Ttc for two years. Clomid ovulate bgt no bfp. Next step ivf

[Potterhead]

Hi. I’m 26 years old and have been ttc for two years. I was diagnosed with pcos after 3 months of coming off the pill and was referred to a gynaecologist after 6 months. After going back and forth with cancelled appointments I switched to a different hospital after just over a year of trying. I then had blood tests, scans and tubes checked. Tubes came back fine. Scans and blood tests all show pcos. We then started clomid on lowest dose. This blood test showed ovulation. At the end of that cycle I got my period and was devastated as first time my sister ovulated on clomid she conceived. I thought I would be the same. Second round of clomid ended. No bfp and no af. Gynaecologist asked for me to come back as I ovulated I should have got one. We discussed next steps which were either to get referred for ivf or to try clomid one more time. We decided on clomid first. 3 more rounds. 1st round ended with af. 2nd round again no af and no bfp. Called gynaecologist and was told take provera and do final clomid round. And that is where I currently am. Final clomid round. Not understanding what keeps going wrong. And knowing ivf is the next step. I’ve been researching it and I’m honestly worried I’m not mentally and physically strong enough. I’m currently trying to just find ways to keep positive and strong. Being a mother has always been my dream and I’m determined that I will get that dream. I’m also worried I won’t be eligible on nhs as I did ovulate on clomid (something my gynaecologist warned). I have a doctors appointment in a week to discuss my anxiety with the hope of finding coping techniques before starting this next chapter in our fertility journey. Is anyone else in same position with clomid causing ovulation but not bfp and how did you stay positive? Will be nice to talk to people in some situation as my sister with pcos tries but she fell pregnant on first round she ovulated and now has a 9 month old. My husbands brother also just announced pregnancy when wasn’t even properly trying and was supposed to be getting married next year. So would also like to know how people handle the jealousy. Thank you!

[CatDV]

Hi Potterhead!

Not sure about the rest, but when you mention you are worried you won’t get NHS funding since you’ve ovulated with clomid, do you mean NHS funding for IVF?

If so, I believe you should rest assured that having positive ovulation doesn’t jeopardise being elegible for NHS funding... 😉

[E_05]

Hey, I tried 7 months of clomid with no success and just because it made me ovulate it didn’t stop my NHS funding for IVF. I’m currently in the tww of my 5th Ivf cycle, I know it’ll seem daunting but there is lots of support on here and the process does become more straightforward as you go along. I told myself if it’s the only way to get my baby, that’s what I’ve got to do. Lots of luck x

[figee]

Hi there, I'm 37. I'd long suspected I'd had pcos as very irregular periods and lack of ovulation. I met my husband when I was 34. Tried for a year -- no luck. Saw gynecologist at local hospt for checks. Was put on metformin. That regulated my cycles to every 2 months, still no bfp. After 6 months kept on metformin and took clomid for 6 cycles. Ovulated but still no bfp. All extremely frustrating and stressful, especially as I'm older. Went to gp and requested I be transfered to fertility clinic and funding was approved. Fertility specialist recommended I try ovulation induction for a few cycles with timed intercourse using menopur injections and regular scans. Cycle 1 and 2 fail - very frustrating as scans took over my life and was going to clinic all the time. Had to give up work. Signed consent forms for IUI and ivf and continued with cycle 3 of ovulation induction as id shown good response to hormone treatment. Blow me down - fell pregnant on cycle 3 for first time ever just before I turned 37. I'm now 16 weeks. Could not believe it. Patience worked for me. Plus I made big changes to diet - cut out sugar and carbs and involved myself with ttc community and had lots of sex in run up to ovulation. I was lucky. Infertility is incredibly stressful. It's hard to stay positive but really important to the process. Sex becomes a chore, infertility affects relationship with partner and those around you. Get support - great ttc support on insta, make positive lifestyle changes, be kind to yourself. I found talking about my situation with friends to be reallyour useful. You have time on your side. Good luck xx

[kimmy30 in reply to figee]

I have pcos have irregular periods and lack of ovulation too. I feel like I could never have kids.

[horiya]

Hello, my friend, I can understand your problem and I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult phase in your life. First of all, you should not lose hope and happiness in your life because of this problem. During your pregnancy and even when you are just trying to get pregnant, it is very important to get rid of mental stress and you should not take extra stress on your mind due to this problem. It is a very common problem these days that we get jealous when we see everybody around us getting pregnant and having babies and we just can't. I hope it gets better for you.

[andylins]

Hi lovely, I know how it feels to have everyone prego around but you. It hurts, it irritates, it knocks out from normal life..And the jealousy is all consuming. Once having been invited to babyshower or any other ''baby centered'' gathering you start thinking ''why it's not me celebrating?!!'' I used to attend all the events unless faced several treatment failures in a row. Since then I tended to find good excuses more than going there and hurting myself. I know this is not the best decision for the case. But it really did ease my pain for some time. The next thing I wanted to say is ivf like any other treatment is not a walk in the park. And you'll surely need more strength to go through. But this is the way possible to try to get rid of childless life. Try to look onto the option from another side. Give yourself more time to get there. In fact, the devil is not so black.. I'm a couple of days after ET myself. This is our 3rd donor egg cycle. (#1 failed, #2 resulted in our adorable son). This time we're working for a sibling for him. The dreadful 2ww is killing.. But I know it's worthy. Every thing done is worthy when you know the aim. I hope you'll soon find peace in mind and whatever your option will be --I'm wishing you the best!! xx