Numb and in shock still.

[Emma04]

I’ve posted on a miscarriage forum but I really want to be here with you guys. Sorry if this triggers bad memories for others, I am so in shock about our MMC result from our 12 week scan. I can’t think straight, I can’t stop thinking about the plans we’d akready made and how after three ICSI rounds this might have been our only taste of what it’s like to be pregnant. I have chosen to have the op rather than let it happen naturally as I know this can take such a long time and for as long as I still have the baby I keep thinking ... what if... and I know this is common but cruelly I still have my pregnancy symptoms too. However the op can’t be done for another 11 days, I’m scared, anxious, worried about the future and honestly can’t see happier times.

[Niki_B]

Oh hun 😢 I don't know what to say, I can't imagine how your feeling right now. Ive never been pregnant and i cant even imagine what your going through. I'm so very sorry I hope you have alot of good support right now, and take care of yourself. Sending a massive hug to you right now 😓💔💕

[Penders]

Oh hunni I'm so very sorry, it's just so heartbreaking. I've had two missed miscarriages after my last 2 IVF rounds. I had medical management first time round and the op second time as it never happened naturally the op was by far the better experience for me. I just hope that the next 11 days pass quickly for you, the waiting is always the hardest part. We had to wait about a week and half for the op as we were going to visit family and I didn't want to be traveling at the same time so pushed the op back. I know it doesn't feel like it now but I will get easier, I don't think the pain ever truly goes away you just learn to live with it. Allow yourself time to grieve. Sending you lots of love and big hugs. ❤️ Xxx

[Mrsplant]

I also choose to have a D and C due ti my body still thought i was pregnant.

I really hope it all goes as well as it can do xx

[Hidden]

I don't really know what to say other than I'm thinking of you. I've had 2 mmc & waiting for the ERPC was for me the worst part. My losses were from natural pregnancies & I suppose I still had a tiny bit of hope I'd fall pregnant again... I can't imagine how hard it is to deal with after having 3 rounds of ICSI, beyond cruel! I don't mean to sound patronising but it does get a bit easier in time. I can't explain how but you do learn to cope. Look after yourself, take time to grieve properly & try not to bottle things up. I didn't talk about my losses & it caught up with me big time. Gentle hugs xx

[Caza2009]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve never been through this so have no advice but just wanted to send you some love 💕💕 xxxxxxx

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry you're going through this pain , it sounds truly horrendous , give yourself time to grieve. I'm sure there's lots of lovely ladies on hear that have the experience to support you well. X

[genten]

I'm so so sorry that you are going through this.

Thinking of you. xx

[Hidden]

How awful. I am so sorry for you. I opted for the pills. However whichever way you go it won't be easy. I really wish you all the best and only thing I can say is that time, and a new plan, can be a healer. We are all here for you. Sending you huge hugs xxx

[vic77]

Oh hun...I was the very same and I could have written that post myself a few months back . I opted for the op too and we opted to take our baby home too..very difficult decision but the right one for us..have you been given that option? I found they told us very little..I called the miscarriage association for advice. also a great book I wished I had found earlier was by Zoe Clarke coattes called saying goodbye..I am right here with you and if you ever need a chat just pm...the wait between being told the heartbreaking news and the procedure is so long..we kept very busy and I think I said I then didn't want to let go..I too asked if they were sure on the day as I still had symptoms. ..it is so so tough..if any consolation procedure itself is straightforward and painless and under a general so asleep the whole time xxx

[Hidden]

Hi Hun, like you I suffered a mmc in Dec 2017 and what you’re feeling is completely normal. I’m so sorry you had to suffer this.

Just to let you know time is a great healer, but you will never forget your baby! And they will forever be in your heart. Sending you big hugs💕 xx