Face to face infertility group!

[Snez84]

Evening all,

I apologise for the ‘woe me’ status in advance. I’m on such a downer tonight about my secondary infertility challenges - nothing to do with another pregnancy announcement, honest!!!

I’ve just started to look up face to face infertility meet ups and I can’t seem to find much in my local area, which is Birmingham. Does anyone know of any and if so, have you been and are they of any use?

I just sometimes feel so alone on this journey and it’d be nice to meet people who really understand the heartache infertility brings, face to face! I know you’re all going through similar journeys and that you totally understand the sadness, I just think a group might help me come to terms with it all a bit more xx

[Caza2009]

I’m in London so don’t know of any groups in your area I’m afraid, but just wanted to reach out and send some love 💕

I’m sure loads of us on here can relate to feeling exactly how you do right now so just remember you’re not alone xxxx

Hopefully someone else on here can help you out with a face to face group near you.

Sending loads of love and positive vibes xxxxx

[Snez84 in reply to Caza2009]

Thanks you Caza - It means a lot.

I have such a great group of friends but out of 6, 4 are pregnant and the other two have their completed families. Although they support me and have been on this journey with me, they’ll never fully understand the process and emotions that go with it!

I’ve just read your story. 8 frozen embryos is great. Good luck for your FET cycle. I’ll have my fingers crossed xx

[Caza2009 in reply to Snez84]

I’m the same - most of my friends are either pregnant or have their families made already. Mine are so supportive too, but until you’ve been through the process, I don’t think anyone can truly understand.

Thanks for the luck 😊 wishing you all the best too xxxx lots of love 💕

[Hidden]

So sorry I can't help. I am in edinburgh so nowhere near you. Hope you find one xx

[Snez84 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Camillage. Good luck with your journey xx

[Hopeful82]

I have found hope and strength, mainly through its push for positive thinking through the baby making bible have you heard of this? One thing it states is once you get your period think of it as another opportunity to continue to prepare your body for pregnancy , beautiful 💕

[Snez84 in reply to Hopeful82]

Thanks Hopeful. I haven’t heard of it no. I’ll have a look now. I see you’re in your 2ww so I’ve got my fingers crossed for you xx

[Barbara1012]

Hey, just wanted to reach out and send a hug. I don’t know about any face to face groups - you could always start one, bet there loads of people who are looking for one in your area xx

[Snez84 in reply to Barbara1012]

Thanks Barbara. I wish I had the confidence to do this as you’re right, I imagine there are lots of people who would go! Infertility really is the pits isn’t it!! I wish you all the luck with your current cycle and I hope you’re feeling a little better now, after your last post xx

[Barbara1012 in reply to Snez84]

Thanks lovely, hopefully one of the ladies here have some good links for you. Feeling much better - just bloated. Leggings it is

Take care xx

[Orla9298]

fertilitynetworkuk.org/for-...

[Snez84 in reply to Orla9298]

Thank you for this Orla. I’ll drop them an email and see what they say! Congratulations on your current pregnancy. Here’s to a happy and healthy 9 months for you xx

[LegoBatgirl]

Sorry I'm up in Yorkshire so not sure of any local to you but just wanted to say good luck x

[Snez84 in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Thank you LegoBatgirl. Good luck to you too in your current cycle. I hope it all works out for you xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Snez84]

Thanks x

[HollieW]

I'm going to my first support group in Bristol. If you look on the fertility network it will show support groups closest to you. They are not incredibly frequent as they are run by volunteers but I'm sure they will have one near you being in Birmingham. You are right that no one knows what this is like unless you are or have been through it. My friends and family support me but I need to speak to people that really get it. My feelings about it definitely do change. Some days I think I'm fine and I can cope with it all and other days I feel completely overwhelmed and start to feel really bitter about why it had to be me! I hope you manage to find some support, I found counselling really helped to, to off load with a specialist fertility counsellor. Good luck on your journey xx

[Snez84 in reply to HollieW]

Thanks Hollie. I’m going to email the group that Orla sent the link to. I feel speaking to people in the same situation will really help. I could be wrong but I’d like to give it a go anyway! Today’s one of those days where I don’t feel strong at all, it’s crazy how your emotions can sometimes get the better of you isn’t it.

I’m sorry to ready about your first cycle. Wishing you lots of luck for your next one 🤞🏼 xx

[HollieW in reply to Snez84]

Thank you and hope you find it useful to meet with others. I have my first support group meeting on 1st September and am hoping I find it helpful in the process xx

[Pigeon2017]

Some fertility clinics have support groups / events. Mine have walking events where people can talk and walk.

[Snez84 in reply to Pigeon2017]

This sounds lovely. I might have a look to see whether my clinic offers anything as I’m sure other people must feel the same.

Congratulations on your current pregnancy. I hope everything is going well for you xx

[Hidden]

Hi, just wanted to send a message of support. I completely understand how lonely the journey is - friends can only understand so much.

Sending you a hug xxx

[Snez84 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Pumpkin. Agreed that friends only understand so much. I find it difficult talking to my friends who are pregnant (which is most of them) as I don’t want them to feel awkward or guilty in any way - if that makes sense. I’ve just seen you’ve welcomed your son earlier in the year - congratulations and its great to hear you got your happy ending 💙

[Hidden in reply to Snez84]

Of course you find it difficult to talk to them - this is why this forum is great. It was my haven when I was on my secondary infertility journey and throughout my treatment.

Thank you, yes, second son arrived in February. I did get my happy ending and I hope you do too. Sending you all the luck and baby dust in the world and just always keep hope in your heart xxxx

[AJJ123]

I’m going through secondary infertility too. My son was born in 2012 via csection and I don’t know for sure what is stopping us. My husbands sperm count is fine, I have endometriosis which could be part of the issue.

I’m about to go through in vitro maturation ICSI in September. I just wanted to let you know I’m here if u want to talk and I fully appreciate what you’re going through xx

[Snez84 in reply to AJJ123]

Thanks AJJ! Wishing you luck for your ICSI cycle xx