When to do ivf 2

[Kdixxy169]

So after the 1st ivf failed, they sent me a letter to say contact them after 2 natural periods which will be end of the month. Is this not too soon, everywhere I've been reading advises a six month wait between cycles?? Also I'm still so scared it will fail again I scared to go back....

[emu2016]

I think that’s about right. The most important thing is that it’s tge right time for you. Don’t feel you have to rush, unless it’s something you just need to focus on. We waited almost 10 months since our 7 week scan to starting injecting yesterday. But we’re more ready than we would have been in August last year. Those worries of being scared don’t go away; they’re natural. I announced to my husband last week I didn’t want to do ivf again; turned out it was all because I was scared. Try writing a pro/con list and see what list is bigger. And try and do something nice before you start next cycle just for you x

[Kdixxy169 in reply to emu2016]

Hi, pressure from family is not helping the situation. Due to my own faults of being extremely open and honest I told too many people about my conceiving problems and then shared everything with anyone that would listen about the course of IVF. This next time will be different though I'm not setting myself up for telling everybody it's failed. I still feel so much like a failure.... at the back of my mind I keep thinking what if it never happens ....

Thanks for replying you are right I do need to take my time and prepare and enjoy before staring again x

[emu2016 in reply to Kdixxy169]

Don’t allow pressure from friends/family to push you or hinder you in any way. We took a firm position after our last round and asked them not to ask. They could ask if we were ok; but not when we were doing it again. “You wouldn’t ask us when we were having sex would you?”. It’s nice knowing that just my bff knows this time round. And all you women! Haha.

You’ll always have those worries at the back of your mind until you come to terms with what will be will be and accept you’re willing to fight and for how long and maybe forever. I still have them; but you are not a failure. At all! x

[Emma04]

Hi, I did my second cycle after two periods and the clinic said it was entirely up to me. I have read different things from different clinics but I would say do you feel ready? That’s the most important thing. xx

[BrightonBelle85]

Hello, I am in exactly the same boat as you. Just had our first failed cycle last month. We had our follow up with the clinic on Monday which helped us decide how long we want to wait. Have you had an appt with them? We were given the option to go again after just one natural cycle but I really feel I need to wait a few months and get in a stronger place mentally again. We are looking at July or August I think xx

[Kdixxy169 in reply to BrightonBelle85]

Hi, no I didn't have a follow up appointment as my clinic said I didn't need one , I could have had one if I wanted but they said as everything went to plan except my two embroyos actually sticking it was just a waiting game. I don't think anybody friend or family know what it is like to go through IVF.

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I’ve never heard of anything as long as six months between cycles being recommended. My consultant will do another fresh cycle immediately if my frozen transfer fails, she said some of the normal wait is to allow the clinic to process paperwork etc! I know it’s slightly different in that I’ve had an FET but there will only have been one normal period since egg collection. She said it won’t affect my results, but they do like to wait 3 months after a miscarriage (as opposed to a chemical pregnancy) so your hormones will settle down. That’s the only wait they need at my clinic.

[Kdixxy169 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Hi, I didn't manage to get any frozen so I start from the beginning again also I ohss, not major but did have to take meds to help calm it down. I think I just need to take my time and not be rushed or pushed into it.

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Kdixxy169]

I agree that it’s about when you are ready. I only had frozen because we had to have testing- it’s round three and I had never had testing before. We had a ticking clock due to funding linked to my age, hence our hurry.