Coping with infertility and ivf

[mazzda]

Hi

I am 31 and have recently had my tubes removed due to servere endometriosis. While it has has some amazing and positive impact on my life ie pain free and dramatic weightloss, the fact I am now infurtile and being referred for ivf is having major psychological affects.

I am so happy to be referred and excited at the prospect of a baby and everything but i can't cope with I'm not able to do what a woman is meant to do.

I hide my feelings alot to and feel I have a gaping hole in me. Any advice wouldbe much appreciated

Thank you

Xx

[Lyn84]

Hi i have just found myself in the same situation referred for ivf due to infertility caused by my endo and like you i felt happy about the refferal then i became overwhelmed and started hoping more than ever to get pregnant natuarally as i began to worry i wasnt mentally strong enough to put myself through the ivf

[mazzda in reply to Lyn84]

It's awful. I will never fall naturally just always feels like a punch in the gut

[Hidden]

I remember so clearly going to my GP for my IVF referral. There was nothing on our tests and I just hoped that maybe I would get pregnant by the time the appointment arrived. I didn’t, and I kept on imagining how I would never have the joy of missing a period and finding I was pregnant. With time, I got my head round it. Yes it isn’t fair but it is happening to me and I can’t change that no matter how much I wish it wasn’t. By being kind to myself I realised I could either invest my energy looking forward or make myself feel worse and dwell on it. It’s a tough journey but you will get there xx we’re not infertile, we’re just taking the scenic route!

[Bobenhams3]

I’ve felt exactly the same as you! Even though before I had my tubes partly removed I knew I wasn’t able to get pregnant naturally it wasn’t until I’d had this done that I felt like this. But it was the best thing I’ve ever done. Before I’d had 3 unsuccessful ivf attempts, but after , my 4th go resulted in my little boy and my 5th go gave me twin boys! Just try and focus on the positives. My tubes were so blocked the fluid was affecting my chances.

Good luck x

[Hidden]

I had both my tubes removed due to hydrosalpinx and will start the ivf process next week when my period arrives.

The way I look at things is like this: sometimes you have a clear motorway, no traffic and you can get to your destination quick and easy. But sometimes, there are roadworks on the motorway and you need to take a longer, more complicated route but you will eventually still get to the same destination.

I am always thankful for alternative routes - for some people this is not always the case.

Your body is capable of holding a child, regardless of the route it takes to get there. You ARE able to do what women's bodies are meant to do. Xx

[cathy-martha]

Good to see that you are excited. Just try to remain positive in the whole situation. You will definitely see results. Since there are possibilities for you. So, you must not lose hope at all. Remain calm and have patience through this process. I hope you have an amazing journey. Good luck.

[sophie47]

Hey hey. Dearest, it is alright. you're stressing out too much. I know how hard infertility can be. I am going through it and I know how much it breaks us. But you don't have to stop trying. You are on the right track. Science has given us so many advancements. And it is up to us to make the most of it. Either you can cry your eyes out all day in bed. Or you can get up and help yourself. I just went through this phase. And now I am willing to give my best to have my baby. Be it any procedure. We are in this together. Cheer up. You are a strong strong woman.

[mazzda in reply to sophie47]

Thank you. Most days I'm fine. But we have now been refused ivf on the Nhs so now it's the worry of funding it before the endo returns. But we will find a way I wish you all the best x x x

[AJJ123]

I have the same issue, although my tubes are still there endo has destroyed them.

I’m having my first round of IVM in a few weeks and I have that to look forward to. Its not as though I could get ‘lucky’ one night either. I always hoped for a miracle where my tubes would miraculously recover and all would be well. But I have to face reality, the only way I’m getting pregnant is with a little assistance from the clinic ;).

Maybe I should have tried in my teens and had children then? I had my child in my mid twenties. By the time I hit 30 I was too far gone - savaged by endo 😢

To be honest, today I don’t care how I get there, I’m getting there and you will too with perseverance and determination.

Xx