Second time fears

So I promised myself I wouldn't bog myself down with googling/writing on here or searching through posts in my 2WW but here I am again lol. I had my transfer at guys last Thursday. I had intercourse with my partner on the Friday night (the hospital said it was fine for me), I then bled that night- not like a period but heavy enough to make me anxious. Has anyone else experienced this? I'm not getting any cramping and haven't bled again since. God this 2WW is so testing to my emotions ahhhhh! I'm having PGD, not straight forward IVF by the way. x

[Niki_B]

I didn't think having intercourse straight after a transfer would be ok? Unless I'm way off here as I don't know what PGD is? In any case I hope everything turns put positive for you 😁😘

Xx

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

Well I asked them in the hospital and they said it wouldn't have an impact. But after the bleed I feel like maybe that's not the case- I have called them too. I don't know, it's all too much lol! PGD is same procedure as IVF but the purpose of it is to eradicate a dodgy gene rather than because of fertility problems. xxx

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

Ahhhh yes now i know what PGD is. Well all the best hun and i have my fingers crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞 when is your OTD? Xx

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

Thank you <3 next Monday- for some reason they've given me an 11 day wait this time?! xx

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

Oh that's not too bad already halfway there! Here in NZ we get a blood test after 9 dayd on a 5dt...thank gosh I don't know how you ladies have 2 weeks sometimes longer! I nearly went nuts in 9 days lol. I'll b waiting for your updates try not to worry....how many woman are pregnant for months before for even knowing and having loads of sex! I'm sure if your clinic said it's fine it will be 😊 xxx

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

That's true! Thanks babe xxx

[Cinderella5]

My clinic told me no intercourse after transfer....in their words complete vaginal rest! I guess if your clinic said it was ok then you can go with their advice. Must have been quite scary though, hope all is ok! Good luck for test day, its so hard not to google....or test early! Ha ha ha xx

[Hidden in reply to Cinderella5]

Well after research, a lot of people say no intercourse! To be honest (and without going into much detail, my libido hasn't been through the roof with this hormones so when I felt up for it we just did it) LOL. It was so scary and it's made me feel like it hasn't worked at all. Hate these waits! xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah I get that, all these hormones and dildo cams dont exactly do much for the sex life! Ha ha ha Try not to worry, the waiting and not knowing is horrible! Sit tight!xx

[Hidden in reply to Cinderella5]

dildo cams haha they are rank! xxx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Hidden]

Always advised no intercourse here either, I think mostly due to infection risk. Hopefully the reaction you experienced after intercourse is not related. Good luck xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I’ve heard that it can be due to your cervix being super sensitive after transfer so the blood may have come from that. Try not to worry, what’s done is done! I had ivf with pgd but through a different clinic and was advised not to have intercourse... then they didn’t tell us when we could and ended up not having sex for weeks and weeks because we were so anxious. This process is rubbish for your libido so at least you got it done whilst you felt like it! Good luck x

[Hidden in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Thanks Lizzie- It's such a difficult process It's hard not to feel like a nutter! Have you been successful with PGD? xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Hidden]

Yes, my story is in my previous posts. We had it due to a balanced chromosome translocation rather than a genetic issue and were very lucky to get one viable embryo which stuck despite my age of 39. Now 24 weeks pregnant. Hope you get your happy ending x

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Ps have you seen the support group for ivf with pgd at Guys on Facebook? That can sometimes be helpful too (I’m in the group even though we chose not to go with that hospital).

[notifbutwhen in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

I am really sad, I got rid of Facebook quite a while back as hated seeing all the babies pictures etc. you two and only ones I have seen having PGD so complicated. glad your doing well Lizzie. Gives me some hope xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to notifbutwhen]

I don’t think that’s sad I think that’s sensible. Happily for me, being older means most of my friends had their kids a while back and don’t tend to see too many baby updates on Facebook. I use the snooze button on anyone who posts too much! The balanced chromosome translocation is so rare that I’ve found it good to be in the fb groups about it and about PGD just to feel less alone!

[notifbutwhen in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Yes I can see why it would be good as I have felt quite alone hence why I have jumped in here to speak to you and BFinn88. Really scared about it all again but I have being trying to learn meditation to help with my stress which is a suggestion from the counsellor. I haven't struggled as much with the medication this time either which has helped me to have a more normal life while doing all this. Think I will be a nervous wreck though once I have had one of my boy's transferred xxx

[Hidden in reply to notifbutwhen]

I got rid of Facebook too actually! Lizzie that's amazing ! So happy for you. Hopefully we get our happy endings xxx

[notifbutwhen in reply to Hidden]

Yes keep your fingers crossed for us to xx

[notifbutwhen]

Hi Bfinn88

Just wanted to say hi as I am doing PGD at the same clinic good luck with your 2WW. So nice to find someone who Is doing PGD would be nice to keep in touch. I am due for a scan on Thursday and then transfer next week hopefully.

If they said it was ok I would try not to be worried. x

[Hidden in reply to notifbutwhen]

Hi lovely. Have you had a transfer before with Guys? Yes defo, drop me a message xxx