Does the worrying ever end?!

[Ekjones86]

I can't help but feel so worried. I will be 7 weeks pregnant tomorrow and apart from sore boobs I feel absolutely fine?! I have my viability scan booked in for next Tuesday and I am driving myself (and my OH) completely mad. I'm trying so hard to stay positive but I'm so scared there will be no heartbeat. I've been doing clearblue tests every week to make sure my HCG is rising which it has but have read that this can happen even with a missed miscarriage? I almost booked myself in for an additional scan tomorrow at a clinic nearby but stopped myself last minute. They tell you all about the hormonal side of things in IVF and different emotions you will feel but not once do they tell you you need the patience of a saint 👼 lol!

This whole process is just so draining. Sorry for the rant. I just have all these feelings and anxietys bottled up and nobody else apart from you lovely ladies understands what it's like 😊

Hope you are all well and keeping more relaxed than I am 😃 xxx

[JenRoy]

I totally sympathize! I’m only just over 5 weeks pregnant. Minimal symptoms. Mainly cramping which feels like my period is on its way. Slightly sore boobs but not much.

And I’ve done a few tests to keep checking 😬

I’m trying to keep busy but whenever I think about it I think the same as you.

Worrying than I’ll have an MMC or ectopic etc etc.

There’s nothing we can do. I’m like a broken record to my hubbie! But...it’s normal to feel like this.

Just have to hope and stay positive. But it’s good to be realistic. Good luck with your scan. I’ve still got 3 weeks to go 😩xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to JenRoy]

3 weeks 😱 hopefully it will be the fastest 3 weeks you've ever known lol!

It's such a shame that we have to do this isn't it...was thinking today if it was a "normal" or "natural" pregnancy we would just be excited and looking forward to our 12 week scan! Wouldn't even have thought of MMC/Ectopic pregnancy/empty sacs etc!

All this worrying won't be doing is any good either...and won't change the outcome...

Fingers crossed for both of us 😊🤞🍀 xxx

[JenRoy in reply to Ekjones86]

My sister was a natural pregnancy and she was just as worried. It had taken her a while to get pregnant. I think everyone worries to be honest. I guess we just have longer to worry for as we test so early and have the awful 2ww as well!! Best of luck xx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to JenRoy]

I'm a natural pregnancy but iv had recurrent miscarriages one missed and it really does affect the whole process, if you've had any problems getting pregnant and losses it really does plague it with worry iv got my dating scan tomorrow and I'm absolutely crapping myself the sickness is back which doesn't reassure me at all because it's so bad I can't keep anything down I'm worried my baby isn't getting the nutrients it needs I'm already anaemic due to it. Sorry just needed to clarify that your right natural pregnancies are a worry too iv had so much heart ache these past few years. Hope you guys get through this I tend to take each successful scan as a milestone which keeps, me going for a while then the worry kicks back in. Good luck to you all

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[Ekjones86 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

So sorry I didn't mean to offend at all. I just know a lot of my friends that have fallen naturally (and quickly may I add with zero complications) seem to take it for granted that everything is absolutely fine from the get go.

Wishing you the BEST of luck for tomorrow. I really hope this works out for you 🤞💛 ! Xxx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Ekjones86]

None taken hun, just wanted to put it out there natural pregnancies aren't easy hun, I get what you mean regards zero complications. I'm the only one in my huge family that suffers with this and have little from them in fact no support, my only support is hubby and this site. Yes you really don't understand this journey until you've experienced it, my route would, have been ivf if I didn't clear my tubes myself but I managed to and I'm so greatful I did, because what I see you ladies go through really breaks my heart and those that know me know I have ultimate respect for ivf ladies.

