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So today I was admitted to the ward to have my Medical Miscarriage. Tablets were inserted about 12:30, cramping and bleeding had started by 2:30. Was definately not prepared for the amount of blood loss. The ward were brilliant and gave me my own side ward with commode, and hubby allowed to stay as long as he wanted. Around 4:30 I started with intense cramps and then really felt like I needed a poo. Out of shame of popping into the commode I quickly ran to the toilet right by my room and on pooing I felt something slip from me. I was gutted as had asked for any remains to be sent for chromosome testing but because this had gone down the toilet it was not possible. All pain then vanished and I was sat there thinking, is this it? I gave it a few hours and even a long walk round the hospital to then think all must be good and I could go home. Suddenly the cramps hit again, worse then before and I took the pain relief. The build up of pressure felt more in my bum area than uterus. The pain was getting really bad, and I as stood up from the commode I realised I needed to sit back down and on doing so passed something which felt quite large. I remember seeing that it looked quite white 😳 the nurses whipped away my commode and came back later to confirm it was tissue and that they can send it off for testing πŸ‘πŸ»

They've decided to admit me for the night incase I pass anything further and are going to get me scanned in the morning to check if everything has passed.

I really cannot fault the hospital/ward/nurses in any way, they have really looked after me today and made a situation I was petrified over far easier. My hubby has been amazing, and between all my tears, especially when the pain was bad he had my laughing at his stupid jokes and phrases. Love him to bits.

Normally the hospital won't admit if under 12 weeks but as we have had a joiner in all last week and up to today they allowed me to come in and I'm so glad they did.

Just hope everything has passed now and the scan tomorrow confirms. To any ladies reading this post who have to make a decision re treatment I have had both d&c and now medical management. Yes the d&c is far easier and quicker, but with the medical management the cramps do hurt, and there is a lot of blood but once it's passed there is no pain, and I can't put my finger on the exact phrase but there is something that just feels right in such a horrible situation in doing it this way and I know I have not caused any damage to my womb lining which was the main reason for picking this option.

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Tugsgirl

Hey. I’m relieved to read of how well you were treated, it must have been some comfort to you. And it was very good of them to admit you. You’ve done so well and been so brave. I hope you get some sleep tonight, you’re probably exhausted xx

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baby2016 in reply to Tugsgirl

Thanks Tugs, hardly any sleep but I'm not the best of sleepers! On the plus side I didn't pass anything else in the night so I'm hoping that fingers crossed it's all finished. Was yours finished within 24hrs? Other than bleeding xxx

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Tugsgirl in reply to baby2016

Yes I’d passed baby and placenta the same day, which was day after the bleeding started. Baby in the morning and placenta that same night. Although I had more severe cramping again the following night as I passed some small clots. I hope you can go home and get some proper rest xx

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baby2016 in reply to Tugsgirl

Thanks Tugs, I'm home now πŸ‘πŸ» albeit exhausted from yesterday and not much sleep. Scan showed everything has passed which I'm glad about and been signed off for 2weeks as mentally they think I need the time to now accept what's happened. Still bleeding really heavily so glad I'm not going back to work yet. Thanks for your honesty and support xx

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Poppy16

Just read your post and want to say how sorry I am that you have went through this today. Also I am sad for your loss. I know how hard it is. Physically and mentally painful for you. Please know you are in my thoughts. You are very brave. Hoping you get some rest tonight. You will feel weak. Rest plenty over next few days. You have been through so much. Sending you a hug. Xo

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baby2016 in reply to Poppy16

Aw thank you Poppy for your kind words. I have seen from your profile you have had a very hard journey too and sorry for your losses, however looks like you will have a rainbow baby with you very shortly 😊🌈 hope your doing well and please keep us all updated on when your special arrival happens xxx

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Poppy16 in reply to baby2016

Thank you. Yes I will certainly update when baby arrives. How are you today? Are you out of hospital? Xo

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baby2016 in reply to Poppy16

Just got out! πŸ‘πŸ» scan shows I have passed everything but looks like I'll have bleeding for a while, as my lining still looks really thick, bleeding a lot at the min so I've been signed off for 2weeks to mentally accept everything. Just exhausted but glad I can now start accepting and moving on. Def keep us updated 😊xx

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Poppy16 in reply to baby2016

Glad to hear you are out of hospital now. Just you rest plenty and be kind to yourself. Hope you get the support you need right now from close family. You will survive this. Take care and remember one day at a time. Sending you a hug.xo

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emu2016

Thanks for letting us know you’re ok. I can’t even comprehend what you’ve been through. Bravest warrior. You relax and take lots of care now. Sending so much love xx

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baby2016 in reply to emu2016

Thanks Emu, the nurse even wrote on my hand over, keep asking if she wants cups of tea πŸ˜‚ I had loads yesterday along with 9 biscuits πŸ˜† hope everything's going well with you, fingers tightly crossed for you xxx

