Transfer cancelled. Gutted😭

[Ash2016]

I've just had a call from the embryologist to say that it's bad news and our transfer today is cancelled. When my phone rang I thought it would be good news with them pushing the transfer back to Tuesday. How wrong could I be?! Two of our embryos failed to divide and remained one cell. The third one divided to two cells and then stopped. They are going to keep them going til day 5 just to see if anything happens I guess to find out a bit more. We're both devastated. I stupidly never even considered this a possibility. I saw fertilization as my big hurdle but after that thought it would be ok. Numpty! Im going to stop taking the vagifem & cyclogest I'm on (unless anyone thinks I shouldn't). I wish I knew what I could do to make my body work! Xxx

[Rachael_]

So sorry to be reading this ash it’s heartbreaking i know its hard but just try and keep positive... alot can change in a matter of days hoping that one makes it for you .. could you not ring them back and ask for advice on stopping your medication also ... this journey is so hard theres so many hurdles to face and the amount we know about it all dosnt help matters , be kind to yourself hope you and your DH are ok x x

[Ash2016 in reply to Rachael_]

Thanks Rachel. We are both pretty stunned to be honest. Im not quite sure how to feel as never expected this. The clinic doesn't do phone backs on a Sunday so I don't think I'd hear back until Tuesday. The embryologist didn't sound positive at all and said they'd take them to 5 days as a favour (no charge!). I think it's safe to say it's over xx

[Rachael_ in reply to Ash2016]

😢 its so hard isnt it ... i can imagine it must be hard the build up to that phonecall is so stressfull in itself waiting to hear how they are i remember it well .... was this your first egg collection x

[Ash2016 in reply to Rachael_]

It was our second. The first we had two fertilise and put them both back in at day 3. Given we had more fertilise this time we were much more positive. Life can be so cruel sometimes x

[Rachael_ in reply to Ash2016]

😢 i really do hope things work out for you x

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I’m gutted for you. 😢

[Hidden]

Oh hun I'm so sorry this has happened. I'll still keep hoping for Tuesday. Do you still plan on doing the cycle in June/July? If so, I hope they can give you some advice for that cycle. Personally I'd continue on the meds until that call on Tuesday, just in case. If you need to chat, a shoulder to cry on, someone to scream at, you know where I am. Xxx

[Ash2016 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Mrs. Yep, we've got another planned in July so I am going to try and focus on that. It's a different protocol with different drugs so who knows x

[elle80]

I'm really sorry to read this! I personally think you should carry on with the meds, just in case! I hope it works out for you. Xxx

[Sezvic]

So sorry to hear that Ash2016, myself I got poor egg quality. Been told by my fertility consultant on Friday in my follow-up appt to consider donor egg. I’m going to try some supplement, then do a last round of ivf with my own egg. Then if it doesn’t work, I have to consider donor egg or accept I will never have children. Which clinic are you with? Take care of yourself.xxx

[Ash2016 in reply to Sezvic]

Thanks Sezvic. This cycle was with the lister. I can't fault them. We had a discussion about donor eggs this morning. I have always been quite against it cause I'm not sure how I'd cope with it; small things like someone commenting the baby looked me and things like that. But reality is a game changer. I think we are going to do some research on it now. We've got one more cycle coming up with my own eggs but i think it might be good to be prepared for the worst and have options. Good luck with your next cycle x

[Hidden]

Oh my love I’m so sorry. How awful. I don’t have much advice ( haven’t been through IVF) but I do agree with Michelle080 that you should continue with pessaries. 👍I really hope Tuesday gives you good news and you have a little fighter on your hands. 🐣Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻❤️❤️❤️ xoxo

[Ash2016 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you x

[KDA0510]

Oh Ash I’m so so sorry to read this. You never know how things can change. Fingers crossed for some better news on day 5 🤞🏽🍀💕

[Ash2016 in reply to KDA0510]

Thanks mrs x

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry Ash xx

[Ash2016 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

Im so sorry to hear this. Similar thing happened to us on our first round. 5 eggs collected all poor quality only 1 fertilised and the following day it disintegrated. My excitement for embryo transfer went out the window. The worst thing about it was that we drove past the hospital before we got the call and said "were coming to pick you up soon eggy"! Jinxed ourselves straight away. 😢 Its heartbreaking. Try to pick yourself up and treat yourself for a bit till you plan what to do next. I cried for a bit, bought a huge KFC and a large bottle of Baileys that afternoon to drown my sorrows as hadnt drank for weeks. Sending you Hugs hun xxx

[Ash2016 in reply to Hidden]

We plan to hit the beer garden later to drown our sorrows. Might as well make the most of the bank holiday sun x

[Hidden]

Terribly sorry. Sending hugs to you. Iv been there being told the quality is not old and they are not progressing well, so heartbreaking. Hang in there. You are stronger than you know.

[Ash2016 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks lovely x

[Lou7744]

I’m really sorry to read this. IVF is like a roller coaster for emotions. Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

[Ash2016 in reply to Lou7744]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry Ash!! Absolutely devastating and shocking 😢 I had the same thing but with a donor cycle in Barcelona. We flew out there so excited and hopeful and not one of the 7 embryos was fit for transfer...gutted beyond words. We go through so much to get to this point and so invested it’s so hard. Defo get out in the sunshine and have some drinkies, thinking of you xxx

[Ash2016 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks mrs, sorry to hear you've been through it too xx

[ClarabGlasgow]

So sorry to read this. How devastating. I remember the worry of this happening as I only got 3 eggs collected & was praying that I’d have one to transfer just to give me a chance and keep in the game . I did but it was a bfn so in some ways at least this saves you from the tww to find that our. Will you have to pay in full for this cycle? Great to have another one in July to focus on , just remember it just takes one good egg xx