Thank you hun I wish you all the best too when is your scan? Will be looking out for your update

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[Ekjones86 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Mine is on Tuesday...not too long to go now but long enough lol! Will keep an eye out for your update tomorrow 😘😃🤞 everything is crossed for you!! Xxx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Ekjones86]

Thanks hun, a few scans in Tuesday on here, good luck hun will be looking for your update

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[MHughes]

It’s totally normal to feel like that. I cried on the way into my scan today and throughout and afterwards too! Shattered now!! Try to keep yourself occupied with nice things or work or whatever. The time will then fly by. X

[Ekjones86 in reply to MHughes]

I will be exactly the same! Congratulations for your amazing results today. I bet you feel as though you have won the lottery!!!! I'm away with a friend this weekend which is great timing 😊 although we are off to Salisbury 😂 will be avoiding any "nerve agent hotspots" 😂 xxx

[Tugsgirl]

I had two missed miscarriages and my tests were very strong, so please don’t get too hooked on using them as sadly you are right about them being able to give false reassurance. As for your lack of symptoms, I had plenty so that’s no indication that all is well either. On the other hand my bff has had two babies and NO symptoms at all. I’m not telling you any of this to scare you. It’s so so hard not to worry. I think we’re all exactly the same and the wait between the bfp and first scan is a hundred times worse than the tww! I hope you have a wonderful scan on Tuesday and come away feeling really happy and excited xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you so much. No don't be silly you've not scared me at all its a reality that may be faced in a few days time. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that heartbreak. Really tough thing to get through after all of the trying. Especially when you want something so badly. Hope you're ok now. So sad how many of us have to go through this xxx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Ekjones86]

It’s been hard of course. It was our second due date last week and at the beginning of April it was a year since we found out we’d lost the first one. It’s even more cruel to see the heartbeats and see them grow to have it snatched away.

Please update us on Tuesday. I look forward to hearing your happy news 🤞 xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Tugsgirl]

I really do hope this all works out for you. You've been through enough and waited long enough for this now! I can't even begin to imagine how hard it's been for you. Sending you hugs 🤗

What do you think you will do next? Xxx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Ekjones86]

We’re aiming to do a fresh round in August (🤞) starting all over again 😞 but I’m ok. I have good days more than bad days now. I’m extremely sensitive about friends’ babies and being around pregnant women but I think most of us on this journey are. We’re getting married in 8 weeks tomorrow so that’s something amazing to look forward to 😊 xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Oh wow that's amazing! Congratulations! Definitely something for you to focus on and look forward to 😊 all ready to start your fresh round as newly weds 😊

I know exactly what you mean about friends/family and pregnancies. It's so hard to be around and I feel bad as I don't feel as happy for them as I should. It's all very difficult. I have everything crossed for you to have some good news by the end of the year 🤞😃 xxx

[Hidden in reply to Ekjones86]

I agree with Tugsgirl don’t get too hooked on tests. Save your money.

On my first BFP which ended in miscarriage I had absolutely no symptoms and on my second BFP I had absolutely no symptoms so I was worried for my scan. Then after my first scan which showed all was well I was going to the loo a lot and was a bit tired but other than that I felt totally normal. Everyone is different and unfortunately (for me anyway) the worry didn’t go away and I drove hubby made for 41 weeks 😂

I hope your scan goes well next week xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Hidden]

Ha ha!! I have a bad feeling I would be the same 🙈

I guess I just have to take the lack of symptoms as a bit of a blessing for now and be thankful I don't feel like crap! I am just far more impatient than I ever thought. I'm going to forget about the tests now and just focus on getting through the next few days 😊

Congratulations to you as well!! 😊 xxx

[Hidden in reply to Ekjones86]

Yeah definitely take it as a blessing. Also my clinic advised at 8 weeks symptoms can start to wear off as hormones balance out so if your boobs stop hurting don’t panic. I know I would of if they didn’t tell me xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Hidden]

Ah ok that's good to know...it would have been yet another thing to panic about 🙈 ! Xx

[S-Joys]

Totally normal! I'm now 17 weeks and while I am slightly calmer, I sometimes find myself worrying over the tiniest thing. I went into my 7 week scan crying as I was so scared, drove myself crazy waiting for my 11+3 week scan then ended up booking a private scan at 16+4 week as I just couldn't last until 20 weeks. It does get easier at each stage but I don't think the worry will go away until I have a baby in my arms.., then I'll have a whole new set of worries to be concerned with. Best of luck xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to S-Joys]

Oh bless you!! I'm so glad that everything is going well for you though 😊 must be so amazing seeing them grow each time you've seen him/her! Yes it will be a totally different worry when that baby is in your arms! But a magical one xxx

[Smang]

I get you! I’m six weeks and I feel completely normal asides from the sore boobs and that’s only if I push them around which I keep doing to make sure they are still sore lol...I keep testing as well once a week. I booked myself an eight week scan, so the next two weeks will be an anxious wait! Wishing the best for all of us on this journey xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Smang]

It's so difficult isn't it! Wishing you all the best for two weeks time 🤞😘 !

