I’m absolutely devastated 🙁

[Jmaw]

Had my test this morning and it’s negative. Don’t know how much more heartache I can actually take.

[emu2016]

😢 sorry to hear this. You must be feeling incredible pain right now. Make sure you take time to just be with each other and your little boy for now and then look and what might be worth a next step. Big hugs xx

[Jmaw in reply to emu2016]

No my husband has made it clear, after spending ten thousand pounds that’s it now. I’ve no eggs left and he won’t even consider a surrogate even if we could afford it. He’s not been there for me, waiting in the car park at appointments incase any one sees us. Our son was natural and he can’t get his head around we are using a donor. We may consider adopting but if he feels different about this child he probably wouldn’t bond with an adopted one. I feel totally alone

[silvanti_78]

I am really sorry to hear this . My husband felt always lost at the doctors & when I went to say good bye ( as we been abroad ) he did not come either. ... he knew I’d be emotional. Give him time to recover and to digest the sad news . If you’re too upset with him, it will reflect on your son. Us women are better with this . We go online and find like minded people and pour our hearts out. Men don’t do that. But I am sure he’s as devastated as you. Give him time. Big hugs 🤗

[Jmaw in reply to silvanti_78]

Thanks honey. But he just said oh well it’s not meant to be! He’s just not getting it. X

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry BFN are heartbreaking 💔 perhaps in time your hubby will come around. Wishing you the best for whatever you decide to do xoxo

[Jmaw in reply to Hidden]

Thanks honey xxx

[Stepharni]

So sorry for you, it's truly heartbreaking and cruel. Take time to look after you x sending hugs x

[Jmaw in reply to Stepharni]

Thanks I will watching milkshake with my little boy he loves those programs x

[silvanti_78]

Think about yourself and not how he reacted... once you feel a little better go and hug him. I am sure he is as upset as you. but men dont show.

My husband gets called an elephant in a china shop.. we are different but that doesnt mean that men dont have feelings.

Enjoy your day xx

[Jmaw in reply to silvanti_78]

I know they do. But when you have to travel on the bus after every medical procedure totally on your own because he makes an excuse not to go it really gets to you. The odd time he’s been (twice) for a scan and bloods, he’s hidden in the car park because he doesn’t want anyone to see him! He’s sooo distant it’s unbelievable. I honestly think he’s relieved now we can’t go any farther with it. People say “he’ll come round” or “he’s hurting too”. Nobody has actually said “well he should be supporting you, or give YOU a hug”. Interesting x

[silvanti_78 in reply to Jmaw]

Of course he should support you , without a doubt. Don’t be too hard on yourself . Cry as much as you need and give yourself a break. Then think about options. Xx

[Jmaw in reply to silvanti_78]

Yes I will look at options thanks. I think adopting is the way forward for us. Got to keep it together for my little boy. It just gets harder every time to stay strong. Crying is not an option really but thanks x

[Cinderella5]

Im so sorry to hear this! It must be hard when you feel your husband isnt being supportive....let those tears out, this is one heck of a crappy situation to be in. Hopefully your hubby will see how tough this is for you. Try to get out into the fresh air and clear your head and enjoy some time as a family doing some nice things together and most importatnly grieve. You can decide if this is it or another option like DE might be a way forward. Sending huge hugs.xx

[Jmaw in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks I will it’s such a lovely morning xxx

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

Sending you a massive hug my love. I'm so sorry that your hubby hasn't been the strength you need ATM. Can't imagine how, hard it's been for you.

Lots of love I'm so sorry hun

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[Hidden]

So sorry xxx

[Amanda86]

So sorry ☹️ Take care xxx