Positive egg donation stories please!!!

[Hope4usall]

I really would love to hear any positive stories about couples using egg donation, getting a BFP and how people how found the bonding and attachment after a birth. Was what the baby looked like an issue? I don't know if many people stay posting on here once they get a BFP, but maybe some people might if trying for a sibling. Looking forward to hearing from some of you xx

[Tugsgirl]

There are ladies on here who’ve had DE babies and I don’t think a single one of them has had any issues with bonding or feeling like the baby wasn’t theirs. I hope someone will comment and talk to you soon xx

[Hope4usall in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you. I hope so too. Its always good to hear from other people x

[Hidden]

One of my close friends did egg donation in Spain and had success on her 3rd fet. The baby looks exactly like the Dad but regardless the bond she has with the baby is so tight. It’s your blood and body nurturing and carrying the baby so bonding starts in the womb and there is such a thing as epigenetics that apparently the baby carries 15% of your genes from the environment in the womb...this is what she was told by the clinic and there is research but i’m not sure how reliable. Another friend had also had success and is so in love with the baby, genes aren’t an issue at all! Xxx

[Hope4usall in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your reply. It really helps hearing these lovely stories x

[Hidden]

Hi, I am currently on 2ww after having Egg Donor transfer on Monday, as soon as I saw the screen I felt like it belonged to me. It is a difficult decision to make but after hearing other experiences on here I knew I was making the right decision xx

[Hope4usall in reply to Hidden]

Aw I hope all goes well during your 2ww. Keep us posted with how you get on. Thanks for your story x

[Aefemera in reply to Hidden]

Hi Clairenix, how did it go? x

[Hidden in reply to Aefemera]

Hi Aefemera, I did get a BFP but unfortunately I had a MMC and finally miscarried last week, it's been a devastating few weeks but I have to look forward and will be going back for a FET x

[rivershark]

chickandeggs.com/

A really honest blog about using a donor egg. Worth reading

[Hope4usall in reply to rivershark]

Thank you, I'll follow the blog x

[Leanneb85]

Hi hun

Can't answer your questions about bonding and attachment as I was the egg donor but I know my recipient had a bfp on her first round of ivf xxx

[Hope4usall in reply to Leanneb85]

Great. Thank you for posting x

[Leanneb85 in reply to Hope4usall]

Good luck xxx

[Hope4usall in reply to Leanneb85]

Can I ask you... have you donated in the UK? If you have, how do you feel about a child contacting you aged 18? I'm guessing you've not donated to be then faced with an 18 yr old on your doorstep asking questions!

[Leanneb85 in reply to Hope4usall]

I donated in the UK hun. I suppose you can never really answer that question until it happens but at this moment I would feel fine about it. Any questions they have I would be happy to answer. I knew that this was a possibility when I chose to do it. I was so devastated when I had my tubes removed knowing I'd never conceive naturally I really wanted to help someone who was desperate for a child and I'm glad I fulfilled their dreams. I just gave the egg she carried birthed and nurtured them. And will always be their mother in my eyes and theirs x

[Billywhizz10]

When we moved onto donor eggs, I think you have to allow yourself time to grieve over not having children using your own eggs.

Because we got treatment in the UK, we had to go counselling, which really helped - because at the time, although everything was in motion, the counselor made us think about things we perhaps were ignoring or not thinking about.

I think it really helps if both of you really think you're at the end of the road with using your own eggs, if not, I think you have to 'make peace' with this.

The biggest factor for my wife was a very close friend who used a donor egg. She went through all the things any pregnant woman goes through during the 9 months, the scans and feeling the baby kick, by the time the baby was born, she was 100% bonded ( she has 1 child already , using her own eggs, but for no medical reason, couldn't have a second which led her to go down the donor route.)

The baby is 3 now, her other child is 6 and they are very, very happy. She treats both children exactly the same, she's carried that girl and built her from a microscopic dot inside her, of course the baby 'feels' like hers. My wife's friend will tell daughter how she was created from around aged 4, there are lots of books for toddlers on the subject, that bring up the subject gently for the very young. All research shows kids from donor eggs who have always known, are much more balanced about their origins - they've had their whole lives to process it - and the harm comes when they only find out as adults, especially if they find out by accident, like its a dirty secret.

good luck whatever you choose!!

[Hope4usall]

Yeah I need to think about the whole 9 month experience of getting to know my baby. It doesn't just begin from birth.Thank you for your message.

[Aefemera]

Hi Hope4usall,

I have exactly the same doubts/fears... I'm waiting for second opinion on the NHS to see if they can still fund my IVF but I doubt I'll have eggs left and I want to see clinics for egg donor ASAP.

[Asweetpea]

I am 22 wks pregnant with a donor egg. I can’t say how I’ll feel when it’s born but at the moment I feel very close to my baby. I am giving it life, without me and my body it may not have turned into anything. Every scan I have cried at overwhelmed to see our baby.

We are very aware that in the future there will be questions that may be difficult but we are planning to be open and honest with our baby. I am planning on doing an album for the child so it can understand the process a bit. Pictures of the doctors, information about the donor, scans, etc. This was recommended by our councillor. Who knows if the child will want it or if we will give it to them, but I felt it was important to have the option.

It’s such a blessing to be given this chance to have a child, I can not thank our donor enough for giving this to us and really hope if she has gone through treatment she has been successful too.

[Hope4usall]

Thank you for sharing you story.I am feeling differently and more positive about donor eggs now than when i first wrote the post.

I am looking forward to hopefully carrying a child from a donor egg and am excited about it! Stories like yours have really helped xx

[Scarlett13]

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