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Broken & Scared 💔

So I’ve been quiet on here recently, as I was too nervous to say much - we got our first ever positive 16th Feb!! Then at 7wks seen baby - all well with a good heartbeat!!

We booked private scan for y’day (9+5) as half way to 12wks!! There was no heartbeat & baby had stopped around 8wks!! 💔😢

We’ve got an emergency app’mnt at EPU this morning to discuss our options!! I just feel so broken & scared of what’s ahead!! 😢

We got our positive 1 wk after my 40th b/day - can’t believe I let myself think I was finally getting my happy ever after!!! How stupid!! 😢 xx

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I’m so sorry ❤️

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Thank u!! x

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Oh no..I am heartbroken to read this😢sending you do much love xxx

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Thank u!! Hope you’re keeping okay - positive vibes!! xx

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This is so heart breaking to read

Sorry you are going through this xx

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Thank u!! x

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Oh my goodness. I'm really sorry for you. I went through this in Jan, we found out at our 12 week scan that baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. I opted for medical management. I have had a natural misscarriage before & looking back at both, the surgery option was definitely "better" for me as I didn't want the pains & bleeding that came with a natural miscarriage.

They will go through everything & please take your time to choose what is best for you.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Please look after yourself.

Becky xxx

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So sorry to hear you’ve been through this also - so cruel!! We opted for medical management on Mon!! 💔xx

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I hope your doing ok? I realised I put medical management... but it was surgery I had. I thought it was the same thing!? Xx

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Doing ok-ish, thank you!! No problem - I guessed what you meant!! I actually called the hospital this morning and changed to surgery which will be early Tue am!! I just want it over with as little pain & bleeding as possible!! 😢💔

I hope you’re doing okay now!! xx

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Im so sorry to hear this. Heartbroken 4 u ,💔😢 xx

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Thank u!! x

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U are stronger than you think hun. Please dont let this definine you. U are an amazing woman to have came this far and u can be happy xxx

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Thank u!! x

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I’m so sorry for you both. Thinking of you x

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Thank u!! x

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I’m so sorry to read this, I experienced this last year and it’s heartbreaking knowing you’ve seen that perfect heartbeat. The hospital will go through everything for you, choose which you feel is best for you. Thinking of you xx

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So sorry to hear you’ve also been through this!! 💔xx

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Thank you, I hope you decided what was right for you and it wont feel like it atm but you will get through this. Only a message away if you need a chat xx

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Thank u - we’ve opted for medical management! Booked in on Mon!! Don’t know if that was right or should have gone for surgery - it’s so cruel!! 😢 xx

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It’s definitely the cruelest, i had medical management after my first MMC and then tried it again twice for my 2nd MMC but it sadly didn’t work so had to have surgery. I personally wanted to go through the process and for me seeing what was happening helped me process it in a strange way. Surgery is a lot quicker and not as much bleeding or pain but I don’t think there’s a ‘right choice’ - it’s completely unfair we’re even put in the position of needing to choose 💔xx

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Awww Leo. So sorry to hear this. Big hugs x

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Thank u!! x

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I am so so sorry 💔. Wish this journey wasnt so darn hard and cruel. Thinking of you and sending you a tight hug xxx

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Thank u!! x

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Oh no my love I’m so sorry to hear this. There are no words for this it’s cruel beyond belief. You’re not stupid to have hope- who wouldn’t get excited in our situation , after the first scan showing everything to be normal.

I had an early miscarriage at 4 and half weeks, I had to have a scan when I would’ve been 6 weeks, no content left. But I had bleeding so I knew my chances of the baby being ok were very slim- you had no reason to suspect anything was wrong. Must have been an horrific shock- I cannot imagine how horrendous that must have been,

Some of the ladies on here will have been through this type of miscarriage and will be able to advise you of the ins and outs. Mine was pretty straight forward as it was early- no intervention was necessary.

