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Baby not developing at 7 week ‘reassurance’ scan 😔

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Hi

I haven’t been on here for a while as I was in the amazing bubble of finally getting our positive result following ivf..

Went for our 7 week scan and the baby had not developed as it should. I knew something was wrong because they took so long to point out the baby.. then there was the word “unfortunately...”

It felt like someone had stabbed me in the heart. Uncontrollable pain.. nothing I’ve ever felt before.

I haven’t bled or anything and still have all the same pregnancy symptoms which makes this all so confusing. I’ve been told to wait to let ‘nature run it’s course’... just feels awful.

We tried not to get too excited about our positive result but still your mind wanders and dreams of what will happen in 9 months time.

I can’t really talk to anyone right now as it’s all too painful, but felt I could write down how I felt here.. xxx

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Kathy_t

Ah god I'm so sorry! Can't imagine how you must be feeling. Life is so cruel sometimes. Sending well wishes xxx

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Orla9298

I’m so sorry, this is so hard and I’m so sorry that you are going through this. Xx

Oh I'm so sorry to read this. I had similar last year at our 7 week scan when they couldn't see the baby. We had to wait a week to have a missed miscarriage confirmed. It was the hardest time of my life. I chose to have surgical removal as I didn't want to lose it naturally. You'll make whatever decision is best for you. I know it doesn't seem it in this awful time but if I can get through it then you can too. It will always hurt but you will turn a page and be able to get back to life and trying again if that's what you chose. If you ever need to chat to someone who's been there before feel free to pm me - sending you love and strength xxx

I'm so sorry, take care xxx

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Amanda86

So sorry 😟 take care xxx

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Penders

Oh Hun I'm really sorry. Sending you love and hugs xxx

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Cinderella5

I'm so sorry, thinking of you!!xx

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ClarabGlasgow

That is so upsetting for you I am so sorry to read this. I wish you strength through the coming weeks xxx

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Gem1982

So sorry to read this, I can feel your pain as I have also been through this. The moment you are told everything comes crashing down. I also didn’t have bleeding and found this very confusing. I went through all the motions, angry , sad and confused. Why had my body tricked me? I cried all the way home from the scan and me and my partner sat numb all night on the sofa in each other’s arms, we had no words and were just at a loss. The darkest hours do eventually pass and things do get that bit easier. I know it won’t feel like it. I am thinking of you x

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kumkums

I feel like crying 😢😢. It is a painful and deeply hurting situation to be in. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm a very optimistic person, let's just hope a miracle happens. I have been in a similar situation before and it didn't turn out well, but even with that I choose to have hope with you until we know it's over.

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AllWeNeedIsluv

😢So sorry lovely, just 💔 thinking of you 💗🤗😘

I’m so sorry. Lots of us on here know how you feel. It’s a terrible loss. Waiting seems very very hard. Sending you a big hug xx

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lianm8

I’m so sorry to hear this. Look after each other xxxxx

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Dreamingofbaby

So sorry to hear this. Know exact where coming from thou as in same boat. Had my scan Tuesday and was told baby not developed as shud. I was the same with the half planning when to tell ppl and re next steps but that is all shattered now. Having to go for a further scan tomorrow and prob next week too which is exhausting but necessary.

How u generally doing? It ok to feel whatever u are. Is so rubbish 😔

Here to chat via pm if want. There with u in same bit of not knowing what’s gonna happen next😣 xxx

Look after u x

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Sienna2

Really feel for you, had same last year stay strong it does get easier but time will be your healing xx

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Mantaray75

So so sorry. Look after yourself. Had a miscarriage myself a year or so ago. The sadness is always there but it does get easier, Just give yourself time to grieve. x

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Tugsgirl

Unfortunately so many of us know how you feel right now having been there ourselves, myself twice. A missed miscarriage is devastating because as you say, we’ve been in this little bubble of happiness believing that everything is well so it comes as more of a shock to the system. I’m so sorry for your loss xx

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Lou7744

I am so sorry to read this. It’s heartbreaking. Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

I'm really sorry.heartbreaking to read this. Sending you hugs.xx

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vic77

I am just so so sorry. .it is beyond painful...you are so brave to share and you will get lots of support here..sending you lots of love xxx

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SMoon84

Thank you everyone for your kind messages. I’m sorry if my post has brought back sad memories for many of you.

Woke up this morning crying. Just feel so empty.

Thank you all again. It’s helping just knowing I can speak to people on here xxx

I’m so sorry for your loss- I had one very early miscarriage last year and it’s so heartbreaking 💔💔💔 but I had bleeding so I kinda knew I’d lost the baby but you didn’t it must have been a terrible shock to you both. I’m so sorry, such a horrible thing to go through. It will get easier with time promise xoxo

I know how heartbreaking this is. Take time to grieve. So sorry xx

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RidleyNL

Oh god... Devastated for you. 💔 I miscarried natural pregnancy a couple of years ago (utterly hideous) and it’s something I dread being the outcome of our IVF journey too. It’s so heartbreaking that the chances are unfortunately quite high when you’ve been through SO MUCH to get to that point already. You are not alone in this forum, and we are all here to support you. I’m so very sorry this has happened, please be kind to yourself through this bit, sending you love xxx

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Telford1

So sorry to hear that. Take your time to get your head around things. Sending you lots of strength and best wishes. Xx

I'm so sorry to read this devastating news. Take good care of yourselves. xx

I'm so sorry, sending you huge hugs at this difficult time xxx

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stham8

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I also went through the same and I can totally relate to the pain you're in. Sending you lots of hugs xx

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