Petrified newbie

[Dream27]

Hi all,

Waiting for a start date for IUI and feeling absolutely petrified. We’ve been ttc for around 6 years with no joy and started our fertility journey about 4 years ago. Hit quite a few stumbling blocks along the way which have prevented us starting treatment. Now we are getting closer to a start date I’m getting more anxious that it won’t work. I know I should be excited but I’m afraid to let myself feel anything. Is it normal to feel so anxious??

[destiny121]

Dont worry my lovely... all your feelings are so natural and i for one got terrible anxiety to the point i couldnt sleep. The thought of not knowing whether you will have a family or not is soul destroying. Try to take it step by step and take it all in your stride....

Ive learned to not over think everything and know one day soon it will happen.... good luck my love xxx

[Dream27 in reply to destiny121]

Thank you, I’ve been feeling guilty to the point of feeling sick for not being able to get excited. My friend keeps telling me to think positively but it’s hard when it’s been an uphill struggle. X

[destiny121 in reply to Dream27]

I totally get it.... you dont want to get excited over something that may not work..... however someone said to me once or i read somewhere ‘ if the outcome is negative you will be upset regardless.... so why worry in the beginning to then worry and stress even more.... so keep positive get excited as your taking the right steps’

[Dream27 in reply to destiny121]

Thank you x

[E_05]

Your feelings are totally normal and I think some of them are like a form of self protection especially when you’ve waited so long to get to this point. Try to take each day as it comes, It is okay to not always be super positive. Good luck x

[Dream27 in reply to E_05]

Thank you, I think that’s exactly what I’ve been doing. x

[daydreamer89]

Perfectly normal I had 4 rounds of treatment and never allowed myself to get excited because I knew the fall would be even harder ..my attitude was expect the worst and the best would be even more amazing. It's awful that we build up these negative barriers. It's a tough thing to go through, both mentally and physically but you will be just fine. Wishing you lots of luck xx

[Dream27 in reply to daydreamer89]

Thank you xx