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Our Meeting to Adopt

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Well last night we went to an information evening and it was brilliant! Also after wanting another ‘baby’ we came out totally changing our minds. After speaking to two social workers separately, they BOTH suggested if we wanted a ‘playmate’ for our 4 year old, a tiny baby wasn’t for us. And....as a child care practitioner for 20 years I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN THIS! But had blinkers on as per usual. And....then to top it off, husband said that’s what he thought! Ha (why didn’t he say before) 😂.

Of course, my little boy has been saying “mummy I want a brother to play with” not thinking for one minute he’s imagining a fully grown play mate! So.....we are planning on a toddler so as I’m an expert with toddlers for 20 years it makes sense. Also we left the meeting last night with a smile on our faces and found out we could have a child in as little as 7 months if everything such as medicals and training happen promptly. AMAZING!!! After soooo much heartache I am now extremely happy and can’t wait to see what the future brings xxx💕xxx

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elle80 profile image
elle80

Aww that's good news. And what a lovely thing to do xx

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Hi Jmaw. Just wanted to wish you every happiness with this. Never an easy path to travel, but with your years of experience and further support you will receive, it sounds fantastic. Thinking of you. Diane

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Jmaw

Thanks so much everyone. Any advice I can give on this path please let me know. Good luck everyone xxx

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katya38

Aww great. We are adopting a 2 year old gorgeous girl although she ll prob be 2yr 9 m when we get her x

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Jmaw in reply tokatya38

Wonderful honey, please let me know how you get on xxx

That's great news. We are adopting too and have our first home visit from a social worker next week after having to wait the compulsory 6 months following fertility treatment. Can't wait to get started. Good luck x

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Jmaw in reply to

You too xxx

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Forlove

That’s fab news. I have just been looking into adoption & would love some advice on where to start if you don’t mind sharing x

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Jmaw in reply toForlove

Of course, look online. We went with ‘one adoption’ but just google for your local information events. They are usually 2 hours. 1 hour information Nd 1 hour talking to social workers about having a home visit. You go away with an application form. When they receive it, the ball is rolling xxx

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Scarlett13

Follow!!! Good luck with the adoption! I think once you know that you’re ivf journey is done and you mentally move on, adoption is an amazing thing to do and I’m excited for you Xxx

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Jmaw in reply toScarlett13

Thanks for your support lovely xxx

Aww 3 of my friends have adoptive children and ones a foster carer she get all the babies they’re all so canny and she’s great with them.

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Jmaw in reply to

It’s probably really rewarding too. Thanks xxx

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Star9

Good luck with the rest of your adoption journey, it sounds like a lovely outcome ahead for you 😊 xxx

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Jmaw in reply toStar9

Thanks Star9 I can’t wait xxx

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Missy_22

Wonderful news. Please keep us all update xxx good luck xxx

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jengi

How exciting!!!! Best of luck with it all, before you know it you will have a new member of your family! 🤗 Xx

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Jmaw in reply tojengi

Thanks jengi, I will share the journey everyone who wants to listen xxx

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jengi in reply toJmaw

Great, I will be following!

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NMP1026

Aww thanks for sharing this hun. You are such an inspiration. I'm very for the idea of adoption. Wishing you so much luck xx

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Jmaw in reply toNMP1026

Thanks lovely xxx

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Jmaw

I know Jenny can’t wait so much to take in but so ready for it thanks for your kind words xxx

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LKT1

Amazing news! Happy for you :) x

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Jmaw in reply toLKT1

Thanks LKT1. I will be in touch soon when we have a meeting with the 2 social workers allocated to us everyone. XxX

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Jmaw

Just read my post again and I’ve currently got a four year old not a two year old (sorry) my mistake. I’ve amended it. Probably seems more crucial to everyone that we do not adopt a tiny baby. They would never play together. In my experience with children under 5 years any more than 3 years difference between siblings and they don’t seem to share the same play interests. Phew 😅 glad I got that cleared up you must think I’m bonkers 😂😜🤪

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