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Looby25

I’m so sorry to hear this, you are being so incredibly brave! Sending lots of love to you! Look after each other x x x

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baby2016 in reply to Looby25

Thanks Looby xxx

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Dreamingofbaby

You are very brave what you have gone through. Def is painful n awful esp the last bit I felt. Glad u had medical staff and oh with u. How are u feeling. I felt a misfire if heart break but relief at same time that something I knew would b happening had and this could then mean I could start to move on. Expect a bit of continued bleeding but not as much

Take good care. Xx

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baby2016 in reply to Dreamingofbaby

Thank you dreamingofbaby. It's a wierd feeling after isn't it. Although I was crying when the 'contractions' were happening it was more out of sadness than pain, and I remember saying to my hubby, why do decent women have to go through all this to not even have a baby at the end of it?! It's just so wrong. As much as I was dreading it, i don't think it was as bad as what I thought it would be, and would def chose this option again (hope that never happens) but after my hubby left last night and I was lay alone in the room I realised in some wierd way that I had preferred this option as at least I had maybe sampled just a tiny sliver of what child birth would be like, and managed to deliver my bean no matter how small and I felt like it gave be some type of closeness to it all as well as closure. Does that make any sense to you??

Hope your doing ok xxx

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sending you so much love xxx

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baby2016 in reply to vic77

Aw thank Vic. Hope all is good with you xxx

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Flimzee

Well done on getting through this. I am glad the hospital staff were kind and supportive during this difficult time. Take care xxx

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baby2016 in reply to Flimzee

Thank you Filmzee xx

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Sunnysam91

This was very similar to me last year, they said it was unusual to start bleeding at the hospital 2 hrs after the tablets were inserted but seems you had it the same, its traumatic yes but I agree with you as I know I haven't risked any damage to the womb this way. Unfortunately I'm going through a natural miscarriage now which ended at 5w3d very suddenly and still bleeding over 2 weeks later. Life seems so unfair! Have plenty of rest and look after yourself, I'm sorry for you xx

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Autumnmoon

Sorry you had to go through the loss of your baby glad the staff caring for you were good hope you recover well and have lots of love around you x

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baby2016 in reply to Autumnmoon

Thank you autumnmoon xx

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Kathryn1984

I’m so sorry for your loss. I find out today if I am miscarrying. It’s truly awful, I feel so bad for anyone who has to go through this. I’m praying for us all, that we find the strength to go on. I’m so sorry for your loss and what you’ve been through.

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baby2016 in reply to Kathryn1984

Thank you Kathryn for your kind words and prayers. I will be thinking of you today, and as I replied in my post to you, please stay positive πŸ™ and hopefully all will be well with your little bean xxx

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Dancer84

You are obviously a very strong person- lots of love to you xx

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baby2016 in reply to Dancer84

Aw thanks Nona, and sending you lots of luck for your upcoming cycle. Lots of experience on this site for any questions you need answering xxx

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lianm8

So sorry you have had to go through this. Sounds like you have been well looked after. You are so strong. Thinking of you and your partner xxxx

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baby2016 in reply to lianm8

Thank Lian, definately been well looked after, more me that couldn't sleep with too many thoughts flying through my head!

Hope everything is still good with you and baba? Xxx

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lianm8 in reply to baby2016

That’s to be expected, you have gone through so much. Give yourself time to come to terms with things and hopefully you find the strength to give it another go xx

We are ok- still bleeding but have another scan on Friday. Xx

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baby2016 in reply to lianm8

It must be so worrying for you but seems like little one is doing just fine. I'll be thinking of you xx

Just wanted to send you some love πŸ’•Take care of yourself xxxxx

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Thank you Star xxx

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Princes14

You are so incredibly brave, I’m so saddened and sorry to read your story. You’re in my thoughts ❀️ Stay strong xxx

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baby2016 in reply to Princes14

Thank you Princes for your kind words and I hope your doing ok in your 2ww. I started walking everyday from January and was walking at least 25miles a week. During my 2ww I swiped from walking my fast paced dog to my slower dog and still walked about 5k a day but much slower than before. I firmly believe this round originally worked because I'd become healthier, lost weight and mentally felt right. It's exactly what I'll do again from next week. Sending lots of luck for test day xxxx

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Cinderella5

Im so sorry you've had to go through this! Sending massive hugs to you and hubby, thinking of you both!xx

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baby2016 in reply to Cinderella5

Thanks lovely, feel relieved today more than anything. Although about to currently go nuts at the alarm that's been going off constantly for 30mins now πŸ˜†hope all is good with you xxx

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Cinderella5 in reply to baby2016

Im so glad that you are feeling relieved and I hope you get some helpful information from it all, just take it easy! All fine my end thank you! xx

Sending you lots of love and hugs. Your post was so very brave. I hope that's the end of it for you now and you can get some rest and go home. Take good care of yourselves xx

