you. Couldn’t they retrieve them through laparoscopy? I think NHS clinic mentioned this to me that it might be done as a last resort. Sending lots of love xx

[deborahclaire in reply to Kari55]

Thank you.

We haven’t had another consultation since it happened (last week) so lots of questions to ask. X

[Kari55 in reply to deborahclaire]

I hope you get some answers and he way to move forward. X

[Beechnut1]

You poor thing this must be the most frustrating and upsetting thing, bless you! I have a high tricky ovary that can't be retrieved from vaginally so I have to have abdominal egg retrieval, maybe worth asking about? Wishing you lots of luck on the rest of your journey xxx

[deborahclaire in reply to Beechnut1]

Thank you.

It wasn’t a problem the first time so we hadn’t talked about other possibilities.

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[gattonero]

Hi Deborah, so sorry to hear to hear this.

Sending you a big hug🌷

[deborahclaire in reply to gattonero]

Thank you x

[genten]

So sorry to hear this.

I can only imagine how you're feeling. Xx

[deborahclaire in reply to genten]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

Hi. That’s so rubbish. I would just confirm if it counts as a round or not. I had a round excluded due to failed fertilisation so I can imagine if they didn’t even get any eggs they shouldn’t count it.

[deborahclaire in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I will definitely ask a lot of questions and read all of the small print. X

[magda22]

I'm so sorry, that sounds horrible definitely ask a lot of questions, and if anything can be done to influence this. I know it's so crap to leave egg collection with nothing to show for it, it feels really rubbish, so I send much love and strength. I hope you'll take some time to absorb what happened and do some lovely things for yourself. Good luck for whenever you do round 3 xx

[lorraineb61]

That exact same thing happened to me in my 2nd cycle. The consultant managed eventually to retrieve 1 egg but my ovary had moved that much he had to pierce through the womb I think. When I woke up I was in much more pain than the 1st retrieval and had to medicate for a few days after too. Unfortunately my 1 solitary egg failed to fertilise so that cycle was over the very next day. That cycle I struggled with the most to get over but I think it was because I had to wait the 2 weeks before I bled so I had all these hormones running around inside me preparing me for pregnancy which made it 100 times worse!!!

We are now 23 weeks pregnant on our 4th cycle so it only got us down for so long and then we went right back at it!

[deborahclaire in reply to lorraineb61]

Thank you for sharing that, Lorraine.

Congratulations and good luck to you x

[hifer]

So so sorry to hear this. You must be devastated. Wishing you literally all the luck in the World for the next round xxxx

[deborahclaire in reply to hifer]

Thank you x