Why us!....?

[Becky179]

Hello you lovely bunch.

So it's been a while since I've updated. I'm currently almost 20 weeks pregnant with twins. Things have been relatively quiet since my last bleed at 14 weeks, just a flare up of my hyperemisis & a urine infection! (If you dont know my history on here, please do check me out!) And I was starting to believe that things may be ok.

So now the tough bit, we went for our 20 week scan on Wednesday. With twins, this takes ages! Then at the end she informed us that one pumpkin has a heart problem, that was all they could say... She has refered us to a heart specialist in Bristol. I think someone upstairs must really think I'm a trouper to keep throwing stuff at me! I'm trying to be positive but struggling. It's just so unfair, to go through all we ladies/men go through with our treatment, then get hit with more bad news. I'm trying to prepare for the worst, which could be an issue that's not compatible with life. The appointment is Tuesday am, so we'll find out then.

It was a bitter sweet day really as we also found out were expecting 2x GIRLS!! 💗💗. I want to be happy but can't.

Anyway thanks for the vent, lots of love to you all. Becky xxx

[Smang]

This is such a tough journey. Just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you and your precious twin girls. Hopefully the heart specialist can provide you more clarity and reassurance xxx

[Becky179 in reply to Smang]

Thank you xxx

[HollieW]

Try to stay positive as it could be all okay. You've fought to get this far so you've got the strength to deal with this too. I really hope it's all okay for you and congratulations on finding out you are having 2 girls! Xxx

[Becky179 in reply to HollieW]

Thank you xxx

[Drives]

Will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed 🤞

[Becky179 in reply to Drives]

Thank you xxx

[Daisy14]

Two girls!!!! Yay that’s such lovely news 💕

It’s so unfair to have yet another hurdle, to not have more information is excruciatingly tough. You can’t deal with things fully until you know what’s what. Do look after yourself and do try not to google. So much easier said than done.

Sending love and thoughts xx

[Becky179 in reply to Daisy14]

Thank you xxx

[Cinderella5]

Aww Becky Im so sorry that you've had this bad news, especially after what its taken for you to get your much wanted babies. Really hope that when you see the consultant that the news doesn seem so bleak and he can provide you with some reassurance! Thinking of you both, let us know how it goes!xx

[Becky179 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you xxx

[Missy_22]

Hi Becky

My god talk about stress. Life is crap and so unfair. Doing ivf is one thing but now this.

Try and stay positive and wait to see what happens Tuesday. Second opinion is always good and the consultant will scan you again.

I hope it turns out all ok for your girls I really do.

Big hugs xxxx

[Becky179 in reply to Missy_22]

Thank you xxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Oh my god, you poor thing. Keeping everything crossed for you for Tuesday x

[Becky179 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Thank you xxx

[Hidden]

Oh praying for you guys to get some positive news soon. Such a blessing to have twins - hope it isn't as bad as you are preparing for.

Fingers crossed for you guys xxx

[Becky179 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you xxx

[Tugsgirl]

So sorry to hear this. I truly hope it’s something that can be fixed once your little girls are here. Please keep us all posted xx

[Becky179 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you xxx

[Barbara1012]

Just wanted to wish you all the best for Tuesday xx

[Becky179 in reply to Barbara1012]

Thank you xxx

[Hidden]

Aww bless you, lovely. I can't tell you not to worry because of course you're going to, but I hope the outlook isn't so bleak. So much luck and love for you and your girls on Tuesday xx

[Becky179 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you xxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Becky179. So sorry to hear all this, and as you say, some of us seem to be destined to be kicked about a bit! What can I say, except for that I shall be thinking of you both and your girlies on Tuesday, and hope for something positive. Feel free to private message me if you need to talk anything over, and obviously I do hope that it is something that can be "fixed". Thinking of you. Diane

[WeeMrsH]

Oh gosh how awful! This sounds really scary - massive hugs and hope all is relatively positive next week xx

[Hollibob]

As you say, just when you hope things might go normal after the journey you have already been through.

Thinking of worst case scenarios is naturally what happens, but they can do miracle procedures now.

Someone at work was told their baby had a hole in its head when they were pregnant and were advised that they shouldn’t continue. They did and she didn’t have a hole in her head, but was blind in one eye.

You just never know....keep fighting x

[Sweets1]

Stay positive, you’ve come so far, such lovely news having two girls, wishing you all the luck in the world xx

[MissyR]

Hi Becky, so unfair to have yet more challenge and upset thrown at you. Thinking of you and your two babies and hoping the appointment with the specialist brings you some relief and positive news. Keeping everything crossed for you. Please keep us posted.

[forMoira]

Hopefully the heart problem will pass and your two little girls will grow to be healthy and strong and give you lots of joy. Sending love.

[Dunla]

Hi Becky, such an anxious wait for you now until Tuesday. Very best of luck and I’ll be thinking of you. Lots of love xx

[Hidden]

Hi Becky, you are so right this journey is so full of ups and downs. The heart specialists are amazing so will keep everything crossed for you and congrats on your two girls.xx