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Advice after BFP X🤗😪

We had our first ever BFP last night and this morning after our first ivf ICSI cycle. I was so excited last night and again this morning and then this afternoon I don’t know what’s happened!

I’m crying ... a lot... and I feel like it’s hit me but I don’t understand how I can go from feeling so excited as this is all I have ever wanted and after 4/5 years of speaking about it it’s finally happened, now I feel guilty for crying. I don’t know if it’s the fear of something going wrong or something is wrong with me.... just so confused 😢 xxx

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Hey hun I feel exactly the same. I feel I should be so excited! Which I am don't get me wrong but I feel so scared to. I keep expecting the worst to happen. I just want to enjoy this but feel the last 3 years has finally got the better of me and I feel scared!!! I don't really know is what advise to offer you because I can't even snap myself out of it!! Hopefully one day we will get there in a happier place and won't worry so much!! X

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Thank you, sorry you feel like this also but it is a little comfort knowing someone else understands and had experienced the same. I felt like I wanted to shout to the world I was pregnant now I feel like I don’t even wanna share it with the dog lol xxx

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Omg that's exactly me!! I feel like I don't want to jinx anything!! My husband has told me to start thinking more positive but I feel too scared to!! I guess we're just protecting ourselves. I don't even feel any different lol. The only thing is my heart keeps beating fast but other than that I have no symptoms, my boobs are mega flat lol x

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I haven’t felt anything different either I feel like I. Need to keep testing to check it’s still there I’m just so scared. I think it’s because it’s happened first time and I no we are extremely lucky but I just feel like it’s too good to be true xx

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I think i will keep testing until my OTD lol. I did call my clinic today but didnt have a reply back...I was hoping for a blood test. Hopefully we will get there, happy to keep in touch and see how your getting on! its so hard as other women who have a baby the natural way don't understand xx

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Exactly xx I can’t believe when I first joined this page you were the first person to message and reply to me now we have our BFP together x so pleased for you xx such a long journey keep me updated xx

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I sure will! Oh wow 2 years has flown by so quick, even though it dosen't feel like it lol. xx

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Hi Jade I think a lot of ladies on here will relate to this. After a mc last year I am driving myself crazy googling possibilities of mc after 12 weeks, 14 weeks, 16 weeks..... I am 14 weeks & we have only told our parents so far, I am telling my sister this weekend but I am hoping to keep it a secret until at least our 20 weeks scan (my family live in a different country so should be easy). I'm just terrified something will happen and it'll be such a disappointment. I am trying to stay calm at the moment and as the weeks go on it does get easier, but I have to admit I haven't been sleeping well. Hopefully it'll get better soon for all of us! xx

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Hi Lilli congratulation and you must feel relieved you are past the 12 week stage but I totally understand the googling.... why do we do it to ourselves m. I said to my husband that chemical pregnancies and missed or not miscarriages wouldn’t of even entered my head if we would have conceived naturally but because I know how much goes into ‘becoming pregnant’ and how involved we are with knowing all the ins and outs from our consultants you tend to overthink things. I’m already thinking about about my early pregnancy scan at 6 weeks 3 days with our clinic in 2&1/2 weeks and praying everything is ok xxx I bet your sister will be overjoyed with your news ! Xx

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I have to say that despite the worry, every scan I've had so far have been absolutely magical, so please do enjoy that wait no matter how hard that is. After every scan a small amount of worry dissolves, but I think I'll be able to relax only when I can hold them in my arms. I'm currently watching Vegas Baby on Netflix and the nurse on there says that being a mom starts from the moment you put that first ivf needle in, it's so true. I'm sure the worry won't stop as soon as your baby is born - that's being parents!! My midwife is great and knows my anxiety so is happy to book me in for extra scans when she can. My next scan is in about 6 weeks but I am low risk so hoping it'll be OK. I can't really give you any advice on how to ease the anxiety, but sometimes it's nice to know that many of us are in the same boat xxx

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Thank you so much just for taking time to respond xx please keep updating it will be great to see your journey through xx

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And the same to you, lovely - take care of yourself xx

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Give yourself time to adjust to your positive news. I was anxious and worried it would all end before 12 weeks but I am now 18 weeks and finally relaxed and can get excited about our baby. After going through IVF you are going to be more anxious. Don't feel guilty just feel how you need to feel x

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Thank you x makes a lot of sense xx

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