Try and keep yourself as busy as possible...i am having flashbacks to the way I was feeling in the 2ww! Lol xxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Smang]

Glad I’m not the only one prodding and poking at her boobs to make sure they’re still sore... think I’m probably making them sore by doing it but I can’t stop! My first pregnancy I knew I’d lost it the day before I miscarried as all my symptoms went completely and I didn’t feel pregnant any more so I’m constantly on hyper alert now, but have nausea and tiredness this time which I’ve not had before so I’m hoping it is a good sign.

[Ekjones86 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Definitely sounds good to me!!! Stupid isn't it lol we look for any tiny signs constantly! Am sat at work thinking "does this feel like a period pain? Is it all in my head? Is the smell of that toast making me feel sick or am I imagining it?"...it never ends!! Everything crossed for you 🤞😊 xxx

[Baileysmith]

I'm the same, I'm 5 weeks Friday and so temped to book an early scan for next week..

Good luck with your scan, I'm having one at 7 weeks due to having miscarriage in the past & having 1 blocked tube.. they've bought it forward 1 week!

Xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Baileysmith]

Wishing you the best of luck!!! Everything is crossed that this time is your time 🤞💛😊 !! The wait is agony! Xxx

[Hidden]

I'm feeling totally the same as you Hun... Even posted about being so afraid this morning! I've got my scan on Friday but don't want to go. I'm terrified of there not being a heartbeat too. I've never been so anxious in my whole life. I'm scared as have very mild symptoms but know I'm being stupid as with my last mmc my pregnancy tests were still showing strong positives & my boobs were still painful until around a week after my D & C! I hope all goes really well at your scan & your holding your beautiful baby before you know it xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Hidden]

Friday!!!! Oh I so hope that little bean is swimming about in there with a strong heartbeat!!! Please let us know how you get on on Friday. I will definitely be thinking of you. What time have you got it? I hope it's not too much of a wait for you on Friday 🤞🤞🤞🤞 xxx

[Hidden in reply to Ekjones86]

My appointment is at 10am but in the past the EPU have always left me sitting with all the happy pregnant people waiting for scans til well after my appointment time. I was going to go to my clinic but its abroad. I really wish the NHS had a separate area for their more worried / frightened patients as for me its awful if you get bad news. Fingers crossed this time it will go right ... Will let you know 😘 xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Hidden]

Oh god that's not good!!! I hope they don't keep you waiting too long. Take a book with you so you keep your eyes down away from all the happily pregnant women! When I was seeing the fertility specialist at the hospital that was in the maternity wing...was a bit of a shock at first! Xxx

[Autumnmoon]

Very best wishes for a great scan on Tuesday It's sad but so understandable how stressful everything becomes once struggles to conceive or pregnancy losses have occurred and impossible to find any words that can take that worry away but all we can do is hope and try to make life as easy as possible during the waiting times love to everyone going through this difficult journey x

[Ekjones86 in reply to Autumnmoon]

Thanks hun it all just plays with your head doesn't it! I have a lovely relaxing night planned tonight then away for the weekend tomorrow 😊

Hope all is as well as can be with you 😘 xxx

[Autumnmoon in reply to Ekjones86]

Well have a lovely time x

[Wishfully]

I’m 7 weeks today too & scan booked for Monday 🙈 So nervous! Hope all goes well for you too xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Wishfully]

Oh wow! Monday 😃😃😃 I bet you cannot wait! The nerves are mad aren't they. All these apps that tell you what stage your "baby" is at and i keep thinking "but what if it isn't?!"

Wishing you all the luck in the 🌍 for Monday 🤗 xxx