I truly am very sorry for what you are going through. xoxo

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Thanks Jess!! Yeah such a shock, no pain, no bleeding nothing - still!! x

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I’m so sorry. I’ve been there, twice. It’s devastating xx

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Thank u!! You’re so incredibly strong to have dealt with this twice - I can’t see the other side of this one the now!! 😢 x

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I’m five months on from the second one, eleven months on from the first one. It won’t be easy, in fact it’s incredibly hard but just concentrate on getting through one day at a time. You’ll never forget but it will ease I promise xx

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Oh. I'm so sorry this is happening to you 😢😢😢. It's so sad to experience this. I pray for strength for you to go through this.

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Thank u! x

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Im so sorry to read this! Sending love & hugs xx

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Thank u! X

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Oh no! I’m so sorry for you.

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Thank u!! x

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Hey u. So sorry to hear this. Imagine it so devastating for u. Am going through this at mo n heart breaking n cruel. Feels so unfair a. Def not stupid for having hope. We all have it. Keeps us going. U will get it again. I sure hope to when I get through this horrid experience 😐 take good care x

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Thank u and so sorry to hear you’re going through same thing!! It’s so heartbreaking!! 😢 xx

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You must stay strong, it’s heartbreaking to go through all those feelings. Sending you lots of love xx

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Thank u! x

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Ahhh this is so sad.... my heart feels for you at this sad time...sending you all my love x

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Thank u!! c

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Oh Leo I've been thinking about you but didn't want to pester you. This is just so heartbreaking I'm really sorry and heartbroken for you. Sending you lies of love and hugs xxxxxx

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Thanks Penders!! It really is the cruelest journey isn’t it!! Thank you - hope you’re doing ok!! 😢xx

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I'm so so sorry lovely I really think this is the worst thing ever it takes all the hope and enjoyment out of future pregnancies its such a cruel thing to go through I went through similar thing in November but didn't get a heartbeat just didn't develop enough but didn't come away naturally so I chose medical management. It's not pleasant hun neither of it is. I am sending you much love and hugs and if you need to talk we're all here,

P's your not stupid for having hope it's what keeps us going. Take good care of yourself

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Thank u so much and I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through this!! We’ve gone for medical management - going in on Mon!! So scared of what’s to come and wondering should we have gone for surgery!! 😢 xx

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I defo think the more natural you can do it is better just due to the small risks surgery does have scar tissue etc. Big hugs lovely thinking of you. 💗🤗😘

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Thank you all for your kind words!! This is just so incredibly cruel, just feel so broken & such a failure!! 😢

Just home from hosp we have to go back in for ‘medical management’ on Mon!! So scared of what’s in front of me!! Struggled to know whether that or surgery was best option!! 💔 xxx

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Bless u. This is very cruel indeed. There isn’t really a best option tbh. Just got to weigh it up and see how goes. Know can do surgery if medical management does not succeed.

I had to wait til another scan and am now naturally miscarrying before my scan 😩

Try to stay strong hun. Take good care of u. Go easy on u. Never easy at all. So unfair n awful. X

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Hunny so sad to read this, sending you much love ❤️

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I’m so sorry to read your news, that’s just awful. How heartbreaking for you both. I’m so sorry. Xx

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I have been there too, and the happiness is ripped away from you so quickly. It’s not fair I’m so sorry xxxxx

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This is very heartbreaking @Leo2017. I am so sorry to hear about this news. There is nothing stupid in thinking that you deserve happiness. You and all the women out there deserve all the happiness in the world. I know this is painful but you will eventually get out o this phase. Just do not stress yourself or burden your mind. These things happen to many people. It has become very common around the globe nowadays. I would advise you to talk to your other half first. Both of you need to be there for each other at this point. Consider your options at this stage. The world does not end here. There are several options out there. There is IVF and if you think it is not for you. Then you can opt for surrogacy. It has amazing success rates. After my husband's sister got the news about her infertility, I researched a lot. Turns out surrogacy has become the last resort for couples who can not conceive. You should consider it too.

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I'm so sorry this has happened to you there are just no words that can take away the heartbreak hope you have lots of love and support and happier times ahead x

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I'm so sorry for your loss. It's just devastating xx

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