Advice please?!

[JAL1992]

Hi everyone

I’m new here but I was hoping for all of your advice or similar stories?!

I’m not actually doing IVF but we have been trying to conceive for 6 months now. My Cycle is 31days and usually like clockwork, I was due on the 10th but 6 days later and no AF! Obviously I am obsessing, going to the toilet every 2 mins to see if there’s any sign of bleeding but nothing. I have taken 12 tests in 6 days of all different brands, CBD, first response, Sainsbury’s own etc and ALL negative.

I have kind of sore nipples but nothing major, occasional cramping but again nothing too bad. Is there a chance I am at all pregnant? Surely I would know by now?! I’m driving myself insane waiting for either a BFP or AF!! I just need answers, please help ladies!

Lots of love

[genten]

Hi and welcome 😊

I'd imagine the preganacy test would have picked up the hormones in your system by now if you are so I'm not sure what's causing late period.

I missed a period last year but that was due to stress. Have you been stressed?

Xx

[JAL1992 in reply to genten]

Hi! Thank you for replying!

No stress that I’m aware of, the last time I was late was in May this year but I put that down to the fact I was getting married that month and that was stressful. Since then it’s been back to normal on 10th/11th every month. I’m driving myself mad reading stories of women 14 days late and getting bfp’s And hoping for the best but I don’t want to get my hopes up if you know what I mean? It’s not like I can move on and try again until I get AF xxx

[genten in reply to JAL1992]

I know what you mean hun. Xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi JAL1992. A late or even missed period can happen and often we don’t know why. For some reason hormones can get a bit out of balance. If nothing has happened in the next week, pop and see your GP who will check you over so you know for sure what is going on. Good luck! Diane

[JAL1992 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks Diane, I’m hoping and praying I am pregnant! Xx

[Babyblues1]

Hi I really do hope you are pregnant.

Sometimes the stress of overthinking whether you’re pregnant or not can delay your period. It happened to me. So upset each month when I had negative tests and period came.

How old are you? We were advised to go for tests at the doctors when we had been trying. Especially at our age. I am 35.

Fingers crossed for you though, take care xxx

[JAL1992]

Hey, I know what you mean, every month when I get AF I can’t help but feel like it’s been another wasted month. I’m 25 at the mo, 26 next month, I’m trying so hard to not get my hopes up but it’s too hard. If AF comes in the next few days I’ll be gutted xxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to JAL1992]

Bless you. It’s really normal for it to take up to a year to fall pregnant at under 35 but knowing that doesn’t make it any less stressful. I’m keeping 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 for you x

[JAL1992 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Aw thank you but unfortunately AF came this morning, I’m a bit disappointed but I guess that means we’ll just have to try harder for next month! Xxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to JAL1992]

I’m sorry it wasn’t this month but hopefully it will be your time soon x

[NCS88]

Hiya - I don’t necessarily know the answer why but I wanted to reply as I had a similar thing happen to me back in May/June time and I feel I can relate. I want to offer you my support. I didn’t realise it at the time but I hadn’t been looking after myself as much, not getting quite enough sleep, going into work early, being a bit on edge and anxious (not the most stressed I’ve ever been or so I thought at the time). I went to the doctors but they weren’t much help- offered me a urine pregnancy test to see if that was the reason my period was late, but as I had been temping I could see my usual pattern didn’t show that I had ovulated. I was frustrated. So I carried on waiting and eventually I ovulated two weeks later. It was almost as if I skipped a month. I then had severe PMS and after 7 weeks with no period I had convinced myself there was something wrong with me. I was really down and depressed. I went to see my acupuncturist who is also a good listener and offered me advice when I was low. As soon as my period came I felt normal again in myself. I think it was the relief that finally something was happening one way or another. The next month my period was a bit late again by a few days but good news is I seem to be back on track now. What I did differently was first of all I had a holiday. I couldn’t quite unwind fully until the end of it but when I got back I felt so much better. I also tried cutting out white carbs and replacing with whole grain to keep my blood sugar and anxiety steady. And got to bed on time and didn’t get up as early. I do feel these steps helped me so hopefully you can get something out of this essay. I am not sure if any of this is relevant to you and if you temp and can see when you ovulated then maybe you could be pregnant and it’s not picking it up yet. Only time / blood test will tell. However if you are not and if your period is unexpectedly late for some other unknown reason, I want to offer you virtual hugs and know that it won’t last forever. Try and rest and take care of yourself Xxxxxx

[JAL1992 in reply to NCS88]

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. When you’re TTC it’s as if every minute symptom is under a microscope, sometimes I feel like I’m trying to create pregnancy symptoms that aren’t really there!

I woke up this morning with moderate period cramps, I was so deflated it took me an hour to want to crawl out of bed. My DH took the day off to stay home and comfort me, however there has still been no sign of bleeding and the cramping has completely stopped.

You may be right though, perhaps delayed ovulation or something, it’s as if I’m frozen in time until I either get my AF or a BFP xxxx