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baby2016 in reply to

Thank you JoJo, and just sending you all the good luck vibes for your collection today! Hoping you get lots of mature eggs that in the next 5 days become top grade blasts! πŸ‘πŸ» don't worry about collection, I found it the best part of each cycle! Xxx

in reply to baby2016

Thank you. All done now and it was absolutely fine! Are you home yet? Xxx

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baby2016 in reply to

Yea home now 😊 how did you get on today? Xx

in reply to baby2016

Ah Good, I hope you're resting. Are you off work for a bit? We got 13 eggs today so we're off to positive start. Will find out in the morning if any have fertilised. So nerve wracking! Xx

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baby2016 in reply to

Brilliant news! 13 is a good number. Average starts say 75% should fertilise and then hopefully out of those 75%, 50% should then go onto blasts. Fingers crossed for the coming 5 days and then 2weeks!

Yeah I'm signed off for 2 weeks which I'm relived about xx

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baby2016

Oh SunnySam, I am so sorry to read what your currently going through and for what you've been through previously. This journey is so so cruel.

I hope your coping ok!?

For me once I see a bfp now all I think in my head is, right we are on the first rung of the ladder, and I know the next 2-3wks are my huge danger zone of which I'm yet to overcome. Miscarriage takes away all happiness and in a way niavity that people who have never had a miscarriage experience, and that's the part I hate most about how it changes us.

Sending lots of luck for your future and look after yourself too xxx

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Sunnysam91 in reply to baby2016

Thankyou and hope you're future comes true for you too.

It is cruel, I'm going to talk to the doctor at my clinic as we only have 1 more go left with 2 embryos and I'm going to talk over different meds or anything else I can do! I had a lot of stress at work after getting the last bfp and I knew I was pregnant then it's snatched away. Now it takes me a while to grt my body to normal it's like a constant slap in the face!

Still, we are women and fighters and we can only keep hoping for now

Xx

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baby2016 in reply to Sunnysam91

I hope your doc gives you some good advice. Have you been tested for NK cells?

Keep positive and keep fighting πŸ‘ŠπŸ» xx

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Sunnysam91 in reply to baby2016

We were given paperwork on the NK cells but I'm going to talk with the doctor first as it's hard to see positive I just think I've had all tests done and only found PCOS ,don't want to throw money away?! Then if they find a problem the answer is steroids so why can't I just go on those anyway- you know it's a lot to think about! X

I'm so sorry to hear of what you've been through. Glad you were well looked after. Sending you big hugs xxx

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Thanks Charlie xx

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7AVA

Goodness me baby2016 - you are very brave. Well done for getting through it and good news that they have something to test. I’m glad you were so well looked after by the medical staff and your lovely husband. Xxx

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baby2016 in reply to 7AVA

Thanks Ava xx

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Smang

Hi baby2016, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss and wanted to send positive vibes xx

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baby2016 in reply to Smang

Thanks Smang xx

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AS100

I’m so sorry for your loss 😒 You are both amazingly brave. Sending you love ❀️xxx

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baby2016 in reply to AS100

Aw thank you AS100 xx

I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. I’m glad the hospital looked after you well.

I hope something good can come out of this truly awful situation ; I hope they can identify a reason for the loss and a solution which gives you a better outcome next time xoxo

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baby2016 in reply to

Thanks Jess, how's things with you? Xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Awwwwww my love huge hugsπŸ’—

I'm really glad the hospital have treat you with such compassion, I'm also really sorry for what you've gone through it's heart breaking and the pain is horrendous I felt really ill when I had mine. Hopefully your resting now and the grieving process has begun. I hope you have lots of support hun. Remember we're all here for you, sending you lots of love and hugs πŸ’—πŸ˜˜

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baby2016 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv

All thank you 😊home now and signed off for 2weeks so hopefully will feel almost back to normal by then. It was hard seeing the scan and seeing nothing there today and that did upset me but least I know my body has done what it needed to and passed everything. Thanks again for your kind words xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to baby2016

Bless you, glad yourr signed off hun and remember if you don't feel ready after then get another drs note. Just spend time doing eating whatever you want, rest up my love. Here whenever you need to chat big hugs lovely πŸ˜˜πŸ’

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baby2016 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv

Aw that's lovely of you. Thank you 😊 and hope all is going well with you πŸ‘πŸ»πŸŒˆxxx

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to baby2016

Will find out Friday hun. Bless you πŸ’πŸ˜˜

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baby2016 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv

Keep us updated! Exciting times xx

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Squeak2

So very sorry for your loss, massive hugs lovely πŸ’• xx

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baby2016 in reply to Squeak2

Thank you Squeak xx

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Paris1-1

Baby2016, you are so brave!!! I cannot comprehend, what you have been through. Lots of love xxx

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baby2016 in reply to Paris1-1

Thank you Paris x

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Kezbag

I am devastated to read this lady. You’re being so brave and wonderful - sharing your wisdom and your strength even in what in the hardest of times. Life is so unfair and cruel. Sending you all the love in the world